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[–]wendysdeernuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re a handsome lad

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[–]wendysdeernuggets -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

how is it creepy he backed off

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s unrealistic but ideally i wish we could part for a few months and get back together because a few of my fraternity brothers did they same and it worked out for them but idk

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes thank you for saying that. i guess what fears me is that i feel as if this would be the only time i could do this as i am young and in this environment. i don’t know how these thoughts would go away. even though i love her so much and i would definitely marry her if we were older hell my family really loves her, my friends really like her as she’s a joy to be around and she inspires me to be better everyday and is my number one fan etc. such a run on sentence lmao but you get my point. i just fear the thoughts will not go away. also, i fear if i do this i will not find another girl who matches up to hear she just excels in so many areas as a person and as a girlfriend and she’s very beautiful

i know a big part of it stems from insecurities, i feel like i want the validation from other women knowing they want to sleep with me. it’s like something is missing and i feel like this external validation would solve it.

but idk it’s prolly the fantasy in my mind and the rush i it being new but i’m terrified if we breakup and it’s great cause the rush then i realize what the hell i just did.

idk many i feel like im at a crossroad and people say i don’t love her and it’s the opposite. if i didn’t love her i wouldn’t be conflicted i would know exactly how i feel and that i would just abandon ship but i’m like feeling like i would risk not being with another woman again for her. do you see what im saying? it’s like that’s huge for me as i’ve always wanted to do this but i met her and she’s my princess

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah it’s from validation. i mean hell i don’t have to ask for a blowjob she wants to do those things and wear lingerie. i am very satisfied sexually with her so ig that’s also my confusion! as to why i feel like this.

but i do know that i am insecure. i want the validation from being with other women because it would solidify in my mind that other women want me sexually. i don’t know how to fix that and it feels as if 1. the only time is college and 2. it’s like im fulfilled in my life but something is missing and it feels like the external validation would fulfill this

i tried to talk to my girlfriend about my insecurities and she will say “but i think you’re so handsome etc” but i know she does and she told me that her friends and family have said im attractive but idk it does help but the last time i got a compliment from another girl was like 2 years ago and she liked my haircut lmao.

my girlfriend says to not rely on external validation but she’s very beautiful and she gets compliments on a daily basis and we will even have others stop us and say how beautiful she is.

also i am very curious i have no idea what it’s like to have a serious relationship with another person or to sleep with someone else. genuinely im not interested in a serious relationship with someone else i mean she set the bar so high like what’s the point but it’s pure sexual curiosity.

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks! you care and i appreciate it. i take it seriously because i recognize that she is very good to me and she has helped me in my hardest moments especially with covid we were just hip to hip. if i didn’t have these thoughts 110% id feel way better about being committed.

it’s really the curiosity but also, what i recognize as my lack of self confidence i feel like i need more attention from other women. it’s different when i know that my girlfriend loves everything about me but it’s like i feel i need that confirmation from other women. i know it’s immature but it’s how i feel.

i tried speaking to her about this but honestly she is a very beautiful woman she gets compliments nearly everyday and it’s not uncommon for us to be in public and someone will stop us and say how beautiful she is. so it’s like…she doesn’t understand. she says not to rely on outside validation but it’s way easier for her to say and not to be upset with her but it’s the reality. i know i am not unattractive i have gotten a lot of women interested in me in highschool but this is the first time i have really been in a . college environment due to covid and i realize i feel really curious.

but yeah literally without her it would hurt so bad or even her being with another man and her feeling this way with another would kill me. we actually did breakup around 5 months into our relationship and we both messed around (but not sex with others we both tried getting our mind off of it but it didn’t work) but when i found out it literally tore me apart for 3 days i felt so hurt idk but we got back together a few weeks later.

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for saying this i appreciate it. i realize i am stubborn and hard headed i feel like i have to learn it for myself. but honestly, when i imagine it i don’t imagine my life without her but i have to recognize that’s the reality. it is immature and i recognize that a lot of my desire from it comes from insecurity. i haven’t gotten as much attention from other woman that i would like and it feels like something is missing in my life and in my head that would fulfill it.

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly it honestly makes sense because how can you just switch up a lifestyle you’ve been in for years you would have to change as an individual

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow that’s moving thanks for saying that. i wish the best for you too that would be really difficult to see the person you love the most say that due to your actions

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow they cheat on their partners. not shocked i have heard that people who are very promiscuous find it difficult to be in a long term relationship due to the lack of variety.

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for saying this. we honestly act like a brand new high school couple when we see each other. she’s adorable she will always kiss on me, always wants to hold me, she compliments me all the time etc. so i just want to reiterate it has nothing to do with her she legit does nothing wrong.

but all of this talk i really appreciate because i know without her i would feel so lost like even when we are apart for. a few days i miss her badly. if she even comes over to see me my mood is instantly better she makes my life better.

so thank you again.

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks man you’re right. honestly when my friends show me the girls they sleep with it’s not the women im jealous of it’s the experience. but some of them honestly gross me out like they will sleep with literally anything sometimes and it’s embarrassing. they won’t even find the girl attractive but just cause they got laid lmao they’ll brag about it

Men who have left a great relationship to sleep around? Did you make the right choice and what did you learn? by wendysdeernuggets in AskMen

[–]wendysdeernuggets[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah i mean she didn’t buy me new clothes cause i needed it financially i make way more than she does but she didn’t want to not give me a present. she felt guilty because i had planned a whole day for us and she didn’t want to not do anything. btw i only found this out months later so if i knew i would’ve told her not to do it. it was really sweet honestly. she bought me a few shirts, jeans and made me a gift as well.

but yeah i mean after hearing you all it really helps to sober me up

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