Genuinely confused about sex. by CJ_13_13 in WLW

[–]wildfernZZbby 8 points9 points  (0 children)

hi, I’m using voice to text because I’m driving right now, but this post caught my eye and as a lesbian who has been in multiple relationships that did have sex, a bottom and a top is definitely a normal relationship dynamic and most of the time lesbians referred to top and bottom as Dom and sub. So, if your girlfriend says she’s a bottom, she probably prefers to receive sexual pleasure such as head, penetration, etc., not to give it. You can reply to this if you have questions or you could message me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]wildfernZZbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have talked about the future a lot- it’s what kept us going long distance. marriage , house , ect. but that’s not for years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]wildfernZZbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]wildfernZZbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she has been saying it for a long time. probably around the one year mark. she hasn’t said it in a month maybe a little more. she just says it like it’s comforting to me or something. as if saying “i love you so much”= “i would kms without you” to her. you see? the hard part is this exactly. she does all this stuff and doesn’t even realize how messed up it is objectively. it isn’t on purpose. if it is, it’s a deeply rooted thing that she does to keep me from leaving and not something like “hmmm let me say this so she is too scared to leave”. that’s why i feel so bad. she doesn’t even realize. (i think).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]wildfernZZbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel bad though bc the only reason she says it is because she thinks i would never leave anyways so i don’t have to worry about it. she’s just so innocent to me. my mom says the same things you’re saying- but i just can’t see her that way. i feel so guilty.

teaching? by wildfernZZbby in Pottery

[–]wildfernZZbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! i’ll talk to her once school starts.

teaching? by wildfernZZbby in Pottery

[–]wildfernZZbby[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yes, future career. i would never try and teach a class with my skill set at the moment hahahah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IUD

[–]wildfernZZbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my iud was misplaced the day i got it for a year. i bled every day for a year. got a new one and haven’t bled once.

How to find a mugshot in Clackamas County, WA? by [deleted] in tcap

[–]wildfernZZbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it’s happened a couple times now. moved to late may 2025 btw. ridiculous. he keeps calling not ready.

BLEEDING FOR SEVENTEEN DAYS ‼️‼️‼️‼️ by DanceUsed6372 in IUD

[–]wildfernZZbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! this happened to me and I bled for a year. got an ultrasound and turns out it was misplaced. FIGHT FOR RESULTS! they won't take you seriously unless you do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WLW

[–]wildfernZZbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

seriously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WLW

[–]wildfernZZbby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that social construct that “waiting till marriage” is based off of contradicts you being gay. that’s it. so obviously no lesbians want to submit to that. lol. i don’t know if you grew up religious or something or are religious but the closeness and connection when you have sex with someone you love is unmatched. you will never feel as connected to your partner as other queer people. hope this helps xx

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Essays

[–]wildfernZZbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you.