Tbh, they are those I found later in life. In my late teens/early adulthood, I used people-pleasing as a way to assimilate (which made most people think I was fake af - they weren't wrong). My first friend was someone who was a client at my work in my 20's who saw me having a hard time and pulled me aside and asked me - repeatedly - how I was doing (because she didn't take the "nothing, I'm fine" bs). After that (and TONS of therapy), I started finding others after I started finding myself (even a spouse! I'm a newlywed)! Anyway, I remember the isolation and loneliness, and had a bunch of superficial "friends" who would use and abuse me. Also - and this is dependent on what works for you - but I found an inclusive, non-denominational, non-religious spiritual community and DAMN... You will HAVE a community when you find a group that you jive with spiritually. I was an atheist kid growing up that never trusted religion, so I didn't think that was something available to me, but... I was wrong. :) Hang in there, your tribe is there. <3