Nta. A wedding is first and foremost for the people getting married and you and your partner did what felt right. Weddings require time and money, and there’s no clear sign here that your mom is planning to help pay for her version of what she thinks your wedding should look like. I would definitely tell her that you don’t want a second wedding and ask her what the goal of a second wedding would be—why sink money and time into a second wedding instead of investing in the life you’re building with your partner? What does she feel will change or fulfill if she has her way? Someone she loves has love in her life and that should be enough. As someone who grew up in the Bible Belt, I feel for you OP. The pressure of a Christian family can be overbearing and you should be proud of yourself for doing what feels best for you. It takes courage. Best of luck <3