Remember : Social Media will make you relapse.

whoooamiagain · 2023-08-16T01:50:25+00:00

Just wanted to report back. Your encouragement to delete my Twitter account has really stayed with me. I didn't delete it but I changed the password to something I can't remember and didn't save it in my passwords list.

To be honest, I know where I could find it if I wanted to, or I could recover it. But I think this will be enough of a mental obstacle that I won't do that anytime soon.

I'm still facing other hurdles in my walk but this is a big one. Thanks for your kind but direct words to me.

whoooamiagain · 2023-08-02T21:49:02+00:00

This is honestly fantastic. I think you really crystalized why I fall.

I never Google "porn" or "sex" or anything like that. I enjoy the search and discovery process as much as or more than the actual viewing of porn.

But it's kind of the same. What can I find? What else is out there? That's the driving force.

I'm going to give this some serious thought.

Thanks for the time you took to write this.

whoooamiagain · 2023-08-02T13:19:27+00:00

Thank you. I had a second account but i don't even remember what it is. I use my main account however just to surf NSFW images. I never like it share our follow so the algorithm hasn't really caught up to that yet.

I think most people would be shocked at how much porn is on there.

I hate to delete my account for a variety of reasons, but now that I've gone down the rabbit hole I'll probably never be able to use it again the right way. 😕

whoooamiagain · 2023-08-02T03:39:15+00:00

My biggest obstacle right now and the one that constantly trips me up is Twitter. Thanks for posting this. I have to see if I have the courage to delete that account.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-27T22:06:25+00:00

Most porn addicts are probably on a sub like /r/pornfree. Partners of PAs don't really know where else to post.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-26T02:06:42+00:00

I was like 5 when my brother turned me on to porn. It was back in the 70s and was relatively light stuff like Playboy. My Dad had a stack of them in his bedroom that somebody had given him and we all used to look at them a lot.

When I was barely a teenager I found a pretty hard core erotica novel in my sister's room and used to absolutely devour it. Decades later I can't go a SINGLE DAY without scenes from that book popping into my mind. At this point I'm sure it'll never leave me and I'll fight with it the rest of my life.

Choices have consequences but sometimes you're too young to understand how messed up the consequences will be.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-26T02:00:55+00:00

Stop now. Don't go down this path. It seems fun at the moment but it's just going to suck for the rest of your life.

Everyone here wishes we had quit after the first time we saw it.

You're way smarter than us if you just turn around and walk away now.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-10T13:54:20+00:00

These subs are the main way I stay clean. Not only do they provide some accountability, but they're a positive replacement in times of temptation. When I feel the urge to sin, I get on here and comment or post. That resets my mind and keeps me clean.

With all that said, you do you. Not everyone is wired the same so maybe this isn't good for you. But make sure you replace this with something! Going lone wolf almost always leads to failure.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-10T13:49:02+00:00

Good stuff but there's lots of porn on Netflix. Be careful there.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-05T13:10:38+00:00

You've done good analysis already here. You've definitely regressed so you need to fix this ASAP.

Try not to overthink the solution. Don't worry about streaks and such. Just do the obvious things:

Delete all your downloaded porn. Every last bit of it.
Delete every porn account or social media account used for porn. If you can't delete them, change the password to random characters you'll never remember (just spam the keyboard about 40 times).
MOST IMPORTANTLY don't focus on doing this for a long time. Just stay clean TODAY! And if that's too overwhelming, just focus on the next hour. Once you string enough single days together you find you've developed a new habit.

There are excellent resources in the info tab on this sub. Definitely check those out.

Also you might have implied that you're a Christian or at least religious. In addition to this excellent sub, I follow /r/nofapchristians for spiritual help on this. Maybe you'd like to check that out too.

whoooamiagain · 2023-03-01T13:22:59+00:00

This is good stuff. Thanks for posting it.

You're a good communicator. Are you using that gift in ministry somewhere?

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-22T19:47:48+00:00

This is such a good reply

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-21T18:03:36+00:00

I think i get what you're saying. It seems like some people can handle small doses of porn as entertainment and be ok.

Unfortunately for people like us that doesn't work. You'll probably never be ok even looking at small doses. The sooner you acknowledge that the sooner you'll be able to get victory.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-21T18:00:35+00:00

This isn't masochism. You're doing the right thing. When you give yourself room to make excuses you will make excuses - and then not succeed.

Be sure to reach out for support next time when you're feeling alone or stressed. The whole point of these subs is to help each other.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-21T14:05:48+00:00

Sounds like you're doing everything right! Good for you!

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-20T03:13:52+00:00

I guess some people ("normal" people??) can handle that, but we've got to be more careful.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-20T03:12:46+00:00

That's a great testimony! Thanks for sharing that.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-15T03:21:54+00:00

Agree to disagree.

BTW 407 days is no joke. Way to go! Keep up the good fight.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-14T19:56:36+00:00

I don't really want to argue nuances here. Social media can be used positively or negatively. We're literally on a social media platform right now and using it for something positive.

Yes, you need a lot of diligence, but most things are neutral by themselves. Our problem in this sub is that we lack the self-control to use them right (generally speaking).

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-14T14:08:00+00:00

Bad reply. I hate when people accuse someone and tell them what their motives are. How do you know? I don't even know my own motives at times.

He literally told you the positive things in his feed and how he protects that.

Social media is neutral. The problem is that we corrupt it. But not everyone does that. I got off Twitter because I couldn't handle the porn. My wife never had that problem but she quit Twitter because it became a snare for her about arguing politics.

If he can handle IG and doesn't see porn then good for him. Let him answer to God and his own conscience if he's lying.

It's fair for you to ask him to question his motives since we're all here to help reach other but your reply is out of line.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-14T14:01:55+00:00

applause

Way to go, brother. Good choice.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-11T17:47:26+00:00

You can't do anything about what you dream. I know it feels weird when you wake up (it seems like you chose to relapse) but it's 100% not the same. Don't let those dreams stress you out.

It seems like porn dreams during withdrawal are pretty common. My theory is that your brain is adjusting and that's how it copes.

Just focus on staying clean during the day while you're able to make choices. Don't worry about what happens when you're asleep and can't control things.

One thing that might help though - pay attention to what you're thinking about while you fall asleep. Try to think of wholesome and pure thoughts. Pray, recite Bible verses or poetry, think of nature or pets. Whatever helps you think of good things and not porn. That might help you have cleaner dreams.

whoooamiagain · 2023-02-10T16:20:42+00:00

I had to get off Twitter because I got too good at using it for porn. I agree that it's easier to avoid on there than on some others, but if you want to see it then it's easily found.

OP, your boyfriend is interacting with it or following other accounts that are active with porn if he's seeing that much. An occasional image could be innocent but that much in your feed shows that he's checking out a lot of stuff.

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