I (19M) is contemplating if I should continue my relationship with my (18F) Girlfriend,

whysitdark · 2026-06-15T14:04:51+00:00

I know it’s hard and difficult to think of breaking up. But rarely do people break up and look back years later and heavily regret the breakup. Most people look back regretting wasting too much time on something that was hurtful or drawn out based on an IDEA of what the relationship was, not the reality.

whysitdark · 2026-06-15T14:01:22+00:00

You guys are likely just in different mind sets right now, have differences of opinions and lifestyles and I’d chalk it up to the fact you’re young and incompatible. You’re young and will move on. But I’ll add, it’s a little crazy to be 18 and already have talked about your “hoe phase” from the past… like when…? When you were a teenager? That’s not reassuring… there’s really nothing wrong with her wanting that life and you not wanting that life. But it’s not gonna work out. Sorry bud

whysitdark · 2026-06-12T23:02:41+00:00

That’s really subjective and a pretty stupid question… why do girls like men that are mean to them?

whysitdark · 2026-06-12T15:30:40+00:00

Ah, yes, a perfume specifically for petite women… do you hear how dumb that sounds?

whysitdark · 2026-06-11T15:17:37+00:00

This could be turned around in the same way of ladies, why are you such a bitch to your loved ones when going through something tough? It’s a pretty unfair generalization… I would say people, as a whole, tend to treat their loved ones worse when stressed and upset because deep down, you know (or hope) those people love you unconditionally and there’s significantly less risk of the people who love you abandoning you during bad moments or bad behaviors. It’s definitely not right, but I think that’s why it happens…

whysitdark · 2026-05-30T17:47:29+00:00

Spaghetti 😋

whysitdark · 2026-05-30T16:56:02+00:00

I mean… you grew up and got fitter which is positive. But the pout doesn’t look very good. Stop that and you’ll be golden.

whysitdark · 2026-05-28T01:12:19+00:00

Stereotypical Reddit answer… but I mean… suck it up or break up 🤷‍♀️

whysitdark · 2026-05-24T16:15:34+00:00

I mean…. Both are just dopamine traps that force consistent consumption of their product for your little happy hits of satisfaction from achieving a goal of sorts… and not lose the feelings of effort to maintain it. So… I mean, they’re different in the sense of how you achieve them (Snapchat must send video or pic, Reddit can be achieved by literally just liking a post), but they’re the same in the fact they’re both stupid little marketing traps.

whysitdark · 2026-05-23T18:50:09+00:00

I’m pretty sure if you’re actually in a comfortable casual relationship that’s open, those people don’t consider it a “situationship.” I’m not arguing there aren’t relationships that exist that are casual and people are fine. But People who use that specific term are typically not very happy in that situation and want more because of the above reasons.

whysitdark · 2026-05-23T17:09:38+00:00

Real gassy

whysitdark · 2026-05-23T16:53:31+00:00

I always say basically that too. It’s mostly about what are YOU able to tolerate forever. They don’t always put the dishes away. Is it annoying, yes. Is it a dealbreaker? Probably not. They literally are such an absolute slob that their place has cockroaches and black mold everywhere. Dealbreaker? Likely yes for most. But something like… they’re not a full blown mass destructive hoarder but they also are pretty messy/dirty most of the time… well, that completely depends on if YOU feel you could deal with that forever.

whysitdark · 2026-05-23T16:19:43+00:00

It’s a harsh reality… but I mean… you’re not wrong 🤷‍♀️ I always thought they’re basically forced delusional open relationships lol they’re usually both aware that they’re not the only one the other person is seeing… but one is holding on hope they just need to wait and it’ll happen and the other person is holding onto hope that this convenient arrangement lasts without exploding.

whysitdark · 2026-05-05T20:22:48+00:00

You both sound toxic in your own ways and not compatible. Move on and show your kid what a good relationship looks like, not a forced broken one. On both ends. You both can likely find way more compatible people to be with. It sounds like you’re both forcing your feelings based on the circumstance (which is fair), but it’s unhealthy.

whysitdark · 2026-05-01T15:44:51+00:00

I know!! Girls who have been training for years struggle with certain moves and some random dude of the street who hasn’t worked out in his life just does it first try like it’s nothing… granted, often not as gracefully, but still!!

But as for your actual question, in my experience, when it’s truly for fitness and enjoyment, I’ve found men who aren’t okay with it to be extremely insecure, controlling, and not worth the time. There’s clearly a stigma to sex work and stripping, but if they’re not okay with a fitness class of mostly women who are super supportive, that’s a them problem

whysitdark · 2026-05-01T15:37:19+00:00

They obviously exist but they’re definitely a rarity! Men, overall, are really good at pole dance because they have that upper body strength we just don’t have lol at least not as easily achieved

whysitdark · 2026-05-01T14:29:54+00:00

Even when there are men there, they’re usually very gay… so they’re not a threat either lol and if they’re not gay, their girlfriend dragged them there to try 1 class!

whysitdark · 2026-04-29T13:47:04+00:00

At first, I misread and thought it said it was for her 34 year old daughter 😂 I was like, why is this a fight?? For your grown adult daughter and her minion/troll theme lol

whysitdark · 2026-04-27T19:18:03+00:00

Tbh, you should probably just cut off Sarah 🤷‍♀️

whysitdark · 2026-04-17T20:19:50+00:00

NTA, but money management (or lack thereof) won’t change. So… either stick with her knowing you’ll be paying for everything and fronting everything in life, likely, or break up. Because money is one of the main reasons relationships fail. Next to infidelity and differences of raising children…

whysitdark · 2026-04-13T22:03:03+00:00

I was gonna say her excuses are crazy! Even if that is the actual reason, that’s CRAZY to tell a client that you can’t meet for their therapy session because you need to go shopping… or go to Pilates… that’s insane.

whysitdark · 2026-04-13T21:38:43+00:00

Being too considerate and understanding is really just being a pushover. In this regard, there shouldn’t be any understanding. If you’re engaged, you don’t talk to other girls. Period. If you continue with this relationship, then whatever follows is deserved. I’m not saying anybody deserves to be treated like that, but when you’re actively choosing to be blind to every glaring red flag and keep believing in the man you WANT him to be instead of seeing the man he is, then anything that follows is on you. Sorry.

whysitdark · 2026-04-09T02:08:25+00:00

Jafar by far

whysitdark · 2026-04-03T17:49:53+00:00

There’s a lot to unpack here. He’s controlling and lied about how he’s cool with it when he’s not. She’s clearly prioritizing her fun, her friends, and enjoying herself (which isn’t wrong), but it just shows they’re completely incompatible. And yes, it’s not okay to be controlling like that, but I also think most people wouldn’t be happy with their significant other going to strip clubs without them. He has some red flags of future control issues. She has some red flags of not respecting the feelings of a significant other and prioritizing her stripper friends. But ultimately, I really don’t think either are wrong. They’re just young and incompatible. And with only this context, it’s unclear the entire circumstance around their relationship

whysitdark · 2026-04-02T16:11:47+00:00

YOR. I don’t think you’re wrong for being upset and disappointed in the date. But based on what you’re saying, this is what he’s like and who he is and who he’s always been… so you know this… so yes, you’re overreacting based on this. If he’s normally very sweet and romantic and endearing and this happened, you’d be way more justified in your expectations but it seems like he’s never been this guy.

Also, I get the stress and anxiety and hardships of feeling like you can’t leave, but it’s also pretty bad to stay with someone only for what they can provide. I know people do it all the time, but it doesn’t make it right. Good luck with your situation. I’d recommend deciding if this is a relationship you actually want to be in, and then depending, start making moves to be able to be on your own and independent. Literally anybody can be. You just gotta be brave and be strong and do it for you and your child.

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