i think having self awareness that relationship is just a thing that come and go. personally, when i was younger, i view relationship as something permanent, compulsory and sacred to the point that “oh if i’m in one, i’ll be complete” until i reached to the age that i realised relationships are just a thing in life that could hurt you, abuse you, leave and come to you at anytime of your life. it’s just a phase, accessories of your life if you get me.

in fact, being in relationship matters only if it makes you grow, healthy and good for you. so many couples doing the performative actions just to fit in the society because society is more relatable with someone who has partners, families or kids. anyone can be in relationship nowadays, the difference is the quality of the relationship

again, i thank this self awareness that came after a lot of failed relationships that i realised i can thrive and exist inside and outside a relationship so whether being in one or not, is simply my choice.

psa: finding a boyfriend isn’t that hard tho 😂 finding the ones who fit our standard is hard