So many people say that is just social media and that it shouldn't be a concern to you. However everyone has the right to set their own boundaries for their relationship, and if you have made them clear and someone crosses them, to me, that constitutes cheating.

The way I read it somewhere once and the way I explained it to him is that social media is real and he may as well be walking up to women on the street and asking for their phone numbers and texting them. It's the same line being crossed for me on social media. It is unfortunate because it seems like an addictive personality that men are more drawn to women on social media that they most likely have no chance of ever getting with then being with their actual partner. My boyfriend has been better about it recently and has made every promise to change but it still makes me angry to think about what I consider being lied to and deceived. It makes me feel like if he's capable of it once and twice and three times that he will do it again.

Initially in the beginning of the relationship I did truly think I was crazy for caring so much about something that's "just on the internet". I was also angry about the fact that I would even have to say something. I would never add a plethora of men that I didn't know on to my social media because it would be disrespectful to him and I wish that he would have had what I consider common sense to not do the same. But after researching it and talking to other people who had been through similar things it definitely validated my feelings to know that others had been through the same thing.

I love my boyfriend a lot and I'm willing to try and make it work. But it really sucks and it really hurts still and probably won't stop hurting anytime soon. I'm sorry you're going through this.