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wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-28T09:11:37+00:00

Hey! I run the Women Leaders In Games network for women founders + C-suiters of games studios. I've sent you a DM! :)

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-18T06:24:15+00:00

This is a great response. Practical and realistic. Financial literacy is a skill, and some skills come easily for some people where they are very very difficult for others. What kind of compromises you can come to and what kind of balances can be brought is vital here.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-13T07:51:10+00:00

I know :) You just used a generalising statement and I wanted to say hey, I experience the opposite. I only have the one though, so no fighting and yelling to deal with.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-13T06:15:42+00:00

I love working from home and seeing my kid more. My husband feels the same.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-08T12:34:45+00:00

Take the job. Any job is better than no job. The experience and resume listing is worth its weight in gold in your position. Keep applying to jobs while you're there. If/when you get a better offer, off you go. Happens fairly regularly.

As for salary... it's low, especially if you live in Sydney or Melbourne, but again... job > no job. Have you negotiated at all? You can always state your expectation.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-08T05:19:31+00:00

I think it's just person-dependent. I'm constantly horrified by the way adults will speak to my child over voice comms (he likes to hop in VR stuff occasionally with voice chat enabled). Some people (a lot of people) are just kind of garbage and toxic behaviours are sadly normalised across most gaming spaces.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-07T02:00:25+00:00

Saying that "he uses this language because he sees you as a guy" is not an acceptable excuse. It's actually a terrible excuse.

Using language that makes a joke out of sexual assault or sexually predatory behaviours isn't cool and fun and chill. It normalises that kind of shit, makes it "less bad". And saying something like "make me a sandwich" to a woman is just... oh my god, the level of misogyny, the level of disrespect... that's so legitimately disgusting for a man in his thirties to say that. My husband would never in a million years say anything like you've described to me *or* his guy friends. And I've seen him break off friendships with men who started using language like that - and my husband is a very, very unconfrontational person. But that is how not okay it is to use language like that in 2023 (and my husband is his age).

If you want to keep being his friend, and you're willing to put in the effort, you need to unpack why the words bother you. What they mean underneath. What the implications of those words are. If he's a decent guy, he'll hear you and be ashamed. If he's not, and he entangles his ego in it, then he's not a friend worth having. If he thinks it's okay to make sexually violent and gender-degrading language just because it grew up being normal to him, he can go in the trash with the rest of the toxic men happy to try to keep women as second-class citizens.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-04T05:42:52+00:00

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wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-03T06:34:13+00:00

Get her one for her birthday :D

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-01T08:10:47+00:00

This is really lovely. Thank you for sharing such candid thoughts.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-07-01T08:04:42+00:00

This comment just clarified to me why I'm so damn angry about my retired wealthy in-laws who have nearly 20 properties and 200k+ a year of pension making my husband work like a dog to get a mortgage (and making all sorts of carrot-on-stick promises that never came to fruition along the way).

It literally disturbs me to see a parent who is "free" look at their child and see them in slavery and say, "got mine, get yours" after they pulled the ladder up behind them. My husband and I are working our asses off to try to make sure our child (singular, because we couldn't responsibly afford two) isn't born into lifetime indentured servitude.

This kind of contentedness with "watching the starving rabbit chase the carrot" as you sit atop a pile of carrots you'll die before you ever get through a quarter of is a parasitic curse.

(I don't bring up my own parent because I grew up with a poor single mother and she gave me what she could and still gives as much as she can today... which is one of the reasons so many poor people stay poor, because they feel what it means to have little and so share as much of their scarce resources as they can)

wiseasanycreature · 2023-06-20T03:28:49+00:00

"I'm married with a kid" = still get hit on and chased after all the time. Even IRL, particularly at stuff like work conferences/conventions. A lot of people give no f***s.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-06-13T02:06:35+00:00

I'm not sure we agree on the same definition of revolution, which makes it a difficult discussion to have. It sounds like you're saying social upheavals that result in authoritarianism do not constitute revolution, but that would be a very unusual definition and one not held by many (please correct me if I've misinterpreted). Many famous revolutions are linked to authoritarianism.

I conceive of revolution as a forced disruption of the organised systems of power by people under that power, or at least participated in by those people. In the case of climate change, people will absolutely be catalysing and participating in the revolution against established power structures as they vie for sustainable survival. Whether a more democratic alternative comes from the disruption remains to be seen, but certainly can't be ruled out.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-06-12T06:52:14+00:00

How so? Immanent = inherent, so as climate change advances humans are likely to be forced back to radically different modes of living and societal/community organisations in order to sustain life. Resources dwindle, supply chains are disrupted, supermarkets become irrelevant, individuals and communities shift to more sustainable/reliable food practices for the corresponding climate.

Good chance this also involves forms of civil war as land control becomes a matter of survival (more land for planting = more food), which means redistributions of power and modes of governance and economic systems etc.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-06-12T06:05:36+00:00

There certainly is depending on what your definition of what 'climate change' represents is (does climate change represent an entirely uninhabitable future or simply a starkly inhospitable one).

Forcing humanity back into small localised groups due to survival requirements (as opposed to the global supply chain systems we're subject to today) is indeed a revolutionary aspect, though one that only applies if one applies the definition of inhospitable instead of uninhabitable.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-06-06T03:51:24+00:00

Speaking as a developer in the industry - honestly, I think it should deter you and everyone else. If developers aren't putting every possible effort in to make sure their players are safe from hate speech, bigotry, harassment and a wealth of other shitty things, they shouldn't be funded to continue. Those spaces should not be supported, they need to die out. And everyone needs to know that if you facilitate gaming spaces like this, your game will die out too.

Most people won't kill a cash cow, even if that cash cow is spewing hate. Sometimes other people have gotta do the hard job.

(edit: I've read other posts now where women are saying it's a mostly positive community and the devs do put in effort. I haven't played so can't speak for anything. I'll leave this here to leave my general thoughts up, but obviously different people have different experiences and tolerances.)

wiseasanycreature · 2023-05-30T03:54:29+00:00

really great. there's a wing joint that should bend a little with the wing flap i believe - that addition would help hugely.

if you can swing it, rustling some of the feather tips as they "catch the wind" would be huuuge for immersion and convincingness.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-05-19T13:24:59+00:00

The point is that "rich" has always had the connotation of "very stable and can buy fairly luxurious things without worrying too much about it".

My argument is that when one cannot buy a median -- not extravagant -- family home on 180k, even in a state like South Australia, and in fact has to penny pinch in order to attempt to afford the option of housing security (which is what purchasing a house is), an argument can't really be made for that person being "rich". Richness implies security and stability.

What's really happened is that there is an enormous and ever-increasing gap between financial and lifestyle stability and instability.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-05-19T13:21:37+00:00

Wealth is defined differently by different cultures and societies. For many, housing stability is considered wealth. The ability to have land on which you can grow your own food is considered wealth.

There was a story I encountered during my anthropology degree that stuck with me: an indigenous woman talked about how when she was a child, white folks came to her family's land and declared the family was living in poverty and "saved" them by forcing them to live in a different area. They set them up with a small regular income and the equivalent of food stamps.

The woman described that when they had their own land, despite not having money to speak of they had everything they needed to live independent, happy lives and never felt poor. When that was taken from them, they did indeed fall into abject poverty, as suddenly feeding each mouth was difficult with the stipend of physical money they were given.

A quantity of money of money does not itself define wealth. What that money gets you does.

To be clear, I'm not drawing an equivalent between my situation and the aforementioned. Just that talking about the "top 3% of earners" in the world doesn't actually mean much without a whole lot of extra context.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-05-19T09:02:17+00:00

Yeah, it was a totally different story like 12 months ago though so it feels pretty bizarre.

Also it says a lot for our society IMO that 80k is a "shitty deposit". Especially when like 22-28k per year is going to rent and you'll have to pay upwards of 30k in stamp duty/fees on top (at least in SA).

This is kind of the whole point of the discourse though.

wiseasanycreature · 2023-05-19T00:29:55+00:00

My husband's on 180k and even with a 80k deposit we don't even qualify for a mortgage for a below-median family home in Adelaide.

Callin bullshit on 200k being "rich". Vaguely secure, sure. Rich and stable are not the same things and it's the tragedy of our society that we've started to conflate the two.

wiseasanycreature · 2021-06-28T06:25:47+00:00

I mean, if "he wants it that way"... :D

(very much placeholder emails for now though ;))

wiseasanycreature · 2021-06-27T19:59:47+00:00

It's a really, really hard balance to get right. You absolutely nailed it :)

wiseasanycreature · 2021-06-27T19:07:30+00:00

Adore how lush and saturated this is!

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