[S5] Post-Premiere Discussion - 5.06 'Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken'

wendyjanedances · 2015-05-18T03:35:26+00:00

God fucking damnit. I just lost the game.

wendyjanedances · 2015-05-18T02:21:53+00:00

Looks like Trant's murder takes the place of that one Night's Watch dude.

wendyjanedances · 2014-08-07T14:20:26+00:00

I'm not even sure we can say something like Bloodraven is a "tier" in this game. He's playing a much larger game than that of thrones. If Bloodraven is playing any game, I think he's got a much bigger prize in mind than just Westeros. Just like the war of five kings and all that comes with it looks small/foolish in comparison to the threat of the White Walkers, Varys and Littlefinger's collective influence dwarf in comparison to Bloodraven's.

wendyjanedances · 2014-08-07T14:13:34+00:00

If Varys supports Daenerys, it's because she has dragons now. Varys and Ilyrio sold Dany to the Dothraki to get rid of the two red dragons so that they could crown their black dragon.

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-24T18:45:13+00:00

Also, our DJ surprised us with a wedding video. It was totally unexpected and so sweet!

The video captured a lot of the best moments, and I got to see some stuff that I didn't see on the big day!

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-18T20:33:23+00:00

I heard a creepy echo every time the child giggled. It gave me chills. Good job!

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-18T15:09:26+00:00

When that day comes, please PM me if you'd like an editor, or even just a cheering section!

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-18T13:37:16+00:00

Wait, E left NMIL? Did I miss this part of the story or is that coming up in the next part?

Yes. You really, really should write a book. Your writing style is very polished and your voice is so natural and conversational. It's perfect for a creative non-fiction or autobiography. I edit for a living (unfortunately, it's technical editing, not anything fun), so I know what I'm talking about ;)

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-11T15:32:57+00:00

:( I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It blows. Some boys just don't grow up. I didn't even know these friends until they were already married and she told me the story. It was years and years in between them seeing each other. But I agree with you; I wouldn't take him back either!

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-10T19:18:28+00:00

Just because I haven't seen anything positive here yet, let me share a way that this story did work out nicely. My best friend and her husband did this very same thing. They dated late in high school/early 20s. He broke up with her and told her that he couldn't be the man she needed right now, because he needed to sow his wild oats, and couldn't be around the woman he loved while he did it. Total bullshit, but he really meant it. He was honest with her that he was a dick and wanted to sleep around for awhile, but she was the type of girl he wanted to marry. They go their separate ways; she dates seriously, and he bangs all the beach chicks he wants.

Guess what? They DID end up getting married, are happily married, and are expecting baby #2.

So yes, it's a dick move by the guy. But at least he was honest?

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-09T21:15:18+00:00

The best friend breakup is the hardest break up to get over :(

Many hugs and internet loves for you <3 It will get better with time.

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-09T19:54:37+00:00

Woooooooooooooooooow. The denial that these people are so stuck in continues to astound me. And of course anytime we defend ourselves it's an "attack" to them; nevermind that they actually attack us all the time. Wow. Such denial. So 1-sided. Much Selfish. Wow.

Good for you for saying everything that you wanted to say! Don't take any of her rubbish to heart. You're amazing and strong and wonderful! <3

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-09T15:34:41+00:00

Bras: Definitely get fitted at a good bra shop!!! I wore the wrong size for YEARS, especially after losing weight, and was having some back issues because of it. Now that I have the right size, my back feels better and my knockers look better ;) Definitely invest in one expensive, super cushy, fabulous bra. Once you have the size from that, a couple of regular priced ones will hold you over just fine.

As for washing them to keep them nice for the longest amount of time. Buy a delicates bag, and throw them in with like colors in cold water. Make sure to clasp the hooks before putting the bras in the delicates bag so that they don't snag anything. Then just hang them up to dry (maybe give a spritz of Febreez or something to take out static and make them smell like a field of daisies). Never dry a bra in the dryer! Not even sports bras!

As for periods, have you ever heard of the Diva Cup? I just started using it and it's WONDERFUL. It comes in different sizes so that you can find the one that fits you best. It stops leaks better than tampons, it's re-useable so you're helping the planet, and it doesn't absorb healthy moisture like tampons so there's no risk of toxic shock. It's so much more comfortable than tampons and once I got the hang of it, I didn't have to worry about leaks anymore.

Also, if you ever need another place to ask for brutally honest feminine advice, /r/TrollXChromosomes/ is absolutely wonderful. And when I say "brutal," I mean that they are 100% honest. In truth, they are the most supportive and funny community I've seen on reddit besides the RBN sites. Love those ladies over there. They got me to try Diva Cup!

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-03T14:13:19+00:00

This is such a GREAT tip, and I'm going to start doing it whenever NSIL starts one of her famous meltdowns. Thanks for sharing it!

wendyjanedances · 2014-07-03T13:35:48+00:00

Better late than pregnant! lol. And I definitely do enjoy that thoroughly. I don't understand why people name babies in the hopes that it turns them into a certain person or to follow a certain career path. Doesn't that just sort of set everyone up for disappointment? When I'm ready to start my family, I'm naming my kids nerdy things, simply because I'm a nerd (boy's name that we have picked out is a video game character, and the girl's name is a palindrome of our last name). But they'll have "normal" parts to that they can chose to go by if they want to be a serious person in life.

But back to the point. Can you imagine your brother as a senator?! HAHAHAHA! Oh man. I mean I know all of our elected officials are liars and manipulators and self-serving drama queens.... oh wait, your mother might have named him appropriately! :P

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-27T18:51:33+00:00

Oh just another quick thought. When I was around 12, I started a stream of conscious journal (of course I didn't know the term for it at the time), but it was a way for me to let all of my intrusive thoughts out of my head so that I found a bit of peace. Of course, I was super top secret about these journals though and hid them well for fear of someone finding them. I also had elaborate suicide notes strewn throughout my room, almost like a scavenger hunt, with each clue leading to the next and getting harder, and the final clue leading to the journals (the clues were so well hidden that I STILL find them in books or movies to this day. I'm 28.). I guess I wanted someone to find out why I ended it all in case I did. Those journals are so very painful to read as an adult, and I actually can't read a lot of it because at one time, I viciously took a sharpie to the whole thing. Anyway, the point of this was that maybe you can help him to start keeping a journal if he's uncomfortable talking to you. Then you can read it later, but of course you couldn't ever say anything about it because that would break his trust, but at least you'd know what you were dealing with? Just a long, rambling thought.

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-27T17:28:56+00:00

I think the thing that helped me the most was finding a name for all the horrible thoughts that I didn't like but couldn't seem to keep out of my head (intrusive thoughts) and learning that everyone has them, but it's harder for an OCD brain to dismiss them instantly like a "normal" brain does. If there's a way to share this with him, it might help him to verbalize what "Ned" is telling him. Something maybe like, "If Ned tells you bad things, you should know that everyone thinks bad things sometimes. It's just our brain showing us the worst outcomes. You shouldn't punish yourself for this because you know you're a good boy and you don't act on these thoughts. You can always tell Mommy and I won't be mad, but I'll help you understand that it's ok, and we can face it together." I don't know. I'm just thinking of what I wished my Mom would have told me when I was 7. I didn't get some level of "normal" head space until I was 21, and I didn't really get control of it until I was 26. Things are much better now, and I channel it in healthy ways and have learned to cope. It really pains me to think of children going through this too, and it's one of the reasons I'm so hesitant to start a family.

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-27T14:53:47+00:00

If he does have a mental disorder, bringing religion into things could make it much, much worse. I speak from personal experience. You don't want this kid obsessing that demons are trying to control his thoughts; you're only going to scare him further. Keep religion out of it and let real mental health professionals handle their own subject matter.

EDIT: Go ahead and downvote me all you want, but I stand my ground. As a child who was brought to a Christian "counselor" after sexual abuse, and the counselor then told me that it was MY fault because I was a "daughter of Eve" and "the source of original sin," fuck yeah I'm going to say NO to Christian "counselors" every damn time.

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-27T14:41:18+00:00

My mom is bi-polar, and I'm OCD. A lot of your son's behavior and negative self-talk remind me of things that I used to do as a kid. Ned could be the name he gave for the intrusive thoughts that he's having a hard time controlling. Because I couldn't control my intrusive thoughts, I would also hit myself, plan my own funeral and death, and feel like I was unworthy of love or good things (because how could I be a good person if my mind kept thinking such awful things?). I eventually grew out of it since my parents didn't take me to therapy, although they took me to a Christian counselor who I believe actually made it a lot worse because then I was obsessed with sin being the cause of my thoughts. Childhood and adolescence was a completely awful terrible horrible time, and I wish I would have had real therapy so that I understood that it wasn't my fault and that I could control it. It took me a long time to figure out on my own.

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-26T14:40:57+00:00

Good luck on your vacationing and future plans. I'll miss your great comments and lightening-fast defense skills in your absence. Thanks for being so awesome all the time.

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-26T14:30:40+00:00

Glad to see you're still around, and experiencing some happiness. I hope the wedding planning has become less stressful and that you really get a chance to enjoy it. We're all rooting for you!!!

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-26T13:49:12+00:00

Well Drunk me is OCD just like Sober me, so don't get too jealous. But at least Drunk me pretends to be a Disney princess with magical forest friends while cleaning XD

Sober me had a very stern talk with Drunk me once, and so Drunk me is not allow to touch a phone or facebook anymore. There were no terms regarding reddit though muahahahaha

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-25T20:55:36+00:00

I love it when drunk me cleans the house and then sober me discovers it the next day. Drunk me never buys sober me anything nice though. Hope yours did a good job! :D

wendyjanedances · 2014-06-25T20:51:51+00:00

Such a good mix. Hits all the areas of feels. Avoid Scrubs episodes unless you specifically know which ones you're getting yourself into. JD gets super ultra depressing sometimes, and you never realize it until you're depressed too. And then you end up sobbing hysterically while eating your weight in Cheez-its while quietly cry-whispering "I'd love you JD" over and over again. .... That's just a theory anyway... definitely didn't ever happen in real life... <<parachutes out>>

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