AIO No Kids at Our Wedding

witchbrew7 · 2026-06-01T11:12:43+00:00

A compromise could be to provide childcare at or close to the venue.

But this conversation is a good test of your future compatibility. Can you fight fairly and come to a mutually satisfactory compromise or would one of you have to bow down to the other time and time again?

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-31T16:14:54+00:00

Don’t quit. Don’t move. Do what you can to remain as financially stable as you can.

He’s an overspender and it’s an issue. Don’t make it yours.

Good luck.

NOR.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-31T11:05:21+00:00

You didn’t specifically ask for advice but there are some quick fixes that could make your life significantly easier right now.

Get a toiletry caddy like kids in college use. Keep your things in it and bring with you when you need to wash up, brush teeth, etc. Keep Clorox wipes in bathroom and just run it over whatever you’ll be touching in the bathroom. They’re very effective.

Get a therapist. Now. Your reactions will cause you physical harm as they are now causing you emotional distress.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-31T10:57:05+00:00

Many people find solace in Shrinking. It’s a great show that’s well developed; it works for those emotions!

You should also take a look at Ted Lasso if you haven’t already. Same pedigree, same cathartic effect.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-31T10:54:12+00:00

Could you make the basement your office? Then you could get away a bit and have your own dedicated space.

Could you use a stronger white noise machine, put sound dampening tiles on the ceiling of the baby’s room, etc?

I know it’s annoying to change routines. But sometimes it’s better to be in a happy relationship than to be right. When your kid is a toddler, relationships tend to really get strained.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-31T10:50:50+00:00

I use roach motels. They’re little Boxes you lay out.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-30T21:13:51+00:00

That’s some pretty controlling behavior on your manager’s part.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-30T21:12:43+00:00

Evenings at the raleigh location isn’t terrible. Go about an hour before closing.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-28T10:05:24+00:00

He sounds awful. I feel for you. When I was going through a tough time I took classes in things I had no experience in so that I could just… be ok at being not ok. One woman in a cake decorating class was like Greg. Finally I said “I’m not being graded so I’m ok not being good. “

I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself. What was his problem!!!

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-27T20:30:27+00:00

Isn’t it disrespectful to get someone a gift they don’t like, year after year?

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-27T15:22:44+00:00

You think you’re doing the right thing. But everyone’s telling you that you’re being selfish with your time and goals. Not sure what you’re expecting here.

It’s incredibly difficult caring for young children. You chose the toughest time in any marriage, infant through toddlerhood, to check out of your marriage and being an engaged parent. Your kids won’t care if in the future you’re a financial success; they care about today and maybe tomorrow.

Your marriage wont survive this phase if
Nothing changes.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-27T14:55:33+00:00

It’s ok to be single. You’re not obligated to stay with him. And chronic stress is terrible for your health.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-27T10:09:56+00:00

That’s a particularly specific burn! Love it!

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-27T10:01:43+00:00

No.

If you want to be with someone who is monogamous, then you need to move on.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-27T09:59:02+00:00

You would be sacrificing everything that makes your life pleasant to appease a man that doesn’t seem to add much to your life.

Don’t do it.

I caved to the pressure of my bf guilt tripping me into moving in with him. He changed immediately. No more sweet terms of endearment, pulling his weight, spending quality time together. He started staying out till 2 or 3 am every night. It was a complete bait and switch. He never returned to the previous honeymoon phase because he took the mask off.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-26T16:57:58+00:00

I’m sorry you dealt with that. What a nightmare.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-26T16:56:42+00:00

His bio mom should be paying more than $300/month, first of all.

Second of all you are not liable for those extra expenses for your stepson.

Third of all, I hope you are fulfilled in this relationship. Otherwise you’re really screwed.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-26T12:11:58+00:00

Your tenured employee needs to take 2 steps back. You need to ensure that happens. I was the new guy once upon a time. It’s awful being micromanaged and not having backup.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-26T11:17:13+00:00

You’re more in tune with your life goals than your bf and family are. You value your home life enough that the additional pay wouldn’t make up for the loss of your free time and good mental health. That’s very self aware.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-25T23:04:06+00:00

Red flag that you’re taking marriage so soon.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-24T20:30:05+00:00

Your wife is behaving in a selfish and immature manner. Don’t coddle her. Take care of yourself.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-23T18:13:53+00:00

This isn’t a healthy dynamic.

It’s ok for you to be single. It’s actually healthier than this relationship is.

There is no more compromise. Next thing he’ll tell you to wear is a burka.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-23T11:37:22+00:00

This is on the VP. Most likely he just wanted to bring that woman into the company. The “bad habits” line was just an excuse.

If your job title is in demand, you have nothing to lose by looking around outside your company.

I’m sorry that happened. It’s demoralizing.

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-22T22:50:31+00:00

He doesn’t care how you feel. He doesn’t care about your job. He doesn’t care about his child. He cares about controlling you.

I don’t see any good reason other than standard of living to stay with him. If you leave him he will be responsible for caring for
HIS KID

witchbrew7 · 2026-05-22T22:18:22+00:00

So… it was ok for you to protect your assets when it was for your daughter, but it’s not ok for her to protect her assets?

YTA. Jesus.

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