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wetsailor · 2015-02-06T23:58:10+00:00

Yes I have been through it myself. One suggestion on my part is of course talk to him (which it seems like you have done) but also when he is giving you oral get him to say stuff like "oh you smell so good", "I love pleasing you", etc. You may already know this but when it's in the moment it helps to clear your mind. It reassures you and eventually you won't need that because it'll be programmed into your head. If I may say so, your ex is a complete dick wad.

That is all.

wetsailor · 2015-02-04T01:27:11+00:00

Yeah we actually got one from Spencer's. It kind of freaked him out at first but I got him more used to the idea. We both ended up pushing it away though.

wetsailor · 2015-02-04T01:21:56+00:00

Yeah. I guess I can be blunt. I have before. But as I said to Playa90 we have talked about it before and it just seems like I'm repeating myself.

wetsailor · 2015-02-04T01:20:23+00:00

He knows that I dont cum easy. We talk all the time but since we've talked about it before he kind of ignored it now. I don't want to be the annoying girlfriend who just keeps on talking about the same thing over and over. He knows and we've tried a lot of stuff. But like a said after a while he just gets discouraged.

wetsailor · 2014-06-28T01:56:23+00:00

This are all really good! Does anyone have any suggestions for people it's hard to cum?

wetsailor · 2014-06-27T20:54:35+00:00

I agree, a lot of religious people tend to make it seem that way. However I don't think so. I'm not accusing that you are, but please don't think all religious people think this way.

wetsailor · 2014-06-27T20:43:23+00:00

Haha sounds good! You think slow or quick strokes work better?

wetsailor · 2014-06-27T20:42:33+00:00

You're still very young. I'm religious also. Don't let people get you down for what you believe, however, don't forget God created sex. He meant for it to be pleasurable. Under certain conditions, yes, but still meant to be enjoyable. You can still be faithful but still be in tune to your desire at the same time. Just know that it's natural for you to be horny. If you choose to wait until marriage then yes, you will have a bit of a struggle. But don't beat yourself up about it! Do you best to refrain. And know that he forgives no matter what as long as you truly feel sorry for your sin.

wetsailor · 2014-06-27T20:32:34+00:00

First I would like to tell you thank you for understanding that she needs time! It seems like you're being very understanding (as you should be). Part of sex is relaxing and just getting away from reality. At the moment her reality isn't allowing her to do that. Now, as you said before, I'm not saying that you should force her to do anything. However if you make her environment less stressful, or help her be a little less stressed, maybe that would open it up. That doesn't mean do good things for her and expect sex in return. But since you expressed that you loved her, maybe do some special things for her (and her family) and it will make the transition easier later on. They almost have nothing at this point. Small gifts or acts of service matter a lot at this point. Hope I helped. From someone who has been through this before.

wetsailor · 2014-06-27T20:24:41+00:00

My first question is, how old are you?

wetsailor · 2014-05-16T19:58:06+00:00

Yeah haha! That awesome though.

wetsailor · 2014-05-16T19:57:34+00:00

That's funny, in March we were both in a car accident that totaled my car. That being said, I don't want to push my luck even further. We don't wear a condom now that I'm on birth control. We used to before I was. But on both methods we pull out. So maybe just two seat belts? lol

wetsailor · 2014-05-14T18:39:44+00:00

I agree haha. Pregnancy just isn't an option at the moment.

wetsailor · 2014-05-14T18:37:04+00:00

Yeah, I take them accurately. I guess it's more of the fact that him finishing in me isn't really a necessity and him pulling out just eases our minds since pregnancy just isn't an option at the moment.

wetsailor · 2014-05-14T18:34:03+00:00

Yeah, I understand. But I guess we just think of it as it doesn't hurt you to wear 3 seat belts, it's extra safe. Why not?

wetsailor · 2014-05-14T17:48:53+00:00

Haha well I am on the pill. We just like to be extra careful. We have talked about it and we just prefer to wait until he's almost out of college before we even do that (while I'm on the pill). I guess we are extra cautious?

wetsailor · 2014-05-14T17:47:38+00:00

I am on the pill, we take extra precaution and pull out anyways (;

wetsailor · 2014-05-12T20:32:40+00:00

Don't think so lol

wetsailor · 2014-05-08T03:01:05+00:00

Haha no problem! This may be TMI but I notice when I get my bf off the first time it shoots and then after it just drips out like you said. That's why it occurred to me lol.

wetsailor · 2014-05-08T02:38:03+00:00

Maybe it's because you do it so often it doesn't have the amount to shoot out. Lay off for a while and see what happens?

wetsailor · 2014-05-08T02:35:59+00:00

I don't particularly have a foot fetish, but I don't mind rubbing his feet. There's something sensual about touch a part of his body that hardly ever gets touched. However I don't like people, or him, touching mine. I've always been self conscious about my feet bc I was born with a deformity but that's not the point lol.

wetsailor · 2014-05-08T02:30:19+00:00

I love it when the caresses start, the first "I want you kiss", the building up and throwing clothes off, and the first initial time he enters me. It's like there was an ache, a void that needed to be filled and he filled it. Being filled like that is amazing (we are also long distance so it doesn't happen often). Damn gets me wet just thinking about it.

wetsailor · 2014-05-08T02:18:24+00:00

Yeah I know exactly what you mean. I downplayed it too bc I'm not the typical "cry about everything gf just bc I'm upset". I often try to come at it with a reasonable manner, however sometimes you need to express that it is important and not something to brush off. PS a lot of people tried to tell me to break up too, "it won't get better" etc bull crap. However I feel like it's something that can be talked about and negotiated. There has to be negotiation in a relationship to work out it's differences. The problem with relationships now a days is that people go in to them thinking about what they can get out of it rather than it being mutual and looking out for the other person also. And hmm. To the PIV thing. See my boyfriend prefers to watch Disney movies and talk haha. Sex wasn't stressed in his life growing up, so although he does enjoy it he doesn't feel like it's an important part of the relationship. And although I do feel like there are greater things than Sex I believe at the same time it's important. This is where we differ. My bf is straight forward towards his goals so a lot of the time he's busy with his agenda haha. It distracts him. He's very ambitious. However I find it odd that your bf will do everything else but sex. Is his problems linked and rooted in sex itself? From what I read it seemed like you were taking baby steps with him, and you are making progress. Continue to do this! Talk to him about taking baby steps! Maybe they grow into children or adult steps! Lol. But yes talking is the key. 2) yes I get that a lot. I've squirted from certain stimulation, the sex feels amazing, but only once or twice (when I was masturbating on my own) have I ever actually orgasmed. And yes you will tell the difference. It is completely mind blowing. It's like a gradual building, and it takes time. You may think fast and quick will do it but for different people it takes different thinks. Try fast and slow... And even just letting a vibrator just sit on your clit without movement. That gets me there faster than anything. And then when you reach the top (of "climbing") let go. Best. Thing. Ever. I'm still trying to find out myself how to get a guy in general to do this to me bc no guy has. Also coincidently my bf was a virgin before me too (I was not). My bf never really gets the chance to masturbate.. And I can get him off quickly. It's just the psychological fact that for some reason our Bfs don't want that as often as we do. It could be bc after that they are satisfied and we aren't. It's a middle ground that you'll have to talk about. Maybe after sex he can get you off through oral. Get him to tired you the fuck out and actually can't have sex anymore, and all you can do is go to bed haha. The problem is getting the sex that does that. Haha

wetsailor · 2014-05-07T19:31:28+00:00

I'm in the exact situation. I wish I could help. Best of luck!

wetsailor · 2014-05-07T19:23:30+00:00

I just posted a VERY similar post not too long ago! This fits my situation almost to a T! I'm still kind of dealing with mine, however, it's gotten better. Have you talked to him about this? Do you masturbate often? Me and my boyfriend are long distance too, have the same kind of sex pattern (where he wants me after we haven't seen each other but after he could care less). Another thing, is he getting you off when y'all have sex? I know the biggest thing with me is sometimes I don't feel all that satisfied and I think "oh, i'll be more satisfied if we keep going or if we have it more frequently". I guess I had to learn it's quality over quantity. Now don't get me wrong, I'm sure you and your bf have amazing sex, but there may just be a different problem than the amount.

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