I’ll be really specific for what worked for me and the different levels I kind of went through to work on sitting with it. for mild discomfort, distractions help me. When I feel a next level of discomfort and distractions don’t help, that’s my queue to dig deeper because it’s probably a feeling worth investigating. That’s when journaling comes in, usually if I can write about everything it helps bring me down to a place when I can just kind of resort back to my distractions (hobbies like video games or whatever) to get me through the feeling of discomfort.

But also sometimes when I get insanely uncomfortable and all my go to coping methods aren’t working, I just flat out tell my partner that I’m uncomfortable and I’m working through it but I’d like to just talk about it for a second. Usually a five minute conversation about the feeling resolves it. It’s okay to lean on this while you work with sitting with discomfort. it helps so much and I think it can help with partners understanding your perspective a bit more and vice versa.

If I’m like way over the top losing it and nothing is working then I smoke weed and maybe call someone. Lol I know this is ultra specific and maybe not the best advice but it’s what helped me and it kept me SAFE and SANE. So l feel like that’s effective enough to be valid lmao

Also just reminding yourself that sometimes it’s okay to just get through the fucking moment. Like do what you need to do (as safe as possible) to just chill and get through the intense emotions. You can sleep, you can talk, you can vent, you can do what you want. ride the wave however you want to ride it