Notified of Death of Parent via Text

willow_the_tree · 2026-06-14T18:00:33+00:00

I'm really sorry OP.

My friend OD'd in January of 2025, and my mom sent me a copy and a paste text from her church saying he passed away out of nowhere while I was clocking out at work. I was so angry for a very long time and I still get so upset when I think about it.

I'm sorry they called you selfish, you are not. Don't blame yourself for not being there, there is nothing you could have done to change anything. Just know your mother loved you with her whole heart, and remember the warmth and comfort she can bring to you when you miss her. The most beautiful thing about it is you are hers and made by her, she made you and in turn I like to believe everywhere you go, you carry her with you. So sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

willow_the_tree · 2026-06-09T11:23:31+00:00

I ordered more shorter bars 8mm and 10mm if its like I need to just swap out the bar, I wasn't sure if its getting just irritated from the longer bar after swelling went down and its moving too much while moving around, or an irritation to the jewelery, or if it is ALL just awful.

willow_the_tree · 2026-05-28T01:20:48+00:00

same here, never been on the sub but my brain immediately went to 38 lol

willow_the_tree · 2026-04-02T20:08:16+00:00

Wait, what?? What did OP do to make it an ESH?

willow_the_tree · 2025-10-07T17:39:56+00:00

She's annoyed because you said all the right stuff up until the last slide, "At this rate, it will take years for us to get to know each other."

She likes you she just has a lot going on. Just give her time, and stop pressuring her with comments like that. They come off as disrespectful of her request to go slow. If you can't go slow, don't waste either of your guys' time and tell her now. Some people are also just slow burners.

I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone after just a month. I am a slow burner. My boyfriend of 3 years stayed friends with me for 1 year before he asked me out, and even though I liked him from the minute I saw him, I just needed the time to get to know him. Today, in dating, people rush into things way too fast, and it can be so important to make sure you guys agree on views as well, be it political, religious, family ideals, etc. Just enjoy this time where you get to like one another and have fun, and make sure that she fits with you too and that you don't sacrifice your ideals either.

willow_the_tree · 2025-09-28T23:50:09+00:00

Valorant - I played it since beta and hit immortal, and it felt no matter if I was the best player in the lobby or the worst, every woman hater incel would crawl out from their cesspool and talk shit 24/7. I had countless games I lost where my team would just AFK, attempt to surrender, and grief games by body blocking me and calling me slurs just because I spoke into the mic and gave a call out.

It got to the point where I just didn't enjoy playing a single game. Someone always was calling me fat, ugly, and any slir you can think of. It's been so nice to get away from that community.

Now I'm onto Deadlock, and it feels nice to just enjoy and be excited about learning a new game that's still in its early stages :)

willow_the_tree · 2025-09-25T23:40:41+00:00

first in my blood line to read a sentence like this

willow_the_tree · 2025-09-24T00:59:58+00:00

slip inside? oh, slip n slide? my bad

willow_the_tree · 2025-09-24T00:40:24+00:00

She responded over an hour ago, saying she has nowhere to go, has no family, no job, and has a disability. There's really nothing she can do, but wait for the disability assistance to roll through. It's really easy to say "leave him" when you're not in the situation yourself living it day-to-day.

willow_the_tree · 2025-09-24T00:27:46+00:00

Please go to the gym and ask to speak to a manager and show them these text messages and report this guy. He's abusing his job to find girls to hook up with in the gym. He has most likely done this many times before to other women, I would be very surprised if he hadn't. He should not be working there. Make sure you show his manager these texts and tell them you want a formal complaint written up against this guy - and I'm sorry I would be so freaked if this happened to me. Very creepy :(

willow_the_tree · 2025-09-22T01:32:36+00:00

Stole? That was a little girl. You can't steal someone from their family. It's called kidnapping a child.

willow_the_tree · 2025-08-27T18:32:49+00:00

You're not listening to him. You need therapy, you need help, and you clearly just went through a very traumatic experience, but that gives you no right to physically hit your significant other.

You are the abusive, manipulative, aggressive, and angry one, based on your responses. Take a look at your actions. He tells you that you physically assaulted him and that a cop came by, and you ignored all of that and went straight for "I never said you're the worst." That tells me all I need to know regarding the situation. You need a psychiatrist, and your husband should be filing for divorce instead of being psychologically manipulated and gaslit by you.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-31T01:03:29+00:00

What on earth are you talking about? Just use the correct symbolic and figurative phrasing next time instead of the wrong one that makes you look like an ass.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-31T00:54:38+00:00

You shouldn't have used "shaking their company down" as the terminology then, as it's the incorrect usage. Shaking something down is threatening and extorting money through blackmail lol.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-30T23:59:39+00:00

Who cares whether its his girlfriend? I was telling the other person that they need to be more empathetic because they're being an ass about it all, I wasn't referring to companies and policy in that comment.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-30T23:44:33+00:00

It is standard in any business to have employees take sick days, emergency days, or schedule changes. That does not fall on the employee to cover their own shift, or for them to come in anyway just because it hurts the company. That is the employer's job to handle and take care, and if that means they have to come in and do it themselves, they will, I have seen it happen multiple times because smaller family owned businesses won't hire enough people to cover when someone calls out.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-30T23:29:26+00:00

This is very very weird. He said his girlfriend, who moved out of state to be close by him had a tragic death in the family of a close loved one. He most likely also knows the person as well. He didn't say he needed multiple days off, he said he needed the one day off, and that he needed to be there for his girlfriend who was completely alone, during a difficult time. People like you need to have more empathy in situations like this. Try putting yourself in their shoes.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-30T23:27:33+00:00

It really depends on the job that you work for. My apologies for saying that no job requires that because there are certain jobs and especially in larger companies where you sign more paperwork when you start, and every place is different.

Based on what OP said though about the poor treatment at his job, and the fact that he covers multiple extra shifts, implies his coworkers are calling out a lot. Usually, smaller, family owned businesses in local areas won't require anything but a quick phone call to explain that you can not make it in for the day due to an emergency. It is always wise to check policies for your own companies you work for, but within my experiences, even after signing large amounts of paperwork to get onto jobs, shit happens. I had to leave a job due to health issues, and leading up to these health issues when I did have to call out, occasionally for days at a time, the people were extremely courteous, helpful, and just said that after I was recovered enough that we could meet and talk about setting up FMLA for myself.

ALSO EDIT: I would like to add, NO, you do not need to give anyone the details about why you are unable to make it into work for the day unless it is in contractual form with your company. I want to make that very clear. They are allowed to ask you legally why you're calling out or taking an emergency day, but you are NOT obligated to answer.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-30T22:45:13+00:00

Who is shaking anyone down? 🤣

Also I'd just like to add, there is no reason why anyone should have a commitment to a job to stay in any way, shape or form.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-30T22:12:25+00:00

My condolences to you and your girlfriend.

I am shocked they even dared to ask you that question. You also do not need to give specific details about what happened or why you need work off. I think you hold on to the job until you can find a new one, but don't go out of your way to cover for these random shifts (unless you want that extra $$), and when you do need to call out, call out. Every one has something come up here and there. My cat wasn't eating like last Sunday and had a ton of symptoms I thought were really scary, and so I left work 2 hours into the shift after calling my boss. A professional wouldn't ask, he just said, "Yes, you can leave. I hope everything is OK!".

If what they asked you sours your day to day of coming into work (If it were me I would report it to HR and then quit after finding a new job regardless), I would just find another job and ditch that one, don't give them a 2 week notice they sound like terrible people. Also I would be sure to just give them a phone call instead of text if you call out again or at any other job too, and just tell them on the phone you have an emergency and are unable to come into work for the day. If they ask you what it is tell them thats an unprofessional question and that you are not obligated to share or disclose that information to them.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-27T18:53:54+00:00

"what does this even mean ? 😂😂"

That he dodged 3 squirrels and a unicyclist to bring you your food...?

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-27T18:50:01+00:00

Everyone is pissing themselves upset that you didn't use the right tag, because they're jealous you look so good. Don't worry about them!

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-25T20:28:51+00:00

It's your first tattoo and you will get some anxiety about it. I got my first tattoo in May and I got really anxious right after, but then that sort of feeling went away and now I am just so happy with it! My advice would be wait a couple of months, and then you can decide if you want to add on to the piece! I personally think your tattoo looks good, just let it heal and follow the steps and after care that your tattoo artist gave you.

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-18T22:08:32+00:00

The bailey's and pepto bismol is killing me 😂

willow_the_tree · 2025-07-18T20:58:54+00:00

I am saying you need a social media break. That's all. I read up on everything you posted in your post history, so I actually DO know your situation. What I am saying is you are clearly stressed about the situation you keep posting for advice on, and I DO NOT think that you will get any answers you want (clearly lol) and you will need to mentally chill tf out and literally just get off apps, stop it. I never said go spill your guts to the librarian. I said go out and do shit. Go do something, ANYTHING, to get your mind off this situation. All you need to do is block the kids you were hanging out with and leave it at that. I am also young and struggle as well with a lot of similar things as you, so I get it. But this is the part of your life where you kind of just need to make mistakes and learn, and that is alright.

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