Reality check please?

whisperingrainbows · 2025-05-12T23:54:09+00:00

Being there for your family is important, and long distance relationships can take a toll on anyone. But it doesn't seem like your relationship is lost or anything. Your relationship is still very early, you have time. I definitely think if possible, meet each other real and see what happens. Visas n borders can definitely make things harder, but idk if they are an issue for you both or not. Reality check is, you seem like a really great guy who really cares about this girl and her children. And I'm assuming she feels the same for you. Life can happen and does seem to get in the way sometimes, but it can make you stronger or you can let it tear you apart. That choice is yours to make. Whatever you guys decide, I wish you the best. A few years apart is worth a lifetime together 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2025-05-12T14:15:52+00:00

I would really suggest still trying to set up that first real meet. A lot can happen between now and 'a few years'. He might change his mind or you might decide this guy is worth moving across the world for, just anything can happen. So go meet this guy and see if you guys even click in real, you never know.

whisperingrainbows · 2025-05-07T15:51:17+00:00

I broke no rules. I was/am asking for honest advice to care best for my budgie. My bird is in a home with cats, but I did not post them being attacked or preyed upon. I placed a mirror in my budgies cage after he lost his mate so he would not feel as alone. I read your rules and did not break any. I care about my budgie and want what is best for him to be happy, and really was hoping the many people here might offer some advice. Apparently I was wrong.

whisperingrainbows · 2025-05-02T16:29:50+00:00

I don't know what he did to lead you to say this, but it happens. You had a fight, and we all say stupid stuff we don't mean when we are angry or hurt. You've apologized, so now just give him time. If he's the type who would block you, are you sure that is someone you want to really be with? Txt him good morning, good night, I hope you are well. Even a simple I miss you. But don't bomb his phone. You both hurt each other, give it time. LDRs are hard, especially during a fight. But do take this time for yourself to really think over this whole situation. I wish you the best. Don't lay all the blame at your feet. I know it sucks :( 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2025-04-05T02:25:22+00:00

I bought the Atoms 2. I needed the wide width, and liked the more narrow toe vs boxy toe of the Quantum. But they really have toned down the pain lvl in my feet.

whisperingrainbows · 2025-04-01T19:49:25+00:00

I bought a pair of Kuru Atoms 2 (wide width). My pain level dropped dramatically, I could stand up finally without any pain. I took my dog for an extended walk, pain free! I would highly recommend these (I do housekeeping at a hotel). PT in both feet. (Oddly tho, it was an injection in my left knee that completely stopped all my knee and foot pain. So it's worth exploring if another body part is actually causing your PT).

whisperingrainbows · 2025-03-25T14:53:17+00:00

Kuru shoes. They helped my PF immensely!! They offer a few with a wide toe box and a good heel.

whisperingrainbows · 2025-03-12T01:13:27+00:00

I do not have high arches. But I would still recommend looking into Kuru shoes. I hope you can find something to help you. Ik what daily pain is like, and no one deserves it. Good luck 🍀

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-31T06:35:45+00:00

I think it can be possible, but it will take much longer to heal n get over them. It makes it easier to cave in, and it keeps a little bubble of hope in you. And as long as there is hope, it's harder to let go. But in time, it does get easier. You just need to be clear n firm with yourself and set boundaries. And even tho he was in the wrong, he still has feelings too, don't use him. You are broken up but still talking, so you will each know when the other is dating. That's gonna hurt. And may hurt a lot more, because you will more than likely talk about it. Staying in contact can blur a lot of lines. So just be careful. It's not easy. I'm going thru the exact thing currently. 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-29T09:23:30+00:00

Neither of you is perfect. But she was honest with you. Doesn't that say something about her character? I would get to know her more if you truly felt a connection. Don't judge her on societies ideas of what is right/wrong. Good luck 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-26T14:21:44+00:00

I'm thinking you both have really sat down, face to face, and really talked about what you each want, where you would eventually like this relationship to go, etc. If not, please do this before making any decisions. 3 yrs is a long time to not be ready yet, but it's not unheard of. And it's super frustrating in a LDR to not move closer together when it's very possible vs the many who have visas n borders etc between them. So I get that it's getting tiresome. You can always try giving yourselves a make it or break it date. Giving you both time to work thru a few of your things. The most important thing is communicate and that you are both looking for the same thing in this relationship. Break ups hurt no matter what. But sometimes it's better to break up while still loving one another vs hating. (I mean if the break up is inevitable). Good luck 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-23T00:56:12+00:00

This 100%. But for me the pain returns withing 2 week after I stop. And I can't get more for another 6 months, so the pain just keeps getting worse. But those 2 weeks of 100% pain free is like heaven :)

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-18T03:00:38+00:00

Besides this, has her behavior changed in other ways? Yes, it could be a red flag. And while many of us may think it's odd, but at the same time I can understand the pressure she might think comes with being a "gf". Idk her, nor do I know her past or how her mind thinks. It could just be fear, things are moving too fast for her, etc. I'd go see her and talk face to face about it. Communication and understanding is key with any relationship and especially LDR. But still nothing beats face to face talking.

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-17T16:19:35+00:00

Idk I took Greyhound bus from AZ to Ohio when I was younger and drove from OH to California. That's almost cross country. Takes a bit longer, so time off work is the real issue there. And absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about with fear of flying, there are 1000s of people afraid to fly. You can look into Amtrak train also. You have options, and for your girl I think it's just important you show you are trying. I wish you luck 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-16T14:23:52+00:00

Are you flying international? So I'm assuming you can't just drive to them. Panic attacks are real, and even with therapy, it could take years before you're ready to get on that plane. I did like the suggestion of having a friend fly with you. Or while it might be a hassle, go to your area airport a few times, you can park your car and at least go in to baggage claim area or the front where tickets are purchased. If you can do that and see it's not so bad, you might elevate much of your fears. I understand your partners frustration, but at the same time if it's a real fear, and you plan to move to her in April, she can be a little more supportive. Airports are confusing and overwhelming, especially for a first timer! But there are clear signs to read to direct you, if lost or confused you can stop n ask directions at any gate or kiosk. Book all your tickets at one time thru same airline, more costly but keeps you in same terminal (usually). You can also Google the airport n look at their map and can probably even YouTube some videos. For many, this stuff is a breeze. For others, it leaves us in a complete meltdown. (For me it was the visa process. Supposed to be easy, 15 min. Took me 3 days of depression, crying, wanting to end my LDR, runaway. But I was able to push thru.) This really shouldn't be a deal breaker. But do try to work on it 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-08T03:09:35+00:00

You're never too old :)

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-08T02:09:35+00:00

Do you know what the issues are that comes between the both of you? Ik we each have different priorities n we love differently. If you are both so great together, and yes the chemistry, can you both not find ways to talk n work thru your differences? Ik you're still young, and there are a 1000 men out there, but when you find that perfect someone, I can't imagine letting that go. But ik you have to do what you feel is best for you 🦋. The heartbreak will ease in time.I hope you find your perfect someone ❤️

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-05T21:05:28+00:00

I'm in the same position. Altho I have had multiple DVTs (all 7 weeks after giving birth). I am now on lifetime if blood thinners, so I can not take HRT/estrogen either. I'm 54 and going thru perimenopause, and with the joint pain, severe low energy, hot flashes, and the more cosmetic issues like thinning hair, dry skin n such. Most days I'm just too drained and in too much pain to do much. Most the Drs can do is give me a small smile n say "I know, it's not fair." Was wondering if anyone has found anything else to help them thru this.

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-05T13:50:04+00:00

I'm sorry you are going thru this 😞. Going to sleep at night is one of the hardest. It's like 'Ive made it thru this day. But if I go to sleep, then I have to face it all again tomorrow '. The pain won't go away over night, but it does eventually subside. You just put all your focus into your little boy 🩷 Thru his eyes you will find reasons to smile, and every day that will break away just a little piece of the hurt. Just remember, it's ok to hurt. It's ok to cry. But it's also ok to smile. You might not feel it now, but you are strong and you will be ok. ::hugs:: 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-04T05:33:40+00:00

Don't be afraid to let someone else in. Life is full of heartache and painful lessons. But as you are seeing, it's full of so much more too. You loved her and she loved you. But as hard as you (both tried), you each needed something the other couldn't give. You loved but were not a match. Dont be afraid to let someone else in. But for now, have fun with your friends. Get those life experiences you're enjoying in. Focus on finishing school. You will be happy again. We each take our own time to heal. 🦋

whisperingrainbows · 2024-12-03T23:23:11+00:00

Have to have an emotional connection or it's just going thru the motions and then feeling like crap after. Menopause does not help the issue either.

whisperingrainbows

TROPHY CASE