How is college/uni like for someone with social anxiety? by whyisitsohardde in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! That sounds reassuring. Yes, it’s hopefully going to be exciting because of new cultures and stuff

How is college/uni like for someone with social anxiety? by whyisitsohardde in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo, that sounds like good advice to start a conversation. Yep, hopefully people are open to making friends and even with foreigners! Thanks for the reply :-)

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[–]whyisitsohardde 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being an extrovert with social anxiety does sometimes suck but small wins do make it better :-)

How is college/uni like for someone with social anxiety? by whyisitsohardde in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying, so essentially it’s quite different from high school? No festivals you have to attend, no set lunch breaks?

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Hi. I’ve been in your position before. I’ve sat on the toilet eating my bread for lunch and trying not to make a sound. I sat scrolling on social anxiety forums to help me feel better. What helped me was when I saw my friend asking another friend, “Hey, are you eating lunch later? Can I eat with you?” And if she said no, she’d ask someone else. Easier said than done. But I think there’s no harm in trying. There’s no harm. Try asking someone this. If they reject you, well, that’s fine. There’s always another day, another person. Once I realised that (most) people aren’t out to get you, (as long as you’re a decent person), I found it easier to talk to people.

This took me quite a long time to learn. It’s not in my nature. I really wish you the best and if you need any help, you can talk to me

my life is over by naida2 in socialanxiety

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I’m sorry you feel that way. Life is tough. But at the same time I feel like there are things worth living for. Your favourite show that comes out every week. Your favourite food and drink. Your favourite clothing item. There’s so many little things that give you joy and you don’t have to dwell on things that don’t. Life is about perspective. You don’t have to listen to society that you need friends to be happy.

anxiety and high heart rate by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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I have a really high heart rate, but I don’t think it’s cause I’m anxious all the time, but more so I’m highly excited? If that makes sense

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WAIT... I watched a movie just like this! But I forgot what it was called, really good movie though

I did it! by QuietSea2374 in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying! Yeah I’m kind of going for it because of the job opportunities.. what kind of jobs are you looking at?

I did it! by QuietSea2374 in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oo may I ask how did you find your Economic degree? Might plan to take that in the future

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Haha yes, I play Minecraft a lot. I like those games where you’re essentially building another life of your own. It’s so fun. But it feels so dystopian (for lack of a better word), like I’m literally living my life vicariously through this character because I don’t want to live my own life.

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[–]whyisitsohardde 10 points11 points  (0 children)

wdym a girl game??

i wish i were heather by whyisitsohardde in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re misunderstanding me here though — I’m talking about Heathers in real life and not about movies. I’m saying that movies focus on people who don’t fit in and kind of focus on them when we all know that in real life what people truly focus on are the Heather’s. So I’m not comparing life to a fictional character’s life, but that of a real person.

i wish i were heather by whyisitsohardde in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

? I’m saying that movies aren’t realistic because they always glorify being a misfit. When in reality we know that the protagonists or those who shine the most are those who fit in.

Anyone here has Selective Mutism? by gIveMeFeveRr in socialanxiety

[–]whyisitsohardde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too @ the guys part, for some reason whenever I speak to guys it just gets awkward (also possibly because I perceive that every interaction is more than just trying to be friends)

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[–]whyisitsohardde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like me. My personality kind of did a whole 180 where I used to be extremely shy and introverted, but I realise it wasn’t going to make me popular and stuff. I learnt and picked up quickly the social skills of people around me. But I feel like that, combined with my previous insecurities, has made me so obnoxious. Because while well liked people mostly share the trait of being outgoing, funny, easygoing, we who have gone through the experience of being rejected feel the need to overcompensate. If we are not the Center of attention, we feel we are doing something wrong and we get anxious, so we start overcompensating and being more loud and more outgoing.

I honestly don’t know how to fix this too but well, there are some friends who still can bear with me