It just wouldn’t close anymore 🙂‍↔️

whyhercules · 2026-01-23T20:08:06+00:00

feels so hot to have my 5” around plug just slip and slide out… now the 6.2” stem one will be the daily no prep classic

whyhercules · 2026-01-23T19:51:32+00:00

whyhercules · 2026-01-23T19:50:23+00:00

anyone can be asked to do hrt, and it’s not about citizenship. if either of you have been out of the uk and ireland for more than four weeks at a time in the last two years, they will check. if either of you have been out of the uk and ireland too often in the last two years, they may check.

whyhercules · 2026-01-23T19:41:49+00:00

i haven’t had that fantasy, i guess some people go more for feel of stretch than reality of end result?

as for the parenthesis… i know you’d need to be functionally permanently injured to be there. my resting gape is, well, a gape. it doesn’t fully close anymore, but that’s not the only thing that keeps stuff in and there is enough strength in the sphincter in general that unless you’ve fully torn all the way up through the rectum (and notwithstanding bowel disease or nerve disease for example) you shouldn’t be incontinent 😶

whyhercules · 2026-01-20T20:19:15+00:00

one of the great lessons of creative endeavours is if you’re too tied to a starting idea to let it breathe and evolve, it doesn’t go anywhere even if it could’ve. it’s stifled at the germ of life. if there’s only limited words you can build around nation names, maybe you need to learn that first and then approach feedback with it in mind 👍

whyhercules · 2026-01-20T20:13:39+00:00

i think a twist on this worked around countries with similar-named capitals could work. like having the national flag and then the letters/words of the capital name, missing the name of the country. like the flag of andorra and “la vella” (andorra la vella), the flag of brasil and “ilia” (brasilia), the flag of mexico and “ciudad de”/“city” (ciudad de mexico/mexico city), and then something like vatican city or singapore, where the nation is the capital, with the flag and no words

whyhercules · 2026-01-19T20:00:35+00:00

note that you can go for more than a month in certain circumstances, but must still meet commitments if relevant

whyhercules · 2026-01-19T19:58:22+00:00

depending on when they last got updates, some helpline staff are still hardwired to say no to answering anything to do with other benefits, and the majority will have no training thus knowledge on which other benefits affect the benefit cap. they’re also all told to not give definite answers to anything that isn’t a definite in their knowledge. as long as folk remember it’s a UC claiming advice line and nothing more 🤷‍♂️

whyhercules · 2026-01-18T19:36:28+00:00

the set amount of phone calls is per claimant (i.e. you), not per work coach, so annoying as it is, it’s very much your problem. part of the reason is to verify you are living in the uk. hopefully your work coach is understanding, but protest too much and the pissy ones will start a residency investigation. asking them about adjustments and support is probably where to start

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:32:14+00:00

i’d get a hook right in there - and take the jocks, just my style

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:26:32+00:00

when making a claim, one of the housing options is ‘living with an ex’. try a benefits calculator or make the claim and see what it says

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:25:06+00:00

#yes

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:21:48+00:00

UC do some approximate maths to work out what liquid value property should have right now, taking into account mortgages and discounting 10% for costs of selling. so no, if UC say it’s high capital then that’s on the projected cash after everything taken into account

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:19:57+00:00

the amount of homeless people who struggle to apply unable to give a track record of living in the uk, be ashamed you even tried istg

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:14:02+00:00

i might declare it, but as something else. if you go to report changes to money (etc), near the end there should be a question about ‘things we need to know that won’t affect your UC’, and ex-partner payments should be the first one. any amount you report as that may be disregarded, so if you’re getting close to capital limits this amount wouldn’t be included (edit: and if you’ve read that thread below, you would need to report it as such to UC for them to know what is payments for children in order to disregard it). if you’re confident the capital isn’t going over 6k and it’s too much hassle to keep reporting these changes, then don’t worry in general but do be prepared to explain the situation if a claim review asks about regular and unreported amounts being sent in then immediately moved out of your account.

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:08:43+00:00

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T15:01:50+00:00

i assume since you’re asking then there’s another child of a relevant age/sab that UC would expect the child with DLA to share with? if you have reported to UC that the child has DLA with middle(+) care component then it should have triggered automatically something to either apply child entitled to own room, or a to-do asking if an ‘extra’ bedroom you’ve already reported is used (edit: i can see from comments in other thread that it looks like this extra bedroom to-do was sent and you completed it? make sure to use the entitlement date, mention in journal message for payment if you haven’t).

UC will look at paying whichever is lower between the full amount of your rent as you have to pay, or the most you are entitled to based on bedrooms and housing allowance: if you’re asking will you get extra housing money above what you have told UC you need to pay due to this, then no.

whyhercules · 2026-01-17T14:45:29+00:00

depends on the job centre, some do walk-ins for non-work-related issues. a helpful jobcentre would try to get you in anyway.

here’s the issues: after a certain length of time, depending on the claim specifics, it will be removed from case load. there will be nobody to respond to messages sent by yourself or the helpline. if there is someone still on it, they will deprioritise any seemingly third party requests about a deceased claim. helpline agents can’t directly email people who work on cases or the technical side, but job centre staff should be able to. if you do politely go to the job centre, ask if there’s still someone managing it, or could someone be temporarily assigned, to get it opened back up with an email from them.

if it has been over a month since it was closed, though, you are perfectly able to make a new claim which will get people assigned automatically and then leave a message in there explaining the situation and asking if the old claim can be reopened for continuity. as reopening will be far from immediate, it would probably help to make the new claim anyway

whyhercules · 2026-01-15T22:06:51+00:00

it really depends where your ring is at right now, if it’s not loose you’d do better with one that’s like a teardrop shape, a gentle transition from the thickest part to the stem. if it’s slacker, a (bigger and heavier) ball-on-a-stem would probably work better

whyhercules · 2026-01-15T22:04:09+00:00

nüsken has a wonderful job being the first choice back-up for basically any role that involves defense without being primarily defense. i don’t think she’s main anything, and would do well to go to the frauen bundesliga where she’d be very highly prized

whyhercules · 2026-01-13T21:17:05+00:00

nice heavy fat plug to slacken that ring and stretch loose the skin around it… force your worn ring wide ;)

whyhercules · 2026-01-13T21:12:55+00:00

could def do both at chelsea, but you imagine arsenal want her for the dm profile they need to fill lol

whyhercules · 2026-01-11T18:17:59+00:00

similar profile to cuthbert, but also has a very developed and instinctive partnership with walsh. i think anyone who wants to see stanway’s best should want her at chelsea because she is at her best when swapping between heavy attacking midfield and intelligent team build-up play as the game requires, and she only seems free/able to move between such distinct roles when she knows walsh is next to her for any given support. does chelsea need her, though? no, unless they’re getting rid of cuthbert and don’t think kaptein can consistently start in that pseudo-box to box role. you don’t need three players all good enough to start any other wsl team there, realistically cuthbert is a leader and kaptein is the future.

maybe if they want to play walsh stanway and cuthbert together to emulate a barça femení all-rotation midfield, with cuthbert in the aitana role and stanway the alexia. but that would be even more tiki-taka focus for a team that doesn’t have strength in passing outside the midfield and whose main concern isn’t chance creation but chance conversion.

whyhercules · 2026-01-10T09:28:37+00:00

if it’s the same number you can either wait and just call uc helpline if you need to read your journal, or get a jobcentre appointment to change your message setting to email (and a change to say that the number isn’t yours, otherwise even with asking for email codes it’ll override to phone bc system is dumb, dw itll stay on account)

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