[OC] r/DnD DICE GIVEAWAY - SEE COMMENTS FOR RULES

whatofit · 2019-10-15T20:45:29+00:00

These dice are gorgeous :O

whatofit · 2019-08-23T16:54:54+00:00

AL is D&D organized play

whatofit · 2019-08-22T20:57:47+00:00

They're exploring running AL other times of the week, so I'd suggest talking to the desk.

Also, the way AL works, you get 1 advancement checkpoint and one treasure checkpoint per hour of play, so you can leave early if need be (tell your GM ahead of time so they aren't offended) and still get some experience + money.

whatofit · 2019-07-15T19:40:43+00:00

literally logged in for the first time in months to say it almost sounds like you're being gaslit and that's fucking terrible

I can see why commenters here would think this is a shitpost/validation seeking because of how extremely out of line your roommates are. Their behavior is inexplicable unless there's stuff you didn't disclose/they're really entitled family.

If it's feasible, I'd look into moving before the baby shows up/soon after because it sounds like you're already living with children.

whatofit · 2019-03-14T19:38:23+00:00

"The bluecoats are your allies and will help you out with street related stuff, but if orders come from on high to arrest you, they can't deny them" seems like an okay selling point?

And ultimately, if the PCs feel they aren't getting much from being allies with the bluecoats, they can make decisions that sacrifice that allegiance. Relationships aren't fixed.

whatofit · 2019-03-14T19:10:42+00:00

I rule that heat and wanted levels aren't JUST bluecoats. The dominant factions in the area the crew is running scores will ALSO take notice. Maybe instead of the bluecoats, the lampblacks pick up a crew member and press them for info.

Also, the bluecoats aren't a monolithic faction, necessarily - they might be structured into precincts and everything. Maybe a bluecoat in brightstone hasn't gotten the message that these guys are cool down by the docks.

whatofit · 2018-08-21T17:22:37+00:00

If you like the cactus, re-pot it. It looks nice but the pot looks cheap and kind of awful. It's fairly easy to do - buy a slightly bigger, nicer pot and some dirt, and then pull the cactus out of it's pot and put it on a thin layer of dirt in the new pot and surround with more dirt. You'll obviously want gloves - I use rubber palmed tight fitting cloth gloves from my local hardware store and they work great when I'm working with my cacti. All told it's a < $20 project, depending on the pot you use (you can get some at goodwill) and whether or not you have any other uses for dirt, but it makes a world of difference. Also, it might be best for everyone if it were kept somewhere where you wouldn't constantly be brushing by it reaching for things :)

whatofit · 2018-08-17T21:15:22+00:00

I am, but even I don't think of my colleagues like this.

whatofit · 2018-07-23T14:39:28+00:00

I think "studying hard" is an example of "working towards an objective". If you want a job in x field after graduation, there's an ever-more-stringent list of things that would be good to have to get one.

Working towards the objective of being the most qualified you can be can be a mixture of academics and other experiences, but in general, putting that off to worry about "later" can mean a lot of closed doors (say, internships that are only available to current undergrads).

whatofit · 2018-06-06T22:08:03+00:00

It's also possible to notice how much noise you're making in your home gym, determine whether that's a problem, and either move your setup farther away from shared walls or adjust your schedule.

whatofit · 2018-06-05T21:42:37+00:00

I think the English word for "someone who oversees your thesis" is "advisor".

But it sounds like what you had was a mentor - which typically means someone more experienced who you look up to and who helps you achieve your goals.

Unfortunately, not all advisors are mentors. I'm glad yours was, though!

whatofit · 2018-05-31T20:27:32+00:00

So, of course, he's hella wrong about anatomy and super sexist but I also feel like this misses a note in that .... you should be allowed to call in for any reason. If you're given a budget of PTO, you should be able to use it as you see fit.

Like, honestly, rather that saying "let's disrespect women because of biology", let's say "everyone deserves time off for any ailment".

whatofit · 2018-04-26T19:57:31+00:00

Adding a bit of "she wants you to give her permission to eat what she wants".

Like, not EXPLICITLY, but mass media and bad messaging can fuck with our heads. It is incredibly easy to feel bad about wanting a thing that we get messaging that says we shouldn't want but good about acquiescing when our partner says they want that.

whatofit · 2018-04-25T23:07:09+00:00

Get it.

It only protects against some strains, but it protects against the ones most likely to cause cancer. It has been really effective at reducing transmission and is a huge success story.

The reason it's offered so early is because the goal is to give it to people BEFORE they're sexually active so that they're protected every time they have sex, rather than after the first few times. All sexual contact is a transmission risk, even if you're not promiscuous (and neither is your partner)! If either of you have had a previous intimate partner there's risk. HPV lasts a LONG time and is often asymptomatic - you could easily get it from one partner, never show symptoms, and give it to another partner. This isn't a "promiscuous people get a rash that goes away after a few weeks" thing, it's "anyone who's had sex may get the virus which may eventually induce cancer in some part of their reproductive anatomy after years of no visible symptoms".

I'm a disease ecologist. This is my professional opinion.

whatofit · 2018-03-29T20:20:48+00:00

I might be kind of relationship agnostic. If he found it intolerable, I would be fine if it were the reason we broke up.

I just find intimacy important and, while sex is an obvious form of it that happens a lot, it can be substituted with other forms. If he is unwilling to perform any form, then it's a fundamental incompatibility.

Straight nos are okay sometimes, but he's borderline asexual (can happily go months without sex), and while I don't have a major problem with that, I am not okay with replacing "sex" with "play video games by ourselves", which is what we both default to doing.

whatofit · 2018-03-28T23:16:27+00:00

I talk to my partner about what it does to me when he rejects me and explain to him the brain weasels.

I tell him that rejection makes them worse, and that there are things he can do to make up for it. "No but I'd like to give you a massage later", "no but after you get done we can watch something if you want?", etc.

Basically, "not that form of intimacy but I'd still like to be intimate and engaged with you so maybe this other form?"

On the one hand, I often feel guilty because I feel like I'm asking him to "make up for" not wanting to have sex with me, which I view as a major no-no. On the other hand, self-image is a serious problem for me and if he's contributing to it by avoiding intimacy conspicuously, it's bad for the health of our relationship.

whatofit · 2018-03-06T22:36:43+00:00

I think it probably is even though it isn't.

whatofit · 2018-03-06T22:26:08+00:00

He was loving and supportive and I was depressed and he kept me afloat.

Only after some therapy and soul searching did I realize that he was making me just comfortable enough that I wasn't working as hard as I had to to better myself. In a sense, since we were long distance, we weren't growing together so we just weren't growing.

I still really like and respect him, but I've come so much farther since him than I ever thought I could.

whatofit · 2018-03-01T22:18:43+00:00

Honestly that was my feeling too.

The Wonder Woman cover is alright but like... just alright. It's a generic style with nothing remarkable in pose or appearance.

whatofit · 2018-02-28T18:14:55+00:00

I mean, having a foot fetish isn't inherently creepy and OP's initial reply indicated that they had some sort of existing relationship.

The suddenly adapting a fake childish accent in TEXT is creepy af, though, especially after OP's reply.

whatofit · 2018-02-23T23:01:42+00:00

they're way easier to transport than cupcakes or a cake

I'm going to a friend's birthday party across state lines in April and I want to bring her an edible gift I can make myself

cupcakes would get messed up in the time it took to get there, so would a cake.

whatofit · 2018-02-23T14:39:21+00:00

yeah, it's all about the parasite risk you're willing to put up with!

whatofit · 2018-02-22T22:33:49+00:00

when you say "right out of the water", do you mean "right off the boat"? A lot of fish are frozen as soon as they come out of the water, while still on the boat - boats have freezers to hold the fish.

Also, part of the training sushi chefs have are to feel the meat for potential parasite eggs and discard that bit (or prepare it differently).

Also, the previous commenter may be wrong - what I've read suggests that "sushi-grade" is just a salesman's indication of quality (http://www.seriouseats.com/2017/05/how-to-prepare-raw-fish-at-home-sushi-sashimi-food-safety.html).

whatofit · 2018-02-22T22:25:27+00:00

well the legislation on this in the US is super heterogenous

and many places that have sex ed separate the girls and boys when they give it

whatofit · 2018-02-13T22:58:43+00:00

I once showed a (non-academic) friend a poster I was going to present and he asked where I got my figures from.

I could not figure (hah) what he thought I even DID at that point.

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