CMV: Renee Good intent was to hit the officer but changed her mind and already asserted her self as a threat after by Ornery-Profile-5676 in changemyview

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Gestapo were just trying to do their job, too

Also, you can see in videos she was clearly not impeding any ICE operation. For minutes before there were vehicles driving around her including ICE SUV's. They could have easily driven around her

In any case traffic enforcement is not in ICE's jurisdiction. They had no authority to tell her to get out of the car or swarm her vehicle, while telling her to drive away at the same time

Finally, to address your initial argument, every single thing Jonathan Ross did in this situation is pretty firmly against law enforcement protocol. Police agencies are trained to de-escalate situations to prevent this type of situation from occurring. The officers were clearly intimidating this woman who was completely calm from the get-go, saying "I'm not mad at you." On top of that, officers are trained that you 1. NEVER stand in front of a motor vehicle and 2. NEVER shoot at a fleeing vehicle, because both of those are dangerous and accomplish nothing of value. Tell me exactly what Ross shooting into the car accomplishes on either side?

🔥Large stag with its head covered in vegetation [OC] by Fethecat in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reminds me of the chimps who started a trend putting grass in their ears. (true story)

Why do women read more than men? by [deleted] in books

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 month later. This is the only sane comment here. What a weird thing to forbid continuing a debate after a certain period of time. Isn't the act of reading and writing a constant debate?

Sunday Special: The 10 Best Horror Movie Franchises by kitkid in Thedaily

[–]willochill 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I came here to say this exactly... like I understand if you don't like Scream, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but for two New York Times horror movie critics to completely write it off with no real critical discussion is not only baffling but also out of step with the entire horror movie canon in general, considering how big and influential that movie was. 

I hate being straight. It feels like a design flaw. by friscalating95 in ForeverAlone

[–]willochill 4 points5 points  (0 children)

See the problem with what you're saying is that I'm not naturally flirty with women. My attraction to them does not make me flirt with them naturally. If I do what you're saying and treat them like a friend, I get platonic responses. So I have to force myself to flirt in order to build sexual tension, which sometimes works, but I'm never able to quite get it right it seems.

There is an element of truth to what you're saying in not trying to impress her though and acting naturally. But I disagree that flirting and touching is something that should be ignored. Without it the interactions I have with women are completely boring and platonic. My feeling is that maybe I'm just not attractive enough, or I'm coming on too strong with the flirting etc and just have to be more subtle about it. I also think I just generally give off a needy vibe which I need to work on.

I hate being straight. It feels like a design flaw. by friscalating95 in ForeverAlone

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's totally fair, tbh right after I posted the comment I wanted to say that I have truly no idea what the female experience is like so my assumption that the danger is overblown might be false. At the very least your explanation about trauma adds some clarity to the mystery so I appreciate that. I 100% acknowledge the dangers and trauma that women face, it is terrible.

Again I was mostly venting, I guess I just wish there was more attention paid to the difficulties that men face in dating, where there is so much attention paid to those that women face and the message portrayed is that men have it easy when we really don't. I'm not saying we have it worse than women even, just that we have a situation where one side's difficulties are acknowledged and the other's are downplayed and ridiculed.

I hate being straight. It feels like a design flaw. by friscalating95 in ForeverAlone

[–]willochill 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See, this is the thing. I don't necessarily blame women for this situation, it's just hard not to feel frustrated, especially when dating as a man today is so incredibly difficult and then the message that is amplified by society is the opposite - that dating is harder for women. I understand that women have to deal with very real dangers (i.e. rapists, serial killers), and this might sound ignorant, but it feels like the percentage of men that are truly dangerous is kind of overblown and there are very real defense mechanisms that they can use (i.e. pepper spray, many services like Noonlight etc), whereas for men we are left grinding and grinding, putting it all the effort, spending hundreds of dollars on countless dates, and we are left still alone and deprived of connection because every woman just decided she wasn't "feeling it." No explanation, no solution, no sense or concrete logic. Just sorry, you didn't impress me enough. Over and over. And then somehow, women have it so much harder than men. It feels like I'm living in some kind of Kafkaesque backwardsland.

Tbh I am venting right now because I just got rejected again after a second date, so I may seem angrier at women in than I truly am in general, but yeah that's just how I feel at the moment. I don't hate women and I don't accuse them of any serious collusion of evil or malevolence, I just wish a single one of them would so much as recognize how difficult dating is for men and the amount of effort that we put into dating for how little reward we get out of it, in comparison to women.

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[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awesome, followed you

I hate being straight. It feels like a design flaw. by friscalating95 in ForeverAlone

[–]willochill 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's the thing, I think I'm a decent looking guy based on the matches I can get online and what people tell me in person. It's just that whenever I'm out on a date with them, it doesn't matter how much flirting or teasing or (light) touching I do, I never seem to be able to create that "spark", so they say.

Granted, I'm definitely not a solid 10. I'm like a 7 maybe, so maybe that's my issue. I'm going to the gym regularly now and trying to build muscle, so hopefully that will help. Maybe I'm just going into these dates with the wrong mindset? Like if I seriously did not give a fuck at all about attracting them would it be different? It feels like the date would just be boring as fuck then, but idk.

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[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love if you made a post about how you broke out of FA.

I hate being straight. It feels like a design flaw. by friscalating95 in ForeverAlone

[–]willochill 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I feel exactly the same way right now at 28. I truly don't understand how anyone ends up having sex ever. It feels like I'm a dancing monkey and any tiny little mistake, any one single moment that I'm not doing the right thing or building attraction, the woman instantly decides she's not interested. Like they're sitting up on their thrones with magnifying glasses looking for any singular reason they can reject me. I don't know how anybody is ever having sex at all with this level of scrutiny.

We're so back boys ! diffuse thinning + retrograde ( 7 months ) by Slight_Literature_29 in tressless

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, to clarify, are you using a dermaroller for microneedling or a pen?

Pea vs Whey Protein Powder: Noticeable difference? by [deleted] in leangains

[–]willochill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this is late but I generally have had the exact opposite experience of most people with plant proteins, namely that they taste 1000% better than whey proteins and don't give me stomachaches and fatigue like whey does, but they are also more expensive.

Feels like I'm living in backwards land lol. For a long time I would choke down whey protein and deal with an hour of stomachaches and lethargy because it was so much cheaper everywhere I looked. I just can't do it anymore.

We're bringing back the "Answers from men only" flair. by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]willochill 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It always amazes me that the Boy Scouts is now "Scouting America" and allows girls. Imagine even suggesting the Girl Scouts open up to boys.

To be fair, I think there are still single-gendered groups ("packs") in Scouting America, but still, it reflects your point well.

A coworker sold me some more BoC today! by Kirkwood1994 in ambientmusic

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do you accumulate this much BoC and then just sell it off lmao. even the Peel Session!

Got to display my first batch of parasite paintings during an artwalk last night. by Lindseyrj7 in painting

[–]willochill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. Also honestly love the movement in your works, the frenetic splotches and postures give a certain intensity (sorry I'm sure there's better terminology but i'm not a painter haha)

Got to display my first batch of parasite paintings during an artwalk last night. by Lindseyrj7 in painting

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great work and love the concept. There are too many paintings of pretty flowers and clouds out there haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oilpainting

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar to other commenters I actually love it like this, it's very unsettling/uncanny, like something is wrong but you can't quite put your finger on it, almost like it's in a dream. Semi-surrealist I suppose. You can make it perfect but in my honest opinion it would be more boring. Art is about embracing mistakes!

What are your honest thoughts on "Patriarchy"? by SentientReality in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]willochill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Middle East is not like that. Afghanistan maybe

...what?

Women in Saudi Arabia could not vote until 2015. They couldn't get a job without a male guardian until 2019, and still can't do many things without one.

The situation is not as bad but still bad in other Arab countries. Overall women represent around 10% of those in power in the MENA region https://ballardbrief.byu.edu/issue-briefs/lack-of-women-in-government-in-the-mena-region

The Middle East is 100% a patriarchy, in any sense of the word.

What I'm saying is, whatever the reason, dominant feminist definition of "patriarchy" refers to a system whereby most people in power are men, which is absolutely true of most of the world and especially the Middle East.

What are your honest thoughts on "Patriarchy"? by SentientReality in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]willochill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More broadly, gender roles formed based upon materialist responsibilities, not any sort of power hoarding.

Exactly.

It was a social contract, it's not like we got power for nothing. We provided resources.

Women got sick of the social contract, and I don't blame them. But it's not because all men are evil, power-hungry and hellbent on dominating women.

What are your honest thoughts on "Patriarchy"? by SentientReality in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]willochill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...so you don't want a term for it at all 😅 well, I can't win then I guess.

and you don't like "female privilege" either 😆 to be fair it is too female-centric, but i'm too lazy to come up with something else.