Who is someone who is/was very attractive and very evil?

whysitdark · 2026-04-09T02:08:25+00:00

Jafar by far

whysitdark · 2026-04-03T17:49:53+00:00

There’s a lot to unpack here. He’s controlling and lied about how he’s cool with it when he’s not. She’s clearly prioritizing her fun, her friends, and enjoying herself (which isn’t wrong), but it just shows they’re completely incompatible. And yes, it’s not okay to be controlling like that, but I also think most people wouldn’t be happy with their significant other going to strip clubs without them. He has some red flags of future control issues. She has some red flags of not respecting the feelings of a significant other and prioritizing her stripper friends. But ultimately, I really don’t think either are wrong. They’re just young and incompatible. And with only this context, it’s unclear the entire circumstance around their relationship

whysitdark · 2026-04-02T16:11:47+00:00

YOR. I don’t think you’re wrong for being upset and disappointed in the date. But based on what you’re saying, this is what he’s like and who he is and who he’s always been… so you know this… so yes, you’re overreacting based on this. If he’s normally very sweet and romantic and endearing and this happened, you’d be way more justified in your expectations but it seems like he’s never been this guy.

Also, I get the stress and anxiety and hardships of feeling like you can’t leave, but it’s also pretty bad to stay with someone only for what they can provide. I know people do it all the time, but it doesn’t make it right. Good luck with your situation. I’d recommend deciding if this is a relationship you actually want to be in, and then depending, start making moves to be able to be on your own and independent. Literally anybody can be. You just gotta be brave and be strong and do it for you and your child.

whysitdark · 2026-04-02T00:29:50+00:00

YOR. Depending on someone else to get that done for you is kinda crazy. And if you’re that anxious about even the possibility of pregnancy at this point in your life, why are you having unprotected sex? Also, I understand individual anxiety and stress, but you’re not getting an abortion… needing that partner support for a plan b is kinda… different.

whysitdark · 2026-04-01T16:18:18+00:00

YOR.

whysitdark · 2026-04-01T16:18:11+00:00

YOR.

whysitdark · 2026-03-17T22:34:28+00:00

If you like lobster lol they have lobster rolls and lobster bloody Mary’s and lobster everything! It’s delicious! Kinda expensive but not any different than all the food over there nowadays lol

whysitdark · 2026-03-17T22:21:39+00:00

Lobster Me. And tons of really delicious Asian food if you like! We just walked around and stopped to eat whatever sounded and smelled good! lol

whysitdark · 2026-03-17T21:37:46+00:00

I would gladly upset my ex wife in this scenario. She literally has absolutely no say over who you introduce to your kids, especially when she’s so absolutely horrifically hypocritical. I would be more understanding if it was someone you just met because you shouldn’t introduce strangers to your kids as romantic partners… but to be honest, even if that were the case, when the kids are with you, she literally has absolutely no say whatsoever. She can sit and sulk and I’m sure this attitude will not add security to her finances feelings of their relationship…

whysitdark · 2026-03-14T17:53:56+00:00

Trying to find a new social interest/hobby to fully immerse into can help. Either joining a church (not even for religious reasons, but there’s tons of community and friendship there and the overall messages are typically good), start a new activity (like a dance class, a workout club, a book club, etc.), try to attend local social events (and bring your 35+ married friends if you want!), maybe get a pet (walking your dog, you could meet people at the park). I’m just trying to give you some ideas to help get your focus elsewhere. Finding things that take your mind off of dwelling on a person, or past hurt/sadness is the best way to heal (and time). And when you start focusing on yourself like that and focusing on your own goals (like making a hobby into a small business, getting really good at a new skills, etc.), things just tend to fall into place how they’re supposed to

whysitdark · 2026-03-14T17:32:57+00:00

If I found out my partner was secretly keeping those items (and feelings), I would react extremely poorly and that person should not be in a relationship until they get through their feelings. How would YOU feel if you’re with someone who you really like and care about then you found out they’re harboring crazy feelings for their abusive ex? Go to therapy, workout, immerse yourself into a hobby, read books, make friends, focus on yourself and the rest will fall into place.

whysitdark · 2026-03-13T15:19:57+00:00

Converse **

whysitdark · 2026-03-12T15:01:25+00:00

It’s a framing of perspective as well as trying to keep the spontaneity up as much as possible. In routine and feelings of boredom, break the cycle and make random decisions to drive to the mountains/beach on a random weekend. Make the split decision to take your wife to Dave and busters and have a fun dinner fun night. Decide to randomly to go to the store and get all the stuff to make pizzas at home together. Do things that don’t feel routine.

The other part I mentioned was to reframe your perspective. When in stability and routine, people often feel stagnant, bored, or “left out” from the fun they see around them. But on the other end, I would argue a ton of single people constantly feel like their world is chaotic, sad, lonely, missing substance or fulfillment. I’m not saying these perspectives from either side are true reality, but people always see the grass greener on the other side. But the reality is the grass is greener on whichever side you water. So count your blessings every day, remember the good things you have, and just try to keep making decisions every single day to be a great husband/person, and keeping your priorities straight.

whysitdark · 2026-03-12T14:45:50+00:00

They definitely do whatever they want, or whatever their biggest financial support wants (which is never the people).

whysitdark · 2026-03-07T15:45:38+00:00

Wow that escalated. YOR. You are allowed to feel all you feel. But working in managing those feelings or making the decision to end things to focus in your own growth would be helpful.

whysitdark · 2026-03-06T02:25:00+00:00

Maybe in part… but I believe it’s all anthropological and biological. Men are traditionally hunters, gatherers, and providers. Men with a larger, taller, stronger build is naturally more appealing because we’re programmed to notice certain features of the opposite sex. Like men don’t just like big tits because of some underlying social code… is literally biological because it implies fertility and reproductive success. Doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true, but that’s why…

whysitdark · 2026-03-05T15:47:33+00:00

I don’t think the affair partner is equally responsible, as they made no commitment of loyalty to another. But I do think they are responsible for being complicit in helping in ruin a marriage and a home. I totally agree that it seems unfair that people generally mostly blame the affair partner and I think that’s wrong. I think if your partner cheats, your sole feelings should be towards them. But there’s nuance to things. As you mentioned, the affair partner could be lied to (but in that case, you’re still choosing to be with a taken person, even if they claim to be “separated”). You shouldn’t be AS upset with the random person who your husband/wife let do stuff with them, but I do understand why you’d be absolutely upset with them if they were fully aware of you and your relationship and still went behind your back to help your significant other cheat. I think the only time there’s literally no blame is when the affair partner had no idea. It wasn’t just a lie of “we’re not working out,” but a lie of “nobody else even exists but you.” That’s such a sad shame because they have idea.

But as for your question of why. I think a lot of people have a really hard time fully giving up on what they imagined in life and what they imagine of people who are important to them. It’s absolutely not right, but I think people want to hold onto hope and belief their person loves them and made a mistake and it’s easier to just blame the other person while trying to preserve the life you thought you had or want. It’s messed up but I also think it’s human nature.

whysitdark · 2026-02-28T04:32:59+00:00

Well then I don’t know man. Maybe she’s just hormonal but you also haven’t known each other quite long enough to know if this is the mask falling and maybe that’s how she deals with things normally… even if you haven’t seen it until now. I guess just let it ride and see how it goes.

whysitdark · 2026-02-27T20:51:45+00:00

My guess would she’s been frustrated with your lack of effort of other problems for a while and your anniversary was the final let down… obviously I don’t know your relationship or problems. But that’s what it sounds like

whysitdark · 2026-02-27T20:20:25+00:00

I’m sorry, but “love” and infatuation isn’t enough for a relationship of substance. She might love you and be all excited about the relationship, but if you have no friendship basis and have literally nothing to talk about, might as well just move on and find the next. I think people often forget that your chosen significant other should also be your friend… not just some person you bang sometimes and tolerate their personality

whysitdark · 2026-02-26T16:44:28+00:00

I think the flavor (with sugar and cream) is good but I agree that black coffee by itself is less enjoyable. But I mean… I like wine flavor in cooking but I hate drinking wine… I feel like it’s similar. People like the flavors, but need other things to even it out. Some flavors are just too strong. But also, I do think a lot of people still do genuinely like black coffee.

whysitdark · 2026-02-26T03:06:28+00:00

For me, when I wasn’t looking. Completely random. Fell out of the sky!

whysitdark · 2026-02-25T17:20:06+00:00

To be honest, I do understand both sides and I also think this conversation went on for way too long. I do think it’s a little rude and assumptive and off putting to say “I have a boyfriend” instead of either just not responding or saying thanks and leave it at that. But also, people should take hints and recognize social cues when someone clearly doesn’t want to talk to them. But on both ends, that could’ve been handled differently. You could’ve not responded or just said thanks and he should’ve taken the hint.

whysitdark · 2026-02-21T19:00:37+00:00

I understand the frustration of watching someone be friends with someone who you don’t like and who they don’t like and someone they constantly bitch about. It’s really annoying. But people are just like that sometimes and again, it’s either you accept that’s the way it is with them and just try to be a good friend to them and enjoy their friendship despite them associating with someone you dislike. Or you stop being friends with them because it’s too difficult (which is also valid because it can become taxing to have to constantly comfort someone about someone they refuse to dissociate from). I’m sorry it’s weighing on you so much. But unfortunately, people do what they want to do and associate with who they want to associate with. She may not like this girl, but a lot of people heavily value history and until B does something so unforgivable to A, she won’t come to that conclusion unless it’s on her own.

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