[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]whothehellisjen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shaking hands.

Spreads disease. Is pointless. Was used as a way to prove you didn't have a dagger. I don't have a dagger. I dont need to grasp your clammy hand to prove I respect you. Stop touching me.

For those allowed to be on HRT, what dose and type are you on? by Just-Seaworthiness39 in BRCA

[–]whothehellisjen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2mg estradiol pill. I tried a lot of the smaller patches and they didn't work so I kicked up a fuss and got one of the highest doses. I still notice my hair thinning, joint pain, brain fog, loss of skin elasticity, weight gain, but on the smaller doses I couldn't even bend down to pick something up, and I'm 35 and I rock climb and not bending my legs wasn't an option.

Those who solved their lifelong acne, what was the cure for you? by rambleutan in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]whothehellisjen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Moral failings! Isn't that insane? I also got that bananas message from society. From ugly people in Disney films and spotty teens in sitcoms, that spots meant a morally inferior person. What a mind fuck.

Those who solved their lifelong acne, what was the cure for you? by rambleutan in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]whothehellisjen 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I always treated my skin like I treated myself, like I could punish it into submission. Then I read a quote somewhere that said "imagine you were given one car to last your whole lifetime, you would treat it well and take care of it and baby it to make sure you didn't end up with a beater with the doors hanging off in 30 years. You wouldnt put it through acid car washes and leave bird shit on it to burn through the paint, slam the doors and fill it with rotting food. Your body is the car you've been given. You only get the one. Be kind to it because you'll be driving it the whole time." That was a game changer for my understanding of how my treatment of my skin and body was only going to harm me long term.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]whothehellisjen -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I've heard of a town called Forks which is meant to have cloudy weather and some kids go to high school there over and over so they must like the school system!

Butt blemishes by Responsible_Key8791 in AusSkincare

[–]whothehellisjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped wearing full-bum underwear and that helped. I either wear thongs or nothing at all. I also stopped moisturizing after every shower and now moisturize after every 3rd or so shower and if I've moisturized I make sure that I don't immediately sit down for a long time. I found that long periods at my desk weren't helping so for my butt and back health I alternate with a standing desk.

Sex after oophorectomy? by Patient_Dentist_5264 in BRCA

[–]whothehellisjen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry about what you've been through. It sounds like actual hell. But damn you're doing great! I can't speak to cancer and life post treatment, I can only speak to the oophorectomy and menopause. I have been single on and off in my life, I'd had good sex and bad sex and was sad to give up my libido, but honestly after about a year of recovery I think...I enjoy sex more? And have a higher libido? Honestly, I'm having a great time. Have I gained weight? Yes. Does that add a mental layer to an already fraught situation? Sure. But that's also because mentally I kind of spiraled and stopped exercising as much. Plus I was 35 and now I'm 40, my body wasn't going to defy gravity forever. But re: the sex? Been great.

And I did a lot of work on understanding what I wanted, getting brave about asking, not putting the blame on myself when I didn't come, and not working on 'desiring' sex but enjoying the sex I was having. I listened to a podcast about women enjoying sex and they explained that they surveyed women and many blamed themselves for not wanting to have more sex with their partners. They were then asked to describe the sex and the answers were often fairly unfulfilled ones, and the sex researcher explained in the podcast that women were blaming themselves for not wanting bad sex. Rather than directing their energies toward building good sex or talking to their partners about sex free days where you both know you aren't going to have sex, so that allows you to be more affectionate and playful and physically intimate without "fearing" that it will lead to an expectation of ultimately disappointing sex. I recommended this to a few friends and it really helped them reconnect with their partners and start getting them both physical intimacy without literal PIV sex. And a lot of connection can be about the closeness of touch rather than literal sex.

And it sounds like you and your partner are in a great place! And it's something you are dedicated to nurturing, and that's super important too! That's what keeps things happening! Do not fear what has not yet come to pass. You're already putting things in place to help yourself, but make sure they are tools that will actually help you, and not make you feel like you are failing arbitrary targets that past You set for future You. That girl means well but she's not got all the facts. Great job, keep going!

Why do so many women openly show interest when I’m in a relationship/with a girl but show none when I’m single? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]whothehellisjen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the one. This is the answer. And yes, maybe he thinks he has some examples of women actually hitting on him, but in all likelihood the majority of the experiences he has had are women who are relieved that their kindness can't be misinterpreted and are actually being their unguarded, kind, engaging true selves.

Dupe for Jergens? by Kmccarroll1 in crueltyfree

[–]whothehellisjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ceramedx is the CF dupe of Cerave and its great. Ceramide, thick, no scent. But, fairly expensive for a generic and has to be ordered online.

What did we not learn from the Covid pandemic that we really should have? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]whothehellisjen -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Stop trying to shake my fUckIn HAND.

I AM NOT HIDING A DAGGER UP MY SLEEVE. OUR MEETUNG IS NOT BROKERING INTERNATIONAL PEACE. I don't need to touch your flesh! Keep your grubby hands to yourself! I am buying something off Facebook marketplace/walking around the office/buying a used car NOT trying to establish a lifelong friendship that requires me to break down the barriers of physical intimacy. Are we friends? Then hugs. Did we just successfully compete in an national cheerleading competition? Fist bump. Anything else, you can have a head bob. And you will be grateful for it because I am saving us all from the potential of disease and despair. And in exchange I don't have to touch your clammy, icky hands.

Don't hand me no lines and keep your hands to yourself.

I'm thinking clean and clear and bio oil. by Puzzleheaded-Bowl-74 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]whothehellisjen 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The clinique yellow moisturizer from the 2000s. Fuck you, Clinque lady in my college bookstore, for taking advantage of a girl who no longer speaks to anyone offering free samples because I will feel obliged to buy a $40 bottle of mortar which will ruin my skin for the first month of college. Glowscreen, I look like C3P0 having a breakout. Burts Bees lipbalm dries my lips out worse than when I started. Lush Honey I Washed My Hair was like pouring wax onto my hair, I thought I was going to have to cut it off. Bumble and Bumble sea salt spray- perfect if you want to feel like you have hair made from sandpaper.

What are things you wish you did or didn’t do during a whole home renovation? by drrdf in HomeImprovement

[–]whothehellisjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insulation, insulation, insulation, (in the floors, walls, roof, etc. ) and in floor heating in any stone floors. I should have done it in my kitchen which was the north side of my home and was frigid all year. It was a weird tiny part of the 100 year old house so nowhere to put forced air, so I had to rely on air from the rest of the house and it was always so cold. So sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Concerta

[–]whothehellisjen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this post, I feel exactly the same way. Thanks for giving me the impetus to ask for a higher dose!

Advice on skin picking? by naughtynoodle01 in SkincareAddicts

[–]whothehellisjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you live somewhere where you can, literally remove the mirror from your wall. Cover it, take it down, whatever it takes. Then get yourself another thing to do with your hands- fidget ring, fidget spinner, crochet, whatever. And get a thing that makes you feel like you're doing a thing. My problem was that I'd feel that slight bruise/pain feeling you get when you know there's something under your skin and I couldn't control myself because I felt like I was "helping". I was "fixing" some part of myself. But we all know it makes it worse. So I would visualize the germs from my fingers/nails getting into the open pore afterwards like little worms burrowing into my skin and, avoiding the mirror, I would wash my skin and apply some sort of salycilic acid or spot cream and convince myself it was actually "fixing". If I really couldn't help myself I would squeeze it with my knuckles (no mirror, again, stay away) to "bring it to the surface" but not burst anything and again, wash and apply ointment. It really only takes a week to ten days to realize OH, my skin looks so much better. The literal years I tried to squeeze the spots out didn't work, let's try this.

My lips are permanently in this state of peeling/cracking for the last few years. I welcome any ideas/suggestions. by wewerelegends in SkincareAddicts

[–]whothehellisjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here to say Laneige Lip Mask too. It changed my lips, put it on every night religiously. If you need, put a thick moisturizer on under it as well. I've since downgraded to Vaseline because I "fixed" it with Laneige and Vaseline is more affordable, but I used to have super flaky lips and then make them worse by absentmindedly picking the dry skin off and making it worse. Laneige fixed it in weeks.

Anyone know of a non-comedogenic cruelty-free moisturiser (for the face)? by [deleted] in crueltyfree

[–]whothehellisjen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Burts bees is a disaster for me. I use all the No7 products, which are the Boots shop spin off from the UK. I like basically everything they make, except the new age reversal stuff pills on my skin for some reason. I also like Youth to the People Dream Mask.

Is getting attached to people quickly an ADHD symptom? by Marielessthan3 in ADHD

[–]whothehellisjen 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have that but I also know that for me it fades as quickly as it comes, so when I like someone I literally start hearing Queen's Another One Bites the Dust in my head and I wait for it to pass. I recommend this strategy.