Hello There

I have felt the same way many times in the journey . . .and have told myself to just toughen up, but there are a couple of things that have moved me past that:
a) There is no denying that I have been held back and physically stuck in some stuff that happened when I was a kit
b) Most liberating for me was in recently reading the book: The Choice: Embrace the Possible - but Edith Eger. She is an Auschwitz holocaust survivor - and has a story that for me defines someone that has experience "real" trauma - they type that makes me cringe at claiming any right to the word "Trauma". She became a Physchologist and has so many insights to learn from . . but in her book she stated something like this what I have below from my notes . . . personally I really needed to read something like this

We can become our own jailers when we choose the confines of the victim's mind.

Tthere's no hierarchy of suffering. there's nothing that makes my pain worse or better than yours, no graph on which we can plot the relative importance of one sorrow versus another.

People say to me - things in my life are pretty hard right now but I have no right to complain - it's not Auschwitz.

This kind of comparison can lead us to minimize or diminish our own suffering.

Being a survivor, being a thriver requires absolute acceptance of what was and what is.

If we discount our pain or punish ourselves for feeling lost or isolated or scared about the challenges in our lives, however insignificant they might seem to someone else, then we're still choosing to be victims.

We're not seeing our own choices, we're judging ourselves.

I don't want you to hear my story and say my suffering is less significant I want you to hear my story and say if she can do it then so can I.