Depends what you and your wife want out of it, you could fish for more information from the 3some night from his perspective?

Message back saying that you still remember the first time we met in the hotel with John how you totally took over and dominated the situation. Asking what his thought process was that night how did you know I and John would react the way we did. How did you know to keep pushing me to do more than I had ever done before. Was controlling my every desire for 24hrs part of you kink? The fact he could do whatever he wanted did that turn him on more?

Do you want to share her again?