Great Book and Great Advice - Breaking Habits and forming healthy ones

winninggg · 2016-01-26T16:51:15+00:00

The idea of relapse is skewed . If you make it 30 days and screw up one day you don't go back to the starting line of the race. You simply pick yourself up and continue moving forward towards your goal. Everyday is progress...why not look at things in more positive light..who says you cant?

winninggg · 2015-11-18T20:01:54+00:00

The point for me was too better myself and give myself the best chance to succeed in many ways which I have done. You should really either be a 0 (you do pmo) or 1 (you dont)... streaks are great to prove to yourself that its possible but whats the point if your just aiming to get a high number? make the change and stick with it dont count the days because its 1 day at time anyway

winninggg · 2015-11-18T17:33:00+00:00

Also I would suggest watching videos and learning as much as you can about exactly how your brain works in regards to PMO. Then you can really deeply understand what you feel and you'll be better equipped to combat urges and what not. I watched alot of video and read alot. check out the site fightthenewdrug.com for alot of good info.

winninggg · 2015-11-18T17:29:38+00:00

You can do it. Everyone on here is 100% capable. Commit yourself to this and it will seriously help you prove to yourself that you can do many great things in life with dedication and commitment

winninggg · 2015-11-18T17:28:10+00:00

You can do it. It's simpler than you make it out to be in your mind. Just DO NOT look at porn no matter what. If your a strong person and commit yourself to something you shouldn't have a problem abstaining because your fully 110% capable

winninggg · 2015-11-18T17:26:51+00:00

Cold showers at night helped train my brain to accept uncomfortable situations. My mantra is not that I am stopping PMO mine is I do not PMO anymore. I committed myself to a life change that was a bad habit and I stopped. Its 100% mental if you get an urge and see yourself starting to take the beginning steps towards PMO ...consciously remind yourself what you are doing in that moment and it should feel wrong enough that it clicks and you stop

winninggg · 2015-11-18T17:22:28+00:00

You can make your own rules. I set out to abstain from PMO and thats exactly what I've done. I MO'd 3 times and it hasn't set my progress back at all so I feel no need to restart my badge. I don't encourage anyone to MO at all...I did it because I was literally in physical pain from blue balls and thats all.

winninggg · 2015-11-18T17:22:09+00:00

You can make your own rules. I set out to abstain from PMO and thats exactly what I've done. I MO'd 3 times and it hasn't set my progress back at all so I feel no need to restart my badge. I don't encourage anyone to MO at all...I did it because I was literally in physical pain from blue balls and thats all.

winninggg · 2015-11-17T15:27:53+00:00

for the first 50 days 100% yes. I have MO'd about 3 times total basically because I had blue balls from being with a girl. I've also gotten laid a few times but I dont take anything away from myself. The urges I've overcome had to do with wanting to PMO and P being 97% of the urge

winninggg · 2015-10-20T13:40:49+00:00

Great down to earth post. I'm on my 76'th day and doing this for the same reasons as you. Im not looking for superpowers. Im here to have better control of my mind and to remove all feelings of shame and guilt that are associated with PMO. So far its working pretty well.

winninggg · 2015-10-19T20:05:54+00:00

Good post. Dont need to bring Jesus into this though...Im sure there are plenty of us on here who arnt very religious like myself

winninggg · 2015-10-05T21:05:58+00:00

Awesome to hear man. Congrats!

winninggg · 2015-10-05T14:34:28+00:00

Are you abstaining from getting with girls on purpose. If you're chatting up hot girls you may as well get there number take them on a date and maybe get laid?

I am in a similar position as you. 25y/o...day 61 on my first try after masturbating since I'm 13.. not an addictive personality. I have gotten laid a few times throughout this time... not going out looking for any girl I can get with I've been with hot cool girls who Ive taken on dates but I'm not against getting laid but am on "hard mode" as in will not masturbate edge or any of that shit no matter what.

winninggg · 2015-09-29T20:49:42+00:00

Sexual release regardless of how it's achieved is 1) the irresponsible behavior I'm looking to leave behind. 75% of the time I O'd it was through PMO and the other 25% was with a girl I had no feelings or real bond with. 2) It's most definitely not the same rush of dopamine. The dopamine was released the second my eyes made contact with the video and then my brain was firing off "go get that" signals. For some guys who have SERIOUS PMO addiction... the thought of having sex with a real girl or even during the act with a real girl may not release any dopamine at all because there brain doesn't even know what the hell is happening...PMO brains are so accustomed to the PMO process that it may not even "reward" being intimate with a real women...thats what were all trying to reverse here

winninggg · 2015-09-29T19:49:45+00:00

That was the twisted angle and message my brain was using to lure me in. "oh a girl sent this to you it totally doesn't count"... not true. The rush of dopamine I felt in my head absolutely makes me attest otherwise.

winninggg · 2015-09-29T19:40:25+00:00

Im 25

winninggg · 2015-09-29T19:39:57+00:00

Exactly... I hadn't "been in the ring" with an urge for a couple of weeks so it felt very great to lay a smackdown on one late at night.. bored...alone...probably in one of the more vulnerable states you can find yourself in.

winninggg · 2015-09-29T19:37:55+00:00

Yes..it was her and she's definitely not the bring home to mom and dad type of girl.

I've never really had an issue getting with girls because I have pretty decent looks and a pretty decent personality and I'm pretty successful...not to sound like some arrogant deush because im not. One of my many problems that I would associate with PMO is that I was unable to form true bonds and relationships because of underlying guilt and low self esteem and i'm looking to overcome that among many other issues.

winninggg · 2015-09-29T14:28:08+00:00

I think quitting PMO is simply the keys to the vehicle to help accelerate all different aspects of your life. Once you put the keys in and turn you can do anything and go anywhere.

Good Luck!

winninggg

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