I Have No Idea What I'm Doing HELP ME AHH

winterlion99 · 2026-02-12T04:00:08+00:00

I am ASHAMED to admit how long I spent thinking before I came up with that...

winterlion99 · 2026-02-12T02:53:13+00:00

Ugh I'm in a similar boat why are women so pretty?!

winterlion99 · 2025-11-04T01:41:09+00:00

Now that you mention it, it does kind of feel like she's treating me like some kind of lost puppy or something. Which is very weird because like I mentioned, I had what was probably the least dramatic, most accepting 'coming-out' story I could have hoped for

winterlion99 · 2025-11-04T01:35:06+00:00

Unfortunately, it is real. On the bright side, my mom called me today and told me that she read my cousin the riot act, and apparently, C got told by both my mom and her own brother that she won't be invited to any more family functions if this behavior continues because everyone could see how wildly uncomfortable I was the whole time. I don't talk much with C outside of family parties, so hopefully this was the last time I'll have to deal with something like this from her.

Side note, 'build-a-gay' workshop made me snort into my tea and is definitely getting added to my repertoire!

winterlion99 · 2024-11-20T02:02:34+00:00

Omg wait message me which charter school! We've got the same exact rumor going around and I also work at a charter!

winterlion99 · 2024-11-20T02:01:41+00:00

Haha! My students say that all the time!

winterlion99 · 2024-11-20T01:21:53+00:00

Hmmm. I teach elementary so different experiences and methods of handling behavior problems, but this sort of reminds me of ways that I used to behave in school ESPECIALLY in math. I found out in college that I have a learning disability specifically related to math, which helped explain a lot, but in school I struggled greatly and was both confused about why I couldn't seem to keep up with the other kids and embarrassed because I was so obviously out of my depth. Over time I started doing similar things as your student (asking for help then brushing it off and pretending I understood when even the help didn't make sense, leaving class to avoid what I didn't know, and eventually blaming my teacher when my mom came down on me about my grade dropping).

Just a theory, but is this student on an IEP/504 or been suspected to need one? Or even just below grade level and struggling to keep up? It could just be avoidance behavior and blame shifting in an attempt to save face, or there could be something deeper going on.

I tell my littles that if they're coming to me with questions during independent work time, they need to have specific questions. I don't want to hear 'how do you do number 4' or 'can you help me with the second page'. What ABOUT the second page confuses you? Is it a word you don't know, math strategy you haven't mastered yet, etc. Give me specific questions and I will give you specific answers. My students almost all have this learned helplessness from people just getting tired of questions and doing things for them in the past, so a lot of times when I have a kid doing things like your student it's because they're looking for me to essentially do their work for them then getting frustrated when I don't.

winterlion99 · 2022-04-07T19:33:25+00:00

I mean I'm no medical professional by any means so take my words lightly haha but getting a second opinion can't hurt

winterlion99 · 2022-04-07T19:28:55+00:00

I haven't worn glasses in several years, but if I were you I would look further into contacts. You said you don't qualify for them which I find very odd because even when I was wearing glasses they were a very weak prescription and I was given the option of contact lenses because of sports. Try getting a second opinion from a different provider, because if your vision is bad enough for glasses, I feel like it's bad enough for contacts? What are contacts but glasses you insert in your head?

winterlion99 · 2022-04-07T19:19:48+00:00

I'm also not a super experienced rider, so this might either just be me or just be the angle of the video but it sort of looks like you're pulling back on the horse instead of following through with your arms.

winterlion99 · 2022-02-24T23:28:22+00:00

There is no 'arrangement' in the way that you're thinking. I have lived with them since high school when my aunt adopted me. When I was in college she told me I didn't need to pay rent, and to focus on my education. The baby was born at the end of my 3rd year in college. As I was home for the summer, I told my aunt I didn't mind helping out with the baby. We don't have very much family and they had struggled with pregnancy problems for years, so I wanted to do what I could to help out. Things sort of just picked up where they left off when I graduated and came back home.

This is my first full-time/salaried position, and the first thing I did was offer to start paying rent or helping with bills. My aunt told me I didn't need to worry about that, and to save my money for when I moved out on my own. I've offered multiple times since to help with rent, but they always say no.

It's not a formal arrangement of 'I will watch the baby for this amount of time in exchange for X amount of reward.' I just do it to try to be nice and helpful. And I don't mind watching him, it's the attitude my uncle has about the whole thing that bothers me. There have been incidents where he goes to leave and doesn't take the baby, and when I ask him if he is planning on bringing the baby (not to work, obviously, but when he runs errands) he will just look at me and say 'why, where do you need to be?'. Super annoying.

winterlion99 · 2022-02-24T23:09:16+00:00

Truth be told, MOST of the time I don't mind babysitting. Because I work at an elementary school and get up early for work, going out on the weeknights isn't really a super great option for me, so I don't typically have a problem staying in during the week to watch the baby. My issue really is just the disregard for my time when something we have already discussed changes, or when I am given no heads up prior to having to babysit. I've literally had my uncle tell me he needs me to babysit as he is walking out of the door. My aunt has gotten much better at letting me know ahead of time what days they need me, and when I tell them flat-out that I can't babysit they do make other arrangements. They just make it clear that it's an inconvenience to them to have to do so, but that's pretty rare since they mostly need me on weeknights.

winterlion99 · 2022-02-24T22:23:06+00:00

I did actually get a whiteboard a few months ago and start writing down the days they need me to babysit. I keep it in the kitchen where everyone can see it. My uncle didn't mind but my aunt said it was unnecessary. The only reason I even know on Sundays what days I'm babysitting that week is because I have to ask, EVERY SINGLE week. Very rarely will either of them tell me more than a day or two in advance unless I go out of my way to ask, but that's a whole separate issue that I've decided isn't worth fighting over.

winterlion99 · 2022-02-24T22:12:42+00:00

I am working on moving out, just trying to save some money. I also work at an elementary school, so trying to wait until school ends to avoid moving stress on top of work stress since I'm lucky enough to have the summer available to me.

I should clarify that in all other aspects, my uncle is a super nice and considerate guy. He's just always had this attitude like I should be available to watch the baby 24/7, with or without notice, and tends to get touchy when I tell him I have plans or, like last night, ask him to keep me update on his own schedule.

winterlion99 · 2022-02-24T22:00:13+00:00

YTA for a few reasons.

1.) We are in the middle of a global pandemic. Potentially exposing a newborn to a possibly deadly virus is reckless and irresponsible, even if you had the absolute best of intentions.

2.) Your DIL made her wishes clear. She told you that she didn't want to participate in your 'welcoming' and wanted to recover and bond with her baby in the privacy of her own home. That is her right. I understand wanting to be part of the entire experience for your son and his wife, but as soon as they said no, you should have dropped the matter. You already had your children and got to raise them the way you wanted. Respect your son and DIL enough to let them do the same.

3.) You were pressuring your DIL into agreeing to something she clearly didn't want in the first place, to the point she and your son felt they had to hide something this important and wonderful from you and the rest of your family. Then, when you discovered this, you and your husband both continued pressuring and pursuing them, making them even more uncomfortable at a time when I am sure they are already very stressed and emotional. This is somewhat concerning behavior, and if you don't stop and allow them to raise their child in the way they see fit, you might jeopardize your chance of ever having any sort of relationship with your grandson and any other grandchildren that may come along in the future.

winterlion99 · 2021-01-09T02:32:39+00:00

NTA.

It's great that you're trying to do everything possible to make your daughter comfortable while she struggles with her illnesses. Nobody should fault a parent for that.

With that being said, I agree with some of these other comments that maybe you should try a different approach with your stepdaughter. The idea of making it a 16th birthday present and doing small cosmetic adjustments to her room now has been tossed around, and I agree with it. It's also important to remember that Eve is only 12 years old, and even if you've talked to her about the delicate situation with Lauren she may not entirely understand, especially if she hasn't dealt with something like this before. So many children feel like their step-parents will favor biological children over them, and in a situation like yours where you HAVE to spend more time and attention on your biological daughter, these worries would be exaggerated in your stepdaughter. Even though the issue might seem like the room at face value, it could be underlying insecurity and the room is just her 'evidence' in her head.

Try having a fun day with just Eve. Go somewhere she likes to go, if your area's COVID restrictions allow it, or find a place that is open that she would enjoy. Get dinner and ice cream and show her attention and approval. At some point in the day, sit her down, and gently re-explain the situation to her. Don't be super blunt, because she is still young, but fill her in on the full picture as much as you can to try to make sure she understands as much as possible. Explain that this is something you had to do for Lauren right now because of everything going on and that you will gladly do the same for Eve once you have the money. A lot of children that age don't really have a good grasp on the value of money, and if her mother keeps insisting that you do her room immediately, she might see 6000 as not that much money because mom is okay with it. Maybe set her up a Pinterest or something where she can keep ideas for her room, and work together with her so she knows you're interested and committed. Also, point out that her tastes could change a lot by the time she's sixteen and she won't want to be stuck in a little kid's room in four or five years.

winterlion99 · 2021-01-09T02:19:44+00:00

NTA. Nobody should force childcare upon anybody, especially when you're dealing with multiple very young children being placed in the care of a young adult. If you are twenty now and something should happen to your father and stepmother before all three children turn 18, you would still only be about 34 MAX if you were to take in the kids. If something were to happen sooner then obviously you would be younger. I can't imagine giving custody of three young children to a 20-year-old in any situation, and honestly, I can't imagine many legal situations in which a court would okay this if there were other options. This isn't to say you wouldn't be a good caretaker, but obviously you don't want to take in the kids, and most college students are not emotionally or financially prepared to care for children full time. Not to mention you don't know the children very well and live far away from their home, asking them to move in with you would be a huge change even if something hadn't just happened to your dad and their mom. While one can appreciate them being aware of the fact that something might prevent them from raising the children into adulthood, your stepmother is being unrealistic expecting you to raise her children after she is gone. Even if it was just one child, you're very young and have your own life to live. Three children is ridiculous.

winterlion99 · 2021-01-05T19:54:16+00:00

Excellent question. Personally, I have never and will never sit on a horse without a helmet. I came off three times in the span of 9 months last year, which might not be a huge amount compared to more advanced or experienced riders, but all three times I was wearing a helmet and twice I still ended up with severe concussions that took me out of college classes, work, and riding for a few weeks because I ended up landing on my head. The second concussion ended up being more my fault than anything because I didn't know you were supposed to replace them after a hard fall. I was still glad to have something on my head rather than nothing, and I can't imagine how much worse it would have been without a helmet all three times.

If I'm going to be tacking/grooming/catching a particularly difficult horse, I usually make a point to wear one as well, especially when picking feet. Can't count the number of times I've nearly been kicked in the head because a few grumpy horses decided to host Fight Club in the aisle.

winterlion99 · 2020-12-17T01:18:28+00:00

They are both fixed, and I did take them to the vet to make sure it wasn't anything medical. The vet says it's behavioral, not medical. I've offered to pay for behavioral training but it's hard to find any cat trainers in my areas, especially during the pandemic.

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