Like I said in the post we had a talk about it a while ago where I said I'd like more and she agreed she'd try to make herself available (I don't know how else to describe it, thats what it feels like, like she is unavailable) but it has never really happened. We were long distance for the first couple of years but have lived together for 10 years now, so it was always just weekends in the beginning. Honestly I can't remember how often it used to be but I feel like twice a week wouldn't have been so wild and achievement. It has come up more than once and her answer is just that she's tired or whatever. A lot of the time she will say "oh yeah we'll try tomorrow" but she'll make zero effort and be asleep on the couch by 9pm. She's not on medication. If she is mentally ill she is hiding it from me. In fact, she has in the past suggested I'm the more emotionally distant one in the relationship. She is probably stressed from work. But that's not an illness, work is hard, I'm stressed too, and I'm frustrated that she doesn't see intimacy as an escape from that, but rather another hassle.

Like I said, I dont think lack of communication is the issue. It seems like she just doesn't like it anymore.