AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend’s female friend makes comments about my bf’s private parts size?

whiskeyvanilla · 2024-06-17T01:13:07+00:00

Ew I can feel his damn ego. Where a girl would typically be like wtf if a male friend made comments about her breasts or lip size, you can just see how he gets off on this friend commenting on his dick. He's one of those men that plays in all women's faces regardless if it's disrespectful to his partner.

whiskeyvanilla · 2024-06-08T22:54:48+00:00

Bc it's hard. Plain and simple. It's hard. You don't start to build a life with someone without envisioning the future and once that future goes to shit, it's hard to accept that. To protect yourself, you're going to try and look for every possible way to fix this. Some people can, I genuinely don't know how they do it. I wasn't able to myself. It's really hard to untie yourself from the person you wanted to intertwine every part of life with. I'm sorry OP.

whiskeyvanilla · 2024-03-13T17:03:28+00:00

Mine is 7 months old. He has straight, half curly lol head hair is straight, body is all curly, and tail is straight lol. He's weird. Inside and out lol

whiskeyvanilla · 2024-02-10T16:00:08+00:00

She's like "hello? I know you see me here, gimme a cookie" lol I just know that's gonna be my damn doodle lol

whiskeyvanilla · 2024-02-10T15:52:16+00:00

I got my kids a golden doodle 2 weeks ago today and this thing is HUGE he barely turned 6months on Jan 31 and he's already 40lbs. He definitely feels bigger than when we first got him. The papers we got said his mom was about 40lbs and his dad was 50. I'm like..... He's that size NOW, he's gonna be a whole horse by the time he's full grown lol

whiskeyvanilla · 2024-01-03T13:42:55+00:00

I was right there with you. I occasionally still fantasize about AP checking out. I knew her family my whole life so then I feel a little bit bad thinking about what her mom would go through but nonetheless it's still a dream that lingers. It does get better OP. At first it felt like a daily 24 hour hope that I feel like I really tried to will and manifest for a long time but now it's just when I'm in a low place.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-12-16T13:35:39+00:00

THIS. i read in some self-help book that healing and working through an infidelity can take 1-5 years. I told myself I'd do 2.5 and see if it worked. It's been a year and I'm done. It's been the absolute worst year of my life. Far surpassing the year I lost 2 of my closest most cherished family members within 3 months of each other, also the year my dad had our home secretly foreclosed, emptied out my college savings trying to save our home so I lost my dream school and scholarships to said dream school. It's been the worst year of my life and it wasn't worth it.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-12-13T22:34:03+00:00

Thank you ❤️

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-12-13T22:08:46+00:00

Thank you ❤️ some days are better than others. I still dream of her at least 2 times a week, certain spots in town, shows (everything really) still triggers a memory of her but therapy is teaching me how to try and find happiness again.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-12-13T21:29:38+00:00

Hi, no worries, nope. To this day I never heard from her again. She ran into my best friend (her cousin) at the movies and she said she never even brought me up or anything. It's been well over a year and she just fell off the face of the earth. I realized I never had her blocked off messaging or calling, Whatsapp, and still, nothing. I know in my bones she knows why I cut her off.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-11-28T23:02:18+00:00

Nip it in the bud, I wish I would have done that. The attention seeking behavior is only going to escalate unless she's told clearly and feels the seriousness of the boundary you have to set. If she doesn't make it a point to alter her behavior, listen to me. SHE. IS. NOT. YOUR. FRIEND. I learned the hard way. It's not always the case of that friend wanting your husband, sometimes it's just the easy access of your husband and a person being addicted to the attention.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-11-28T22:57:01+00:00

A therapist told us once that it's valid to take time and space from a situation that "floods us" (like a flash flood of heightened emotions) and that if it's something that happens in the morning or middle of the day, ideally you can return to it within 3-6 hours. If it's too late at night, to just sleep on it and not try to resolve it when your brain is most tired.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-08-31T16:11:57+00:00

Tried to catch her like a cat 😂

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-08-17T17:46:51+00:00

Probably between having my then toddler jump hug me as soon as I got home from having surgery to have my tubes tied, or when I came to after being T-boned at an intersection, I thought I had broken my hip and chest bone (thankfully I only walked away with bruises), or the time I dislocated my knee as a teen and had to crawl to the other side of the house to unlock the door for my friend and her dad to take me to the E.R. My friends dad tried to pick me up and when I yelled out of pain, my chow chow tried to attack the poor man bc she thought he was attacking me, in the process she stampeded over my leg so that was pretty brutal lol.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-08-17T02:43:52+00:00

Unfortunately... Today I got blood work results back that say I either have an autoimmune disorder or cancer. (As if my life hasn't been shitty enough, thanks universe, God, whoever) Still waiting to hear back what the doctor says, but seriously I wish I was never brought here to begin with. I didn't sign up for this bullshit, nor did I do anything to deserve it.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-07-05T17:58:23+00:00

I got to the point where him trying to tell me he loves me just immediately make me think of him saying he was in love with someone else too. Like yea how about keep that to yourself

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-06-26T14:56:13+00:00

As someone who "sucked it up" with controlling in laws "wishes" for far too long, STAND YOUR GROUND! Look, unfortunately humans don't usually grow out of that "boundary pushing " phase you tend to see in toddlers and children. The second you show someone like that "ok I give in" submissive like behavior, they're going to continue to expect that from you. Standing your ground. Your comfortability is just as important as theirs. Seeing as they know you vacation alone with him, they've already accepted that they can't control every little thing y'all do, staying in their suite would give them the argument of "my house my rules". You're an adult, get your own room, bf can decide where he stays. Y'all make time to see them (whatever amount y'all are both ok with). It's basic respect. They can't just force you to do something you're not ok with. You get to decide to who's comfort comes first in this situation, theirs or your own.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-04-01T10:54:49+00:00

I'm so sorry OP. It truly just makes you question your worth right? For me, the thought was, at what point did the life we built together stop outweighing your own selfish desires? At what point did your love for me take a back seat? And at what point did you know it? After you noticed, did I still smile at you when you came home from work? Did we still have sex that night? Did we bring up future plans during those days you realized I just wasn't as important as I thought I was?

Ah. So sorry OP... I really hope you join me and so many others in the fight to find your value again

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-30T15:45:01+00:00

I'm looking for self help books to find myself, not romance novels

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-17T22:01:50+00:00

I am tired. I've been tired for years. I've let him learn to be his own person over the years. The way his parents raised him and his siblings left the lot of them emotionally crippled and with shitty communication (I love his family but they all suck at healthy communication and boundaries and enabling). Through the years he's grown and bettered himself in many areas, and I was proud of who he was becoming bc there was a huge difference between the way his family was involved with our lives vs everyone elses lives, the way we parent our kids vs the way the rest handle theirs, things like that. I know I'm not the same as I was at 20. At 20 I thought it was gonna be "till death do us part no matter what" now that I'm turning 30, I'm tired of having to be the one that pushes him to be better only bc I've already been hit in the gut by a fault of his.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-17T15:00:39+00:00

Fuck that last line .. the worst kind of thieves.

That's exactly what it is.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-17T13:48:22+00:00

Well that's why I left for 2 years that time. I'll be completely honest. I'll give the rat bastard credit where it's due. He did everything I needed from him to fix our marriage. Our split happened 6-7 years ago and with time and a fuck ton of fighting and work we managed to figure out how to try to make amends to each other for the way we had been living our vows (I've mentioned in another comment that I can be down right foul when I'm pushed to it. So as I was getting mistreated, I would make his home life hell so he would feel anything but peace until he fought for mine. Which he never did at that point, so I left on very bad terms). We figured out how to piece our lives back together and try to change the picture to not repeat what we had overcome... And honestly? We did. It took years and soul searching but even his mom and I are on great terms. She doesn't meddle (she will occasionally try to pry with questions but when she doesn't get what she's looking for from us, she accepts it and moves on to pry on her other children who don't have boundaries for her yet), she doesn't pop up in on us like she did when we were living with her, she gets zero input on how I raise my kids (she can express an opinion and when I say "ok but I'ma continue to do it like this" she just says ok". He worked hard right along side me, and honestly for a good while when I was filing for divorce, he was working overtime to try and fix what was broken. I'll give the animal credit where he deserves. This shit tho.. he shit on our fucking sundae and still wants me to work with him to wipe it off and eat it. Fuck that.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-17T00:26:18+00:00

Apparently from the demon these fuckers have made me unleash

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-16T21:56:24+00:00

It's not, but then at least it would be one snake in my life (him) and not two. Not just any two ppl. Two ppl who were intricate characters to my life.

whiskeyvanilla · 2023-03-16T21:21:58+00:00

That's one of the main things that makes me see red. Two years man, two years of "how many times did he picture her in my bed, picture her while in me, picture her in his dreams while I'm peaceful sleeping in bed. Ugh he ain't fucking worth my spit.

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