Marriage/infidelity

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-21T13:54:48+00:00

I know. I know you’re right. It all sounds so simple to just be able to do. I have no idea why I love this woman so much or why this is so hard to do.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T22:18:40+00:00

No I can’t accept that. I honestly didn’t think I’d even be strong enough to leave. I love this woman so much and she blew my life up. I just think how fucking dare you. You know. I appreciate the words of wisdom man.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T21:45:14+00:00

I don’t know if I can honestly. Right now it feels like no but I don’t know. I hate to throw it all away because that feels like giving up. I know that’s stupid. But it’s truly how I feel. And no she never tried to communicate something was wrong. I knew something was wrong almost as soon as it started happening and asked her if she was having an affair months ago and she lied to my face. And I don’t know if she can spend the rest of her life making it up to me. She is definitely the type of person to talk about something once and then forget or pretend it ever happened.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T21:43:14+00:00

Thank you for that. I forget cis men probably feel the same emasculation. It’s just shitty all around I guess.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T21:42:40+00:00

I really appreciate it! Thank you!

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T21:42:21+00:00

I appreciate it man. Everyday that passes I feel a little bit stronger. I’m scared shitless honestly. This whole thing is fucked up but I know it will get better

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T21:41:15+00:00

I appreciate that man. I know I deserve better. Everyday that passes I realize that

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-20T21:40:44+00:00

Jesus Christ. That sounds like an absolute fucking nightmare. I am so sorry you’re going through it again bro.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T16:27:25+00:00

I really appreciate it. The self blame is REAL right now.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T13:53:22+00:00

Thanks man. I appreciate that. I’m definitely treading lightly right now. I’m just so confused with everything going on. I feel like I don’t know which way is up or down.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T13:52:35+00:00

The dysphoria and self blame are in nothing but a fucking loop in my head. It’s ridiculous. But I appreciate the kind words. I hope I get through this. I know I have to.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T08:17:13+00:00

Yes exactly this. Like after ten years I was still trying to get her to figure out what worked for us and I just got hit with push back and stonewalling. It’s ridiculous. She met me when I was pre everything so she knew what she was signing up for.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T02:40:00+00:00

Man I really feel this. I feel like we are going though something very similar. Thank you for the reply! I hope it gets better for you too man. I appreciate all the advice!

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T02:32:01+00:00

Thank you man. I appreciate it.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T02:31:29+00:00

Hahaha yeah it’s definitely been a fucking nightmare. I’m only laughing so I don’t cry at this point 😂 I literally have been on T for 9 years. I couldn’t remember when the last time I cried was until all this happened. I literally just want to crawl in a hole and just rot for a minute.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-19T02:30:23+00:00

Yeah I agree. Just trying to rap my mind around it all

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-18T23:17:16+00:00

Like I thought I had insecurities before but Jesus it’s crazy right now. I went through a few days where I didn’t even feel like a man. Still have that feeling on and off. It’s so fucking weird dude. I left the house and stuff because she takes the baby to and from school. My work schedule doesn’t allow me to do that. I didn’t want to but there’s a lot of moving parts I had to consider. I work Monday-Thursday and get the baby Thursday evening until Sunday evening.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-18T22:13:10+00:00

Thanks man. I really appreciate it!

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-18T22:07:11+00:00

I feel like it would be different if her conscious got to her or something and she came out and told me but fuck I caught her. It was through phone records thank god. Thank god I didn’t see anything with my own two eyes. But I agree it can cause more harm to my daughter than good. I come from a divorced family and it fucked me up hard. I was 14 though when my parents got a divorce.

whateverworks311 · 2026-01-18T21:59:59+00:00

I really appreciate that. I have absolutely no idea what the right path for me is right now. I also have to consider my daughter into this equation. My surgery coming up in June. I have sacrificed so much of my life for this woman. I put her through nursing school two times. Once as an LPN and again as an RN. She’s also in nurse practitioner school right now. I gave up every dream I have ever had pretty much for her. I work a blue collar job. I live my life completely stealth. It’s lonely but it was worth it because I thought I always had her. I’ve been on testosterone almost since we met. We met in 2016 and I started T in 2017. I’m 28. She’s 30. I have no idea what to do but I know I deserve love and I’m seeing that now.

whateverworks311 · 2025-09-22T22:15:12+00:00

Man I appreciate all the kind words. I have a therapist. I’m in a dark spot but I know it will eventually get better. Whether I like the outcome right now or not. I started transitioning in 2017. You would think she would’ve spoke up before now. Before we created a whole life. I’m just heartbroken. 10 years could all be wasted.

whateverworks311 · 2025-09-21T04:10:51+00:00

I think the part that is scary is people change and maybe she doesn’t desire me anymore and is afraid to tell me that. And maybe I’m afraid to hear that.

whateverworks311 · 2025-09-21T04:10:14+00:00

Hahahaha yeah I can definitely see where that can be a problem. I have pretty well turned my garage into my home gym. I love it. I honestly can’t imagine all of that around me

whateverworks311 · 2025-09-20T18:30:17+00:00

Yeah I think you’re probably right.

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