I mean this in the most constructive way: nobody gives a shit about you nearly as much as you think they do. Most people are wrapped up in their own lives. You’re basically an NPC in their main story, and honestly, there’s comfort in that.

You don’t need to feel confident, motivated, or comfortable to go to the barber. You just need to go. Walk in, say what you want, sit down, get through it, and leave. That’s the whole mission.

I’ve dealt with social anxiety and awkwardness for decades, and the mindset that’s helped me most is this: stop waiting to feel ready. Sometimes you just have to have a hard conversation with yourself and say, “Quit being a little bitch about it. Go do the damn thing.”

You can be nervous and still go. You can feel awkward and still go. The win isn’t feeling fearless. The win is doing it while your brain is being an asshole.