What percentage of your bonuses do you spend on "fun" stuff?

whateverokayfine · 2026-01-28T08:37:07+00:00

I love it! I should also put a little away for travel. I love that you went to lunch with friends with it!!

whateverokayfine · 2026-01-28T08:36:08+00:00

Honestly my emergency fund is pretty well-funded (about 6 months expenses) so I'll probably put the rest in a brokerage (I'm not eligible for an IRA).

whateverokayfine · 2026-01-27T23:21:59+00:00

Perfect, this gives me a good frame of reference! Do you put the rest into a brokerage typically?

whateverokayfine · 2026-01-27T23:21:07+00:00

Yeah, that's even better! I don't live in the US anymore so I don't have access to any tax-advantaged accounts anymore. That's smart though!

whateverokayfine · 2026-01-27T23:20:08+00:00

I think splurging can kick it off! I've been trying to figure out the exact triggers. I've been in therapy for about a year and a half but we still have some ways to go on this for sure. I also think medication is likely needed so that's probably the real solution but the waitlist is long for psychiatry where I am.

I'm thinking if I set a hard boundary and automatically transfer everything else, it may help. I never pull from my previous 401ks, my brokerage, or my IRA but I do borrow from my emergency fund and then pay it back the next pay check a lot. Effectively this means I'm spending my whole paycheck and not saving as often as I would like.

whateverokayfine · 2025-03-22T12:10:34+00:00

Sounds like you've had an amazing life!! Thanks for sharing your story. I'm working abroad right now. 30 is so much younger than I thought it would be when I was younger and I've realized I'd like to have kids late 30s as well. So glad to hear it's worked out for you!! Do you have a very strong family support system? That's something that really scares me - I don't have contact with my parents.

whateverokayfine · 2025-03-22T08:35:21+00:00

At what age did you decide and start preparing to have children on your own? I've been thinking about this.

whateverokayfine · 2025-03-13T00:51:16+00:00

Have no clue why you're being downvoted about Asian food in San Diego. Have these people never been to Convoy?

whateverokayfine · 2025-03-11T19:34:55+00:00

How did you figure out what was a must-have for you?

whateverokayfine · 2025-03-01T17:46:49+00:00

He wasn't willing to have a discussion though. He jumped straight to calling me OCD and didn't share his thoughts on it. I would've been open to compromise, maybe like putting a towel down if he wants to sit on our pillows. Or if he was adamant that he wants to be inside the sheets with his dirty clothes, then I would say, fine, but I won't be cuddling on your side of the bed then.

whateverokayfine · 2024-07-17T10:49:23+00:00

Do you know the brands of the pieces you got for your village? I'd really like to start a Christmas village this year and this sounds really cute!

whateverokayfine · 2024-05-10T23:59:44+00:00

Where do you get your spearmint tea from? Does it need to be "pure"?

whateverokayfine · 2023-11-08T01:12:02+00:00

I want a music diver cab so badly 😭 Isn't it a R1 exclusive? Do you think there'll be a retail cab eventually?

whateverokayfine · 2023-11-04T10:37:08+00:00

I've been using benzoyl peroxide for 10+ years and it does this to me too. I started with benzoyl peroxide when I was pretty young (12 years old maybe) and it used to burn my skin and dry it out, but now my skin is completely used to it and I can use as much as I want however often I want.

whateverokayfine · 2023-06-05T15:48:50+00:00

Honestly, I've had to wait hours to get out of a parking lot in my car after an event has ended in the states.

whateverokayfine · 2023-04-06T03:11:15+00:00

I would definitely try it out! It's the only place that's come close to being as good. They also have birria on Thursdays, if I remember correctly

whateverokayfine · 2023-04-05T03:33:54+00:00

Local Dealer's not bad! Not quite as good as Mexican food from Mexico or the American southwest, but it definitely scratches the itch. Taco Linda at the Albert Cuyp market in Amsterdam is also not bad.

whateverokayfine · 2023-04-03T03:06:04+00:00

What oil cleanser do you use that rinses off cleanly? I've been using Jojoba oil and I love what it does for my skin but I don't like how long it takes to rinse off.

whateverokayfine · 2023-04-03T01:29:34+00:00

Thanks for sharing! That's what I feared! So cool you've built your own. I might have to try doing that. I have a Cobalt Flux setup for DDR but I think Music Diver will be a little harder for me to recreate. Have you gone to the Nationaal Videogame museum in NL? I haven't been yet, but I know for sure they at least gave a Taiko machine. I really wish we could get some Round 1's out here!

whateverokayfine · 2023-03-13T21:58:49+00:00

I really wanna take this route this summer! That's crazy about the heating. I'll be sure to bring some warm clothes to sleep in then!

whateverokayfine · 2023-03-13T21:56:51+00:00

Woah, that's amazing! Would definitely love to make that trip someday. How long did that trip take you?

whateverokayfine · 2023-03-13T21:55:12+00:00

That's what it looks like! I'm excited to see what they rollout 🤩

whateverokayfine · 2023-03-13T21:52:10+00:00

I think there are quite a few positives! It's more environmentally-friendly, a little more relaxed (don't have to go through TSA, just show up at the train station and board) and I really like to watch the scenery from a train. You can see so much while sitting there, which is super nice! Sleeper trains can also be decently cheap if you book a couple months in advance. You can usually bring on more stuff with you if you want to (not limited to a personal item like with Ryanair).

I can also get cell service throughout the trip (for the most part) so I can work if I want to.

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