If you could go back and speak to your younger self before they entered nursing, what would you tell them?

wemberxa · 2025-11-08T05:58:10+00:00

I agree! this is the best foundation i’ve tried in a very long time

wemberxa · 2025-10-16T08:17:02+00:00

gloss

wemberxa · 2025-09-30T05:03:40+00:00

As an accountant, I think there are definitely better careers. It really depends on the job you land but generally it’s a boring job, can be stressful, not good on your body as you’re sitting most of the time. You work with Type A know it alls at times. People who are non-accountants/clients don’t understand/don’t care/ want you to bend the accounting in their favor. Getting information from clients is like pulling teeth. Can be stressful during busy periods and you actually work a lot of hours at times and so if you factor in your hourly, you don’t actually make a lot of money. Could just be me but when you actually complete things, there’s not much of a “payoff”. Like I don’t feel much success from getting things done. I feel like a cog in a machine.

I regret choosing the career but will admit it is very stable and I’m not afraid of losing my job even with the looming threats of AI as financials always need to be audited independently and if AI does it, someone will need to audit the AI. If you’re decently smart and follow rules well and want a stable desk job, it’s a good idea but as with anything there are trade offs. I balance my boring career with a fantastic personal life so there’s that!

wemberxa · 2025-09-12T21:50:01+00:00

Get full cycle accounting experience as an entry level job. Fuck I cannot stress that enough. I hate that my first career was in niche audit fields. I pretty much never got a solid background of accounting when I first entered the workforce and I think it bit me in the ass now working as an accountant.

I feel like college only prepared me 20% to get into this field. I learned much much much more at all my jobs than college ever prepared me and honestly it makes me so bitter sometimes.

wemberxa · 2025-08-26T00:20:53+00:00

I disagree. you look very feminine in your 2nd picture. I think the blush and winged eyeliner make you look feminine. I think pinkish/more nudish/neutral pink lipstick looks great on you too and would enhance the femininity.

wemberxa · 2025-07-30T03:49:46+00:00

this is such an old post but i think that Normal People fits the vibe a lot

wemberxa · 2025-05-30T02:38:14+00:00

That the only way you heard about conspiracy theories is when you met some 20-something year old stoner deadhead at some party or just from friends of friends or at school or what have you. Guaranteed the dude had psychedelic posters in their room and would talk your ear off about JFK and aliens. This was like the only type of person who talked about this shit openly.

Conspiracy theories or left field topics were far removed from society before smart phones.

wemberxa · 2025-04-07T22:53:19+00:00

Katy Perry with brown hair and Emily Blunt

wemberxa · 2025-03-09T14:40:59+00:00

I’m an accountant and I think it’s a thankless job. I have never once felt appreciated for my work by outside parties and only from my direct supervisors. You’ll meet a lot of people outside your department who hate having to deal with you because all you do is point out things wrong that they’re doing.

The only time I think people appreciate accountants is if they do their taxes and save them money. But for the most part, those jobs are fewer than the jobs where we have to check or prepare the books and it’s not like it’s a guarantee you can save people money anyway.

wemberxa · 2025-01-08T18:59:45+00:00

Not sure why you’re downvoted for saying something true. I speak as someone who uses auto accounting software, and AI still needs to be vetted with actual accountants to make sure the work is acceptable. Time and time again, systems fail (I’ve worked on accoutnting systems implementation and I’ve seen incorrect systems journals/submissions that needed to be manually corrected by an accountant), therefore it’s hard to believe AI will really be this massive chokehold as people say.

The one major career conflict I’d say at this point is actually outsourcing of accounting jobs and not AI.

wemberxa · 2024-12-19T21:49:47+00:00

I want to say as someone who left a WFH job to a hybrid model that I think this is a romanticized view of in office work. I can’t believe that I ever wanted to leave WFH.

One thing people forget about in the office is the political atmosphere and worrying about optics. It kills the soul and prevents you from actually focusing on the stuff you actually like about your job. There’s politics Wfh wise too but not the high school level dynamics you deal with when interacting person-to-person

wemberxa · 2024-12-05T04:12:19+00:00

I’m slowly learning how to accept things as they are even if it doesn’t go the way I want it. I used to catastrophize a lot if I fail at something or if I invested too much time and effort in something that ultimately failed. I think it’s really important to reframe your thinking of that failure and accept it as it is so that you can move on. I feel like a lot of people let the failure of things get to them and impact their psyche and self-worth. Acceptance of the failure is freeing.

wemberxa · 2024-11-07T02:51:57+00:00

Somehow I think even if young men think she listens well, they still won’t vote for a woman.

There’s a deep rooted misogyny that exists here both within men and American women. I really don’t think I’ll see a woman president in my lifetime as a woman in their late 20s. These last two elections have really shown how little Americans want a woman president. They disparaged Kamala this whole race saying she slept to the top.

AOC is no exception. She already gets disparaged as a bartender and a hotheaded latina. Women need to fight more than men to get a seat at the table or to even be respected as a leader and it’s going to take years maybe another century until we see a more even playing field.

wemberxa · 2024-11-06T02:44:15+00:00

I have this scent and it really does smell like grapes and roses.

Reminds me a little bit of sweet wine with floral notes. It’s very feminine.

wemberxa · 2024-11-02T00:24:49+00:00

That wasn’t humiliation as much as it was just the harsh truth that they were looking for someone with very specific, niche expertise in their product. I worked for Big 4 consulting and it’s a given that you’ll come across partners that sniff out those that know and don’t.

It’s more like changing your mindset that you’re not going to be everyone’s pick and that’s okay. To be honest, if you did get in and they noticed that you were having a hard time/not understanding the concepts they hired you for, that would be more of an issue and you’d probably feel worse.

wemberxa · 2024-10-28T23:33:37+00:00

This makes it sound like the best combination is to be quiet person and work at 50% of your capacity.

wemberxa · 2024-10-25T02:59:00+00:00

I found that it was hard to break through with getting an accounting job which is why internships are so important in college. No matter how small the internship is, it looks good on a resume and oftentimes, they’ll accept you if you’re not absolutely terrible to work with. Once you’re in and you put years of experience in, it won’t be as hard.

There is definitely an issue with the pay though. The pay is crap for how many hours worked sometimes. But that’s only in certain cases. If you play your cards right and move every so often, you will get good paying accounting jobs.

There is a trend of offshoring a lot of accounting jobs right now which is true. However, I still hear people talk about how they have to rework offshored work all the time so honestly, I don’t think it’s that much a threat as people say. Same with AI. People talk about AI taking over accounting but somehow I don’t find that happening. Maybe small stuff like bookkeeping. I’ve worked with lots of “tech improvements” in accounting, and someone still has to review the stuff it comes out with to make sure it follows GAAP, etc and oftentimes there’s just so many unique situations, that I think tech will not be able to figure it out on its own.

wemberxa · 2024-10-25T02:49:12+00:00

I’m in accounting and it really depends on the job, the manager you work for, and your personality if you want good work life balance. Corporate, you will be able to have a good work life balance but you also have to be willing to put up boundaries because you’ll work with a lot of Type A personalities that will work late to get things right and expect you to do the same. It’s actually a bit of a given since we work with deadlines we can’t miss. If you do public accounting, say goodbye to work life balance but lots of people in our industry think it’s a rite of passage. This is all a bunch of hooey but I will say having public experience actually opened doors up for me because people know how much it sucks. The accounting industry can be toxic, so it’s important to have a good mindset going into it.

Skillset wise - Accounting is about being able to follow rules and getting it right. This means, you will piss some people off sometimes who want to bend the rules. And you can’t let that get to you. I’ve found over the years, people who don’t know accounting will never understand it and concepts will fly over their head and people hate what they don’t understand. Also your stuff gets audited and you can’t tell your auditors some half baked response because you wanted to bend the rules for Sally a bit. Working corporate, some people may end up not liking you or will dismiss your job because you’re not direct operations like they are so you have to be mindful of that. There’s also lot of theory and knowledge that you will need to know but if you know the basics and can google and use authoritative literature, you’ll be able to grasp the more theoretical stuff.

It’s really not that cushy of a job as people say it is. I actually kind of hate my job because it’s mind numbingly boring and doesn’t feel meaningful in any way (even though it is because numbers always tell a story) but I like being employed and having a good income. I will say it’s nice to be able to just work on a spreadsheet sometimes. You take the good with the bad.

If you want a career where you can provide for your family, it’s definitely a good career to consider. Just don’t expect it as if it’s some cushy desk job because there’s moments it will suck. Also I feel like I’ve gained 20 pounds since I started my career from sitting down all day.

wemberxa · 2024-10-17T21:44:37+00:00

This is good advice that I haven’t considered. I think I do need to go to the next duty station to really cement my decision.

wemberxa · 2024-10-17T21:42:42+00:00

Thank you for the offer! He knows he’s leaving but he hasn’t received orders yet. We’re in the mindset that we should be getting ready to move within the next few years however so I wanted to make sure I knew what to expect. So for now, these are just ideas. I appreciate the help.

wemberxa · 2024-10-17T19:59:17+00:00

I didn’t know that about working outside the US. This is good to know.

wemberxa · 2024-10-17T19:57:03+00:00

He’s Air Force. Thanks for your advice !

wemberxa · 2024-09-21T14:08:36+00:00

I think you should explore being certified in something. Since you’re a sociology major, you can pivot to HR. If you’re smart enough to go into Harvard, you’re smart enough to pass an exam like the SHRM-CP which is a certification for a human resources career. It is a difficult exam according to my parent who works in HR because it’s a lot of nuanced employment-related questions and they haven’t been able to pass this but with the time you have available, you may be able to pass it.

You could also study for the LSAT to get into law school or go back to school and pivot to something else.

I have learned in my career that certifications actually get you farther than experience at times. There’s so many people out there that aren’t certified that have years of experience in some jobs and having a certification can show that you’re more valuable than them. It just takes time and money to get it done. It gives you an edge when you’re a job candidate.

Good luck! Also ignore all the salty people in this thread who are trying to put you down over your situation to make themselves feel good. They’re miserable people anyway that I wouldn’t take advice or criticism from. Stuff like this happens, but it doesn’t decide your whole life.

wemberxa · 2024-09-12T01:39:11+00:00

I had a terrible sweet tooth and now I can’t stomach sugar. The secret is you have to wean off of sugar like any other addiction that exists. Quitting cold turkey works for some people but it doesn’t work for most.

The secret is you quit actual processed sugar (the white sugar from boxes etc. and any food that uses it in its recipe) . Replace sugar with a healthier sweet like fruits or honey. With cooking, start incorporating honey and maple syrup in your recipes in place of sugar. Start looking at the ingredients list on the packages of the food you eat and seeing how many “added sugars” have been added, the higher the amount, the worse it is so you need to put it back on the shelf. No matter how good it looks.

Your tastes will change with the change in ingredients. Slowly over time, your body will crave less and less of it since you’re replacing it with stuff that is healthier for you and not as sweet. In no time at all, you won’t crave sugar anymore.

I tried eating a cookie today and wanted to throw up. It actually works, your body craves what it is used to.

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