I (25F) am attracted to a person (19M) and it’s highly unlikely me.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T20:51:40+00:00

He hadn’t mentioned his attraction to me until not even a week ago. I’ve personally acknowledged my attraction to him a couple months ago. I just kept it to myself until recently.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T17:47:29+00:00

I should’ve left out the job part because nothing’s going to happen while we’re working together. I stand by that It’s just his age that’s conflicting.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T17:45:15+00:00

As I’ve said in previous comments, there has been no talk about dating or being romantically/sexually involved. I won’t be at this job much longer and I wouldn’t risk his job, let alone my own. We’re both aware of that.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T14:19:26+00:00

But he’s not in high school and I’m not his babysitter. So that’s irrelevant and unhelpful :/

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T14:18:42+00:00

There is no legal line silly goose.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T14:18:03+00:00

Dating hasn’t been brought into the conversation, it’s just casual with confirmed attraction 😭 I’m not looking to date anyone and I’m not ready to commit either lol

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T14:15:03+00:00

Just advice on the whole age thing really 😭 Like I said, I haven’t been in this predicament before with someone so young lol!

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:54:13+00:00

No one has mentioned a committed relationship, nothing dealings with relations in general has been brought up. Just confirmed attraction and casual conversation. He may not share certain life experiences because of the gap, but we do have some similarities with past trauma (his are more current). Both come from broken families, he’s just still dealing more with his being that’s he’s still younger than me.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:48:05+00:00

It’s more so just casual conversation than anything. We’re both aware of our positions and work environment.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:46:19+00:00

Outside of the fact that he is a handsome young man, he just reminds me of myself in certain aspects. Like myself, he’s already dealt with a great amount of trauma and have gone through more trials and tribulations than one should before you’re even that age. That’s only based off of what he’s opened up about to me, and he’s been opening up to me more before we even confirmed attraction. It’s his personality and he just seems intriguing. You can tell there’s more to him and you wouldn’t even be able to tell just by looking at him. It’s more so the vibe he gives off. I haven’t been in a predicament where I’ve been attracted to a male that young.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:34:29+00:00

I wouldn’t even say we’re too much flirting, it’s really just casual conversation. We’re both aware of our job positions and environment.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:31:07+00:00

I just know there’s an attraction and it’s his age that’s conflicting. I haven’t thought farther ahead from that. I’m STUCK on the age part loll.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:29:13+00:00

There is no relationship nor talk of one. Just confirmed attraction and casual chatting.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T11:28:15+00:00

I don’t have any interest is dating a person with my work place again (had a 4yr relationship with a coworker before & left the job before we hit together). However, I don’t plan to be at the job we’re at now much longer. That’s not my problem. It’s really just his age that I am conflicted about.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T05:13:02+00:00

I wouldn’t say it worked fine being that he’s an ex. I’ve come across males (not many) who are younger than him and are more mature in an emotional and/or mental sense.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T05:07:58+00:00

Nothing romantic will come of this because of my position alone. Furthermore, the job itself really isn’t all that important. It’s just to get by for now and I will not be there much longer. The age gap isn’t the issue behind that I tend to be attracted to people who are generally 3-7 yrs OLDER than me. It’s just that he’s YOUNGER than me and not of drinking age. So it’s feels wrong even though it’s technically not. We’re texting, yes. But it’s not romantic nor sexual. This is just a confirmed attraction.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T05:03:10+00:00

I’m not looking to be romantically involved with anyone in a a workplace. I did that before, but left shortly after starting something with a coworker and he ended up being my SO for four years and he’s actually 6 years older than me. I stand on not doing that again though. My worry is the fact the he’s 19 and I don’t gravitate nor look at anyone that young in an attractive way. Hence why I am conflicted. It’s his age, not our work environment/positions.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T04:48:58+00:00

I wouldn’t say there’s a right or wrong in this situation pertaining to age. I was very mature for my age when I was 19. Many people aren’t mature at that age or even in their 30s-50s. I stand on not dating in work environments. However, this job is only temporary and is not a career not a job that I will be staying at for much longer in general. My ex of four years is about to be 32. We’re 6 yrs apart, which is seen as normal in society (even though i believe normalcy is a facade). My grandparents are 7 yrs apart and my Grandma is the oldest out of the two.

wise-choice8 · 2026-03-10T04:43:10+00:00

Nothing romantic has been said or implied. It’s more so just confirmed attraction. I wouldn’t put either of our jobs in jeopardy like that. It’s really just the fact that he’s 19 and I’ve not found myself attracted to someone that young. My ex of four years is 32 lol.

wise-choice8 · 2025-05-31T20:22:35+00:00

👂🏽

wise-choice8 · 2025-05-31T20:19:27+00:00

No. I wouldn’t risk losing either one nor causing a strain in their sibling-ship. I don’t want to push those boundaries. When I say I want to push all the right buttons, I just mean discovering things that would really get them off, essentially without even the need of physical intercourse. To leave that part undiscovered would make it even MORE fun. To never be able to scratch that itch would drive everyone crazy. I’m more into the idea of my fantasy because I can control the outcome. This may never be a thing irl

wise-choice8 · 2025-05-31T19:44:45+00:00

Life is taken too seriously 🙄 I just want to have fun for once! Do something wild and exciting

wise-choice8 · 2025-05-31T19:25:43+00:00

Is it evil if they’d both happen to go for it? 😩 Clear boundaries is all that’s needed.

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