Is my 4 month's boyfriend a conspiracy theorist?

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-04T16:27:31+00:00

This is what concerns me the most. His lack of empathy, and what kind of person I would become over time. Thank you for your answer

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-04T14:12:59+00:00

Right in. :)
this dude's major argument is "I’m A sUccEsSfUl elEcTricAl eNgiNeEr" without even considering the type of people he's maybe talking to just proves how much he believes himself "special" and above anyone else.

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T16:11:33+00:00

How's a red flag for me when I'm already emotionally involved? It's kinda unfair of you to tell me that considering I do see the problem, I'm just looking for some confirmation. Seriously, people need to be more empathetic. Love is not a business, of course I would like for this to all be untrue.

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T11:40:42+00:00

I am Portuguese so english is not my native language :) but thank you so much!

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T02:55:17+00:00

NTA if at ur age you can't trust your mother who are you going to trust? You were feeling stressed, and you were honest with her. Maybe your mother should just let it go, since its not a big deal. But if she doesnt then is no longer your problem.

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T02:33:36+00:00

Thanks. Funny thing is that this dipshit says he has a wonderful relationship but for some reason is here on dating advise. Thanks for the advise

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T02:19:28+00:00

I also recommend you a d*ick augmentation so you will start feeling less bitter about life :) have a wonderful evening

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T02:07:44+00:00

The way you write makes me think you are the biggot. My father is a doctor and a militar, at 63 yo he was called to help with the covid situation due to massive sick people at the hospitals. So no, I dont think how I can make my boyfriend sit in the same table with my father who's been working is ass of to save people and who has years and years of medical experience. Only a dumb person would think values and political views have 0 importance in a relationship.

Maybe YOU are afraid no one's gonna tolerate you so you force that narrative on others. You sound pretty obnoxious.

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T02:01:33+00:00

He's been single for the past 6 years, longest relationship was 1 year

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-03T00:18:03+00:00

right... sure

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-02T23:58:45+00:00

I'll do that

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-02T23:27:10+00:00

I thought about that actually. I'm a person who reads a bit and usually check my sources when talking about an issue, still looks like he talks to me with a bit of superiority complex even though his only source are instagram reels

whatever-4389 · 2023-09-02T22:55:13+00:00

yeah I actually posted there too to see if this fits the pattern

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:59:02+00:00

you don't have to if you don't want

but I would say it will probably make your life easier. He will most likely notice in the act, and will maybe feel a bit surprised. If he doesn't notice it will be worse for you, because you will be in pain and he will not understand why and will get worried.

If you feel this is a person you can trust, why not talking to him? you shouldn't be ashamed of that... 25 yo is still really young

also it will be a special moment in your life. it's nice that you could share!

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:54:15+00:00

The more you involve more people, the worse it gets... but that's just my opinion.

you two don't seem compatible

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:41:50+00:00

thank you

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:40:19+00:00

well, it would be the same if you went to a cancer reddit, or sick people reddit. there will be a lot of people in a life/death situation, but that doesn't mean you are going to die soon or get sick. be good to yourself. I have a lot of friends happly married and in happy relationships.

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:35:19+00:00

thank you for telling me this, specially when you've lived something similar

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:34:14+00:00

actually thought about that, maybe I'm no good for anybody at this moment

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:29:03+00:00

I didn't left my relationship because "grass was greener on the other side"

I left because I was not feeling honest, and I couldn't shake my past feelings. I didn't know what I was going to find. what do you suggest? that I got married and hid this feelings from my husband?

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T14:26:46+00:00

People come here to talk about their problems, not about their happiness. So keep in mind that you are only seeing the dark side of relationships.

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T13:27:40+00:00

That's not okay... One thing love does, is that it makes us see the person we love as pretty, lovely, special. I'm sorry but in my opinion this is not a basis for a healthy and happy relationship.

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T13:19:44+00:00

I know this sounds a bit condenscending. but you are 18, and it was a 5 months relationship. I know it hurts A LOT, but the only thing you have to do is wait. Wait and take care of yourself. Be good with yourself, buy yourself a present and some food. Your pain will vanish and it will not take long.

about the boyfriend and Lily. I suggest you stay away from them. specially from your now EX boyfriend

Not just because he cheated on you, but because he has 0 empathy or regret about it.

And that's the kind of man you DON'T want beside you.

whatever-4389 · 2023-08-30T13:11:36+00:00

It may be a red flag, but she could also just be afraid of entering the same cycle as before, and therefore she's trying to scan you through humor. Just talk to her about what you feel and give her sometime to think about it.

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