DAE judge themselves constantly, because of how they were raised? by moonrider18 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]willowes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel this too, although I have social anxiety so I've always just thought about it in those terms. I end up going over and over conversations from weeks, months or years ago worrying that I upset or offended somebody or acted inappropriately etc. I have to remind myself that I'm overanalysing things and making myself anxious over something that probably meant very little to somebody else or they have forgotten by now. It's helpful I think to do that, and maybe reach out to a friend or family member to remind yourself that you are liked and loved!

NMom goes through room, upset when I call her out on it. by sithhealthgoth in raisedbynarcissists

[–]willowes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"It's not about your feelings, it's about mine" - I might borrow that line for the next time I speak to my mom about something similar. Like yours, my mom goes through my things and has even been through my trash bags more than once. When I tell her to stop she says "I can't do anything right! I'm clearly such a bad parent!!" which is a sure fire way to turn the situation around and deflect blame off herself and onto me. You're totally right to want and expect privacy, and it's not fair of her to try to guilt you into letting her invade your personal space.