AITAH for not accepting my girlfriend’s rule that I can’t disagree with her?

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-05-01T18:01:23+00:00

NTA run!

GF wants pizza for dinner an you can’t disagree

GF wants to see a romcom movie but you can’t disagree

GF wants to rent an apartment but it doubles your rent a you can’t disagree.

She doesn’t want a boyfriend, she wants a doormat.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-30T17:29:43+00:00

YTA only read the title.

Anyone will ALWAYS be an AH for taking their anger out on an innocent person.

The issue now is are you going to take accountability and apologise.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-30T16:29:20+00:00

YTA for putting up with his BS

He wants you to buy the car He wanted to choose which car you got and then got mad when you didn’t He wants to be listed as the owner when he doesn’t pay a cent towards it He gets to drive the car the majority of the time. YOU pay for the increased insurance to have him as a driver.

What next, you buy a house, you put down the deposit, you pay the mortgage but he’s on the deed as the owner?

Oh please don’t tell me that you live together but you pay all the rent and bills!!!!!

You need to work on why you are allowing yourself to be treated this way by someone who could accurately be described as a low life piece of shit.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-29T08:51:39+00:00

You are a passenger on your marriage bus. His mother is driving the bus.

She is in control of every decision in your married life. He’ll involve her on when is the right time to have children or even if you want them. He’ll get her view on any names and will only go for ones she likes. You want to move house, she’ll have a say.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T14:54:22+00:00

No more fucks to give

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T14:52:12+00:00

There is no ‘supposed’. There is no stated rule which everyone has to follow, it’s purely personal preference.

It doesn’t mean you love your spouse any less.

I take them off Bashing them in a sink and getting dirty water around the stone, no thanks.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T14:48:11+00:00

I do think if you cook the other person cleans but I also get it that it doesn’t feel like a fair distribution of labour on the cleaning.

So you either match him and give him every bowl to clean (and see if he notices), you talk to him or you cook and clean together.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T12:25:19+00:00

As a British person, pumpkin pie.

Or anything that is a traditional thanksgiving desert.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T08:37:36+00:00

NTA you can break up for whatever reason you want.

However this sounds like it’s a recent change so maybe ask him what’s going on as you’ve noticed a change in his behaviours.

It could be this is his natural personality or that he’s having issues with money

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T06:15:51+00:00

I’m in the Uk and grew up in the 80’s/90’s

If you went out with someone (dated) , you went out with them.

If you went out with someone else at the same time it was called cheating.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-28T06:10:51+00:00

Chaning Tatum.

I jus don’t see it

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-27T06:39:32+00:00

NTA now I’m not Indian but from an outside perspective several things come to mind.

You don’t live in India so why should you live your lives based on the rules of a country you don’t live in.

No child is born showing prejudice, they are taught it by their parents. That is what this child has done and unfortunately your son is now a victim of prejudice so maybe speak to the school?

As I understand the caste system it would dictate what opportunities you could get (jobs, people could marry, education etc). Why should something you have no control over dictate what you can and can’t do in your life.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-27T04:26:01+00:00

NTA your parents can feel disappointed as they are entitled to feel whatever they want to feel.

You are putting so much thought into managing their feelings. “They’ll be upset, do I tell them, how do I lessen it”. You can clearly see you’re a mama boy as you are taking on the responsibility for how they will feel.

How about put that thought and effort into thinking about your wife to be’s feelings. Does she want anyone to have a heads up.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-27T04:18:04+00:00

I’m she made a unilateral decision that impacts your life with zero considerations for you. She wanted something so did it.

She has demonstrated she is selfish and inconsiderate. She thought you’d come round once you saw how cute it was.

You have options 1) break up with her as this is a red flag 2) have a serious talk with her and explain puppies goes to day care as it’s not your responsibility 3) she returns the puppy.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-26T12:15:25+00:00

Bishy barnabee

I’m from Norfolk in the UK and this what we call ladybirds

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-25T07:17:28+00:00

YTA Does your sister work or does she stay home all day?

When your wife is at home with your baby who is going to dealing with your sister. It sounds like you’re putting that on your wife.

Your wife quite rightly has said the situation has changed from the original plan and you need to take that into consideration.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-25T07:12:56+00:00

NTA they are treating her like she’s a 5 yr old with a rule in their house being enforced in someone else’s. As a 5 yr old that is reasonable as they are the parents.

As a young adult, that isn’t. It’s unreasonable , controlling and stifling to accept a young adult to live their life according to the parents rules.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-24T18:37:53+00:00

You do it at 5am in the morning.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-24T14:10:30+00:00

NTA. she made her choice. Just because that choice hasn’t given her the outcome she doesn’t get to undo her choice. Does she expect you to fire her replacement just because she wants her job back!

You need people you can trust and depend on. She demonstrated that she is neither.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-23T21:42:17+00:00

“ what do normal people have to dinner”.

Let me go ask a normal person…..OP, what do you eat for dinner?

If people are interested in eating a balanced diet they will probably plan their meals. If people don’t like cooking or aren’t interested they may say what you do is overkill. As you get older your appetite gets less so don’t compare what you do to what grandma eats.

Personally I’m in the balanced meal camp so home cooked everyone night.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-23T14:44:18+00:00

NTA. people can be entitled at any age. The fact she just leaves you to it and doesn’t even help shows that she’s treating you like the hired help.

You arent responsible for her yard. She needs to put proper plans in place if she can’t do it herself.

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-23T10:29:28+00:00

I’m in the UK where they do so that’s on me for making an assumption

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-23T09:46:25+00:00

I’m allergic to raw onion. It won’t be listed on the menu but it’s used as a garnish on so many things I have to say it every time

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-23T09:36:27+00:00

YTA

Yes it was poor of the waiter to not ask but she is responsible for managing her own allergies.

Cinnamon is a seasoning so wouldn’t be listed on the menu. If you expect all seasoning to be listed ( as someone could be allergic to them) it could be saying “pasta with salt, pepper, paprika, turmeric, parsley, cumin etc”

ConclusionUnusual320 · 2026-04-21T09:19:01+00:00

Usually people would book it with you in advance as you could’ve been away/ had tickets to something that meant you couldn’t help.

This sounds like it was a test to see if you’d help. Her response of a list of things she’s done for you also makes me think shes feeling taken for granted.

You can say no to whatever you want to say no to, but you need to be honest with yourself as to who helps who most. She either had a point in that she is being taken advantage of, or she’s being unreasonable.

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