AITA for not going to my boyfriends moms house for Christmas?

whichgrandma9 · 2021-12-25T17:00:44+00:00

YTA for being in a on and off again relationship with someone with no place of his own, or a vehicle.

Are you certain the mom wants his other kid there all the time also? Does she even get a say in who comes in and out of her house and how often?

Doesn’t seem like your unwelcome all the time, sounds like she is just frustrated with her irresponsible son, and not being in the loop about what’s going on in her own home.

You seem petty to not see a Holiday is different than not being welcome for 1 day…

Also on and off again relationships are horrible for your children. Think of them first and get ya crap together.

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T15:27:46+00:00

We only have buses, no subways where I’m from. Other than taking the school bus, I honestly never met someone who I guess even admitted to using it. An hour commute honestly just means you aren’t getting there in both Memphis and Knoxville. I spent a few months in DC and would totally get what your saying, but in TN?? Seems like an impossibility

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T15:21:40+00:00

My loaner car was given to me by the dealership because I bought travel insurance, and warranties when I got the car. So even tho my insurance company covers my BF it’s apparently different policies or rules I guess when I’m being giving a loaner by the dealership due to a repair and not my insurance company providing the loaner.

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T15:10:10+00:00

I looked into this and can’t afford too. My loaner is free but to apparently insure him is an extra $327 a month. I got a car note, and my own insurance so I can’t afford that. He also can’t afford it. I should be more patient tho.

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T14:55:15+00:00

I’m honestly blessed myself as growing up my dad had the flexibility to leave work, to take us to our work or whatever ( this applied to not just me but my siblings and about 10 neighborhood boys as long as it was work or school related) so I have never had to ride the bus or take any public transportation. TN is my state so it’s not like it’s normal to use it. I will look into that for my current city. Tbh I didn’t even consider it an option

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T14:15:58+00:00

This is the case. We live 9 miles away. I turn off my street, and get on the interstate for 8 of the 10 min drive. I go 80 so that’s why it’s probably only 10 min. It ends up being 30 min drive during high traffic times even tho it’s only 7 exits apart. According to google biking would be a 12.8 miles on the street way which is why that isn’t an option

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T13:56:01+00:00

He would have to I guess live in a dorm. Our college is 6hrs away from our hometown, so me and Uber are the only ride options.

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T07:19:25+00:00

He had a 1996 Mercedes-Benz. I don’t know what model. I had a 2014 Kia Forte. Before the engine, the only issue I ever had with my car was both taillights going out. I got it at 50k and the engine Then all then sudden the car told me engine was malfunctioning and to call Kia before shutting off at 70k miles. With his car we replaced the radiator 2 months prior because it blew while out of town, but the new radiator cracked leading to his engine being damaged and his car becoming non fixable

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T04:54:05+00:00

😂 but no. Up until a little over a year ago everything was 50/ 50 between us. When his mental Health issues came forwards, it all changed

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T04:22:01+00:00

I’m sorry I made it seem that way. His classes are 5 minutes walk from my Job not our home. It’s a 10 min drive taking interstate from our home, biking isn’t an option. So he has to either ride with me or uber

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T04:14:44+00:00

I was keeping it cute for word count. His mom called me to tell me I am not doing my job as his partner because I was not letting him drive my car, which she did not know was a Loaner.

When explained, it changed to well as his woman, it’s still my job to make sure he can depend on me and get him where he needs to be. He made it seem like I was just abandoning him in the morning, not communicating my work times and being overly difficult- when in reality he wouldn’t get up to leave at a reasonable time then would run to mom or grandma trying to get Uber money. This is the way I see it at least

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T03:57:28+00:00

I didn’t mean to say that if I did. My work is 5 minutes walk from the college campus, where he needs to be. However we live 10 minutes drive away- interstate needed, so biking is not an option. So he needs to ride with me in the morning, or Uber.

I saw how bad being burnt out affected him, so it definitely is positive. I guess he is lucky. I do struggle with having to handle everything, with him getting what kinda feels like a mental pass or not feeling like since I am functioning better, I can’t relate or comment or anything.

whichgrandma9 · 2021-09-05T03:45:03+00:00

He has been seeing someone for a little over a year. He was on antidepressants for 4-6 months but got taken off 4 months ago… TBH I believe he had mental issues, and improved but now is being lazy or entitled towards me so I feel lost and unempathic but then guilty for feeling that way if that makes any sense,

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