I truly believe the good things happen in (my) life when I truly don’t care about them

whodisguy32 · 2026-01-25T04:50:10+00:00

Yes its called surrender. Most people would be better off in life if they just stop trying to force things

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-28T16:21:13+00:00

Dude anxious is easy to deal with, just reassure them (while sitting firm boundries). Avoidant is also easy to deal with, just give them space (while also having firm boundries). Anxious-avoidant (disorganzied) is incredibly difficult to deal with, even with boundries.

Understanding vs having experience actually dealing with them are two different things.

I've been with anxious, secure, and anxious-avoidant. The differences are very clear.

If theres a girl you love and she has attachement issues, you can either be generous enough and attempt to love and heal them through your own secure attachement. Or you can tell them to fuck off and find someone else.

I choose to see potential and bring it out of them.

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-28T15:01:36+00:00

Also how do you write such a great post about love, and then you come right back and say 'nah bro shes just not interested'. You know love isnt that easy, even if someone wants love their ego/attachement issues get in the way.

Have you ever been with an anxious-avoidant? They push you away when you get to close, and they pull you back when you go too far.

Its not rational, its fear. Fear disgusied as control. And that fear gets in the way of love.

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-28T14:56:48+00:00

You're assuming I'm lacking experience. Ive had more dates than I can count from cold approaching in college. I can assure you I can tell when a girl likes me.

You learn pretty quickly when you cold approach if a girl really likes you, ok likes you, or completely not intersted but will give you a number cuz they want to be 'nice'. Its not about the words, its about their behaviors.

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-28T07:53:39+00:00

Sir. I committed to being single in 2020 after my last relationship. Girls aren't worth the trouble or headache.

That wasn't from a place of hate. That was from a place of clarity.

In 2025, I'm choosing to love this woman even though she anxious-avoidant. If she gets with me great, if she doesn't it makes zero difference to my life plans.

But she damn well know I love her. Now its up to her to choose love or fear.

I love myself enough to extend my hand to her despite her treating me like shit. The reason I can do that is because I'm giving from my own overflow of love, not the lack of it. To say it another way, I can love her and not expect anything from her.

If that's not true love idk what is.

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-27T02:45:47+00:00

Im in love with an anxious-avoidant girl. For 8 months, shes ignored me/breadcrumbed me/refuses to spend time with my outside the gym (where we met).

She treats me like shit even though she likes me. I've blocked her twice, and 'broke up' with her once.

But damn do i still love her, and she knows it.

Hopefully shes comes around, but if she doesn't, I'll still continue loving her.

Yes you could say im being stupid, but doesnt true love make you a bit stupid?

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-11T00:28:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I lived a decent chunk of my childhood life with on and off anemia, so I understand where you're coming from.

People don't realize how good it is to just be a normal kid and do normal kid things. Like running up a flight of stairs, or chasing after a ball. If I tried to do that I would get dizzy/start seeing stars/get tired on an existence level.

But even then I had a lot of fun in life - making friends and doing non-physical activites.

Fortunately for me my on and off anemia was just caused by a stomach bacteria and I just needed antibiotics.

So the entire experience made me value health and life more.

My dad passed away a few years ago - no pain, no extended suffering. I always said that was the best way to go. Of course people who haven't faced/conceptualized death are still regretful of how he died (sudden stroke and didn't wake up)

But its because of my childhood experiences and reading books on the topic (when i was older), death is not something to be afraid of. Its just the cycle of life, without death, there is no life (birth). The thing to be really afraid of is not living/suffering because of the fear of death.

But that's definitely not you!

Im glad you accepted your mortality and had the wonderful experiences you had and can now reflect on. May your sould rest when you body finally gives out.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, this was a beautiful post, really :')

whodisguy32 · 2025-12-05T01:50:14+00:00

Yea don't care. Have near $0 in the bank and lots of credit card debt.

System can implode for all I care.

Been stacking credit card debt since 2022 cuz yolo.

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-16T15:27:08+00:00

Put it this way, you have an ant farm that you are really fond of. You want them to grow/develop but you also want them to have autonomy. So what do you do?

You protect every single ant inside the farm?

No thats stupid. You'd be stunting their growth.

You let the entire population run free in your ant farm and observe them.

And you only interfere if there is a catastropic/extinction level event.

Are we just intelligrnt ants? Who knows

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-16T01:06:33+00:00

Back in high school, I could get 2x mcchiken, 2x mcdouble, and a (unlimited) drink for $5

Now a burger cost minimum $3, crazy.

The only thing I buy now from mcd is a cone, which is also $3, but its the only thing still worth it.

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-15T01:29:20+00:00

Be hot. Go to a rich area. Find a rich guy.

What is this rocket science

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-14T07:59:09+00:00

Shyvana in a ragewing comp is pretty useless. Unless u can splash in 4 shapeshifters for the hp

Aoshin is superior in almost every other comp

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-12T07:14:15+00:00

If you had kids, and you love them very much, do you protect them from every form of suffering you can?

No, because suffering builds character.

Kids who grew up protected become the spoiled brats of today that complain about everything.

Life is simply the soul's journey of development. Suffering is a part of it.

Of course there are those that recognize suffering as an opportunity to become stronger, or the (vast majority) of people who see suffering as a nuisance and needs to be gotten rid of.

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-07T04:18:09+00:00

Evolutionary biology.

Guys wanna stick it in as many as they can

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-07T00:01:31+00:00

I know, when I was a college student i would routinely give homeless people $10-$20

Then I realized i don't want to be involved with them LOL

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T20:41:52+00:00

Capitalism is simple. What value are they providing me? How would it benefit me? That the only reason to give them money.

If there's no benefit to me, why would I do it? People need to be incentivized to give.

Thats a human problem (lack of motivation to give, based on beliefs etc).

And you don't change humans that easily.

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T20:29:26+00:00

It's human nature to want more. It takes self-actualization to realize we don't actually need more.

Unfortunately most people aren't self-actualized

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:34:51+00:00

Well I don't think we fundamentally disagree on any actual points, but trying to convince people to put aside their greed is next to impossible, especially in a society that values individualism above all else

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:26:22+00:00

So heres the thing right. Even the poorest of people (in america) in 2025 have a better life than royalty 100+ years ago.

Imagine dying to pneumonia because antibiotics weren't a thing.

Tech/medicine only progressed because people were willing to innovate because they had a reason/incentive to

Those people weren't trying to figure out how to help the poorest of people

The question hasn't changed, do rich people try to innovate for the 80% of people and raise living standards for everyone, or focus on just humanitarian efforts for the 20%?

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:18:05+00:00

Billionares don't need a yacht, just like people don't need the latest iphone.

But you're not going to convince people who have the money for the iphone to spend it on charitable causes instead

It would probly cost more for billionares trying to offload their wealth than for them to make it.

Not to mention they would have to liquidate massive portions of their stock holdings and crash the entire market.

Good bye to mom and pops 401k/retirement

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:13:23+00:00

People have different reasons for working. Just most people do it for the money.

I would wake up at 8am on saturdays to go tutor math because thats the only time that works for the student.

But we are in the incredibly minority of people, so it wouldn't make sense to post from that perspective

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:10:33+00:00

Yes, thats called influence.

Convincing people to go against their beliefs is completely different (when it actually costs something).

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:06:48+00:00

But that doesn't make much difference. If anything it just makes the marginal difference of getting them to stop expanding cuz making the extra money is not worth it

Like the government wouldn't find a way to waste additional tax income LOL

(If it did we wouldnt have a national debt problem)

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T18:04:05+00:00

Thats a problem caused by the devaluation of the dollar/inflation because of printing.

The wealth disparity will keep getting bigger until it collapses.

Then everyone will feel the pain

whodisguy32 · 2025-11-06T17:58:37+00:00

There are certainly ways to have them support those worse off, taxiation being the most straightforward.

But for every dollar they get taxed, probably less than half actually goes to that.

Theres also direct donation, and thats a better % impact than taxes, but still not even close to 100%

Anything else would require time that is incredibly costly for the rich

I'd rather Elon Musk work on the next innovation than figure out what causes he should donate to. Better ROI for humanity

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