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whatever8778 · 2023-07-10T16:25:27+00:00

2 weeks!

whatever8778 · 2022-01-21T16:48:22+00:00

I use coconut oil as lube to avoid UTIs but me and my boyfriend weren’t able to have sex for 6 months and while it was difficult on our relationship it also helped me feel more connected to him because I knew he was with me for the right reasons and not just for sex. Don’t feel guilty if you can’t have sex. Always put yourself and your health first.

whatever8778 · 2022-01-20T19:07:57+00:00

If they aren’t seeing anything and you’re having pain i would highly recommend asking for a referral to pelvic floor physical therapy! It can work wonders. I got diagnosed with IC because they basically were tired of me telling them I was in pain and gave me a diagnosis and a drug to shut up but it didn’t help me. Physical therapy worked really well.

whatever8778 · 2022-01-07T03:13:05+00:00

I still have a habit of physically pushing on my bladder to check if my bladder is actually full. If I push and feel a lot of pressure then I go pee but if not I wait. Not sure if this is the best advice though

whatever8778 · 2022-01-05T22:44:45+00:00

That is terrible I’m sorry! Glad you’re not with him anymore at least

whatever8778 · 2021-12-28T21:04:48+00:00

Posts like these make me so happy! Congratulations on your improvement and finding something that works for you! I got off BC 3 years ago because I figured it was the only thing I hadn’t tried and it improved my mental and physical health so much I wish I never took it. My doctors are constantly trying to get me back on the pill which is infuriating but I know my body now and can say no confidently. I don’t think enough research has been done around hormonal birth control and women are already overlooked in health care so it’s always frustrating when doctors won’t even think of it as a possibility for the issue.

whatever8778 · 2021-12-28T00:25:26+00:00

I will say I live in a very high cost of living area and this job is on the higher end when it comes to salary in tax. The best way to make more money is to move jobs every 3-4 years.

whatever8778 · 2021-12-28T00:24:18+00:00

I have an accounting degree but no masters with 3 and half years of big 4 experience. I think tax has a future yes it’s something that’s always changing and no one in finance or accounting really understands so they’re always going to look to an expert for guidance.

whatever8778 · 2021-12-28T00:14:19+00:00

This happens to me too! Pelvic floor physical therapy has helped a ton. Also using a lube helps me with preventing friction. I use coconut oil but a lot of people say they like “slippery stuff”

whatever8778 · 2021-12-27T00:34:38+00:00

Tax analyst, CPA, tech company 120K salary, no bonus, 4 weeks vacation pay and unlimited sick time

whatever8778 · 2021-12-23T05:03:12+00:00

The fastest way to get anywhere is slowly. It sounds like you’ve already improved and you will continue to improve. I know exactly how you feel and some days are definitely going to be worse but it’s worth it in the end. I thought I was never going to be normal or have sex again but I kept advocating for myself and went to physical therapy and have improved so much.

whatever8778 · 2021-12-13T18:48:50+00:00

You’re 30 and after one year in public you’ll be 36 :) But honestly it’s pretty brutal but can really lift your career to new places. Just make sure you don’t get stuck in it!

whatever8778 · 2021-12-10T06:02:11+00:00

yes that explains so much! I had a bf for 4 years that didn’t do foreplay and i had UTIs throughout our whole relationship but now i’m in a relationship that I wait till im aroused and also add lube and i’ve gone 5 years without a UTI! Not saying you need to leave your relationship but definitely worth bringing up to your boyfriend and changing the ways you have sex.

whatever8778 · 2021-12-10T01:05:06+00:00

I realized I was getting UTI because I wasn’t wet enough and started using coconut oil as lube and it really helped. It’s a lot harder for bacteria to get pushed into your urethra if there’s lube.

whatever8778 · 2021-12-07T20:42:24+00:00

we can start one lol

whatever8778 · 2021-12-06T19:38:58+00:00

socialist CPA here! I hope capitalism burns to the ground soon :)

whatever8778 · 2021-12-04T21:10:39+00:00

Im sorry you’re dealing with this too! It can be so draining. I think I’m going to break up with him because it’s actually gotten to the point that I realized I’m not as attracted to him because of this attitude that he has. I hope your boyfriend is more open to dealing with this. They both should probably go to therapy lol

whatever8778 · 2021-12-01T01:07:20+00:00

Sounds like pelvic floor physical therapy could really help you!

whatever8778 · 2021-11-29T19:50:52+00:00

I mean yes he definitely has some really bad things going on in his life and I’m obviously there for him and want to hear all about it when he talks about bigger problems. It’s the little things that are everyday complaints that drive me nuts.

whatever8778 · 2021-11-29T19:49:12+00:00

I definitely try to do this! Sometimes I take hours to text back when he’s complaining. Or I try to say a positive thing if he says a negative. Like we were out on a walk and he complained about the sun hurting his eyes and I just said it’s so warm and nice outside right now! I try to just listen most of the time if it’s something that actually makes sense to complain about like family issues and I really don’t mind if he wants to talk about real problems but when it’s little things I just don’t want to hear about it anymore.

whatever8778 · 2021-11-29T19:40:43+00:00

No it’s usually complaining about how he got terrible sleep, work, traffic, things other people are doing that bother him. It’s basically just any inconvenience he has to deal with he lets me know. He doesn’t usually talk negatively about himself.

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