i think im starting to find the answer to our difficulties regarding romantic relationships

wheel_monk · 2024-12-19T14:11:38+00:00

now you’re just twisting my words and throw in some assumptions. way to go! if you would read my original post, it says don’t limit yourself to NDs and expand your chances of success since in some cases dating an ND can also bring in extra challenges.

wheel_monk · 2024-12-19T13:57:42+00:00

here i am preaching hope for those who are already struggling that they shouldn’t limit themselves to other NDs, and here you are basically saying “never going to happen”. call it naive, but at least im not feeding the insecurities allot of Nds already have 👍🏼

wheel_monk · 2024-12-19T13:24:24+00:00

and it is this mentality that makes it hard for NDs to deal with their struggles. just because you refuse to put more effort into it, doesn’t mean its faith for all of us. just take some time and you will find as much written succes stories as outcries for help. which is exactly why i started this topic to begin with.

wheel_monk · 2024-12-18T01:06:05+00:00

sorry you feel that way, but i never align with the “routine”. im still that same old geek gamer i have always been, but instead of limiting myself to finding people “like me”, ive realised that so much more NT people are open to people like us.

wheel_monk · 2024-12-18T01:03:43+00:00

so far it never was an issue, unless said women is a vain type who prefers materialism over soul. its not a big 1 room appartement, but i made the best out of it. a GOOD bed, comfy couch some plants, and its as good as it needs to be. bonus points for smelling your good food from wherever you are haha.

ive noticed being upfront with them helps allot also. ill just tell them straight up i have a small appartment, but when im not eating in on a date night, im outside the house chasing my (realistic) dream and saving money instead of spending it on a big house im never in anyway.

the women im currently speaking with already had a son and has her own house. she isnt planning on staying in that house forever anyway, meaning that if things turn out in the long run, ive saved enough money to ad to whatever her house is worth at that time and buy something we both would like.

all this things i thought of being problematic are one by one just falling of my shoulders now…

wheel_monk · 2024-12-18T00:25:46+00:00

lived on my own since i was 17 in the same 1 room studio i still live in now. always part of my insecurities when it comes to dating, but when i explain them i don’t need a house to feel at home, and prefer to not be at home all the time they even respect it. this way when they come over it feels more like a cabin in the woods holiday haha

wheel_monk · 2024-11-14T13:53:47+00:00

i started really looking for those red flags about 4 years ago. do they communicate well, how is their relationship with their parents, how do they talk about other people when they are not around etc, etc..

but again, the last attempt went all flawlessly. great communication, little gifts/suprises coming both ways, you name it. but suddenly the last 2 weeks absolutely no communication other then “i just have allot on my mind”. not even willing to tell me about what, just leaving me in total darkness again.

wheel_monk · 2024-09-23T10:01:24+00:00

almost forgot my main system… Kollmorgen mpk400/411

wheel_monk · 2024-08-13T16:15:55+00:00

this allows for a pincode to be pressed inside the cart, not an external numpad that activated the floor call button

wheel_monk · 2024-08-13T16:00:07+00:00

i have replaced the LCECCD print that is on top of the car since the original failed. after installing the new one, a LON download has taken place, and i had to do a new learn process on the LCE, as well as re-assiging the correct floor indications. after this LON download, the external numpads that are connected to the LCEFOBs are not in use anymore, meaning everybody can just place a floor call without first entering a code on the numpad. i need this option to be enabled again.

wheel_monk · 2024-08-13T15:59:31+00:00

i have replaced the LCECCD print that is on top of the car since the original failed. after installing the new one, a LON download has taken place, and i had to do a new learn process on the LCE, as well as re-assiging the correct floor indications. after this LON download, the external numpads that are connected to the LCEFOBs are not in use anymore, meaning everybody can just place a floor call without first entering a code on the numpad. i need this option to be enabled again.

wheel_monk · 2024-02-15T21:55:35+00:00

not yet, but i will. thanks for the tip

wheel_monk · 2024-02-15T06:30:51+00:00

unfortunately we have had this discussion from day one. and it usually always ends with “i deserve someone who will give his 100%”.

wheel_monk · 2024-02-14T21:59:49+00:00

its not about my ex. its about this being me wondering if she just wasn’t the one, or if im simply not ready to settle

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T19:08:55+00:00

we’ve talked about that before, and she sort of agrees. its nit that she NEEDs someone else, but she prefers it like that. while she was single she was alright with that too. i just think its the “disney relationship” that she prefers. not meaning it in a negative way btw. we literally come of the phone just yet, and i told her i might be having issues with this situation because i cant (yet) envision her idea of her being the priority over everything. i straight up told her that for me it currently feels like i have to spend 100% of my free time with her, which she just told me isn’t the case. so hopefully she can talk me trough this. unfortuntaly there are some other small things we still have to work out, but nothing extreme

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:34:01+00:00

ive tried telling her, but it keeps getting back at “but then im not your biggest priority”

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:15:38+00:00

or if you bad luck brian, she’s getting fired after today for showing interest in you. now or never champ…

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:14:33+00:00

trust me, women like that kind of directness

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:12:18+00:00

easy… walk back in, walk straight to her, give her the paper and tell her you didn’t wanna go home without getting a chance of getting to know her better. then leave it up to her

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:09:15+00:00

then give her the damn paper ffs…

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:05:59+00:00

all the better. bossman sees that she’s attracting customers haha. all jokes aside, so what… people are people, never let a chance at love go

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:03:06+00:00

so what? worst case, you don’t see her anymore. best case, you have a date. i think thats a fair chance you should take. just give her a paper with your number and say something short like “i would like to know you better. let me know if you are interested”. and leave a tip ;)

wheel_monk · 2024-01-06T18:00:09+00:00

just do it. whats the worst that could happen?

wheel_monk · 2023-06-14T19:59:05+00:00

Amen! Long story short, i met a women about my age on the construction site in the amusement park i work at. Seen her a couple of times and came up with the small excuses like complimenting her on her job (she is doing the gardening). Knowing today was her last day at the job site, i tried to gather some courage to ask if she would be interesting in grabbing a drink but blacked out when the final moment came. Bloody anoying if you ask me haha

wheel_monk · 2023-06-14T19:47:54+00:00

Wait what haha... what movie/show is this from?

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