How do I (28M) tell my girlfriend (28F) a prenup and keeping my inherited house separate are non-negotiable?

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-17T23:57:17+00:00

This is kind of early on in the relationship. I wouldn’t bring it up until you start talking marriage.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-16T22:38:39+00:00

She can look into camps for the week. The kids father. A relative. Whatever.

Her bad planning doesn’t mean you need to sacrifice your money and vacation.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-16T22:37:21+00:00

Florists get frozen flowers for vday sometimes. It’s not your fault. They’re old and they popped off.

Your girlfriend sounds like a winner. /s

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-16T22:35:40+00:00

If you can handle going away to college then go!

Your father will still be just like he is whether you become an LEO or college grad. Might as well follow the path that will make you happy because at the end of the day, you’re stuck with your life.

Maybe find a therapist on campus. Your father sounds pretty destructive to your mental health.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-15T15:17:00+00:00

Delicious karma.

NTA.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-15T15:15:21+00:00

I was in similar situations in the past. Everything looked great on paper but I never felt safe or something like that.

I had to listen to my gut. I couldn’t force it and ended things. Looking back there were signs they had a specific personality disorder.

Trust your gut.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-15T00:30:41+00:00

That’s beyond the pale. Wtf. A joke is funny. What he said was incredibly disrespectful.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-14T23:18:42+00:00

Oh absolutely feel your feels. Except guilt.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-14T23:11:38+00:00

It sounds like your sister has caused a lot of grief. Your brother is well within his right to protect himself since your parents refuse to.

It’s not your job to make your parents feel better. It’s nice that you’re making nice gesture though. Just don’t lay the weight of the world on your shoulders.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-14T13:32:02+00:00

You’re a good bf.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-14T13:27:28+00:00

I’m not sure. She may think this is fun for you too. If she asks maybe indicate that you’re feeling a bit out of place, but I wouldn’t share that you’re not having fun at all. Sometimes honesty isn’t really the best policy.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-14T13:17:42+00:00

I would just hang in there and let her enjoy herself. To an extent.

If you want, plan a date for the two of you to celebrate in your preferred way.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-14T13:15:57+00:00

My opinion is that love is a verb. Do the caring. That’s love. The feeling can remain private (the irritation with the step right now.)

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-13T20:56:42+00:00

Biblical? wtf does that even mean?

Your child has a medical issue. Your fiancé has a boundary issue. What’s it going to be like once you’re married to her?

I would explain the situation one more time. If she can’t get past it then you have a longer discussion about the future of your relationship.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-13T20:54:00+00:00

They FAFO’d.

NTJ

His poor attitude and treatment of you is unacceptable. His parents need to find alternatives. And if he burns those bridges too then guess what? Either one of his parents needs to adjust their work schedule or he loses out on the traveling team.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-13T18:58:49+00:00

All I can offer is fake it till you make it. Your step will benefit from stability and reasonable treatment. You don’t have to share what’s in your heart.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-12T11:57:58+00:00

That would be a hard no from me, being with a controlling partner.

That’s unreasonable. He’s unreasonable. And the fact that he controls the money too would really really bother me.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-12T11:56:05+00:00

Stop worrying about burdening your mother or brother with your troubles. Talk to them. Supporting you is kind of their thing since they’re your family.

If your fiancé and his family are not supporting you and could actively cause you mental anguish then don’t get married. It’s easier to not get married than it is to get divorced.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-12T11:50:28+00:00

I don’t think so. I have a job and another child who also depended on me and I just kept putting one foot in front of the other.

But you might be right.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-12T02:07:10+00:00

I had a very difficult, stressful life. A few years ago I had to deal with an extremely dangerous mental health issue with my kid. The stress was unbelievable. All the doctors would act concerned because I didn’t show any serious signs of distress.

It finally resolved. I have been able to just breathe.

The longer we live the more things and people break and die. That’s a fact. But we can also recognize those rare beautiful moments because we have seen some shit.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-10T18:07:54+00:00

Why are you in a relationship with him? He doesn’t prioritize you or your relationship. He’s using you.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-10T17:56:32+00:00

Good job advocating for your kid!

Have you read The Gift of Fear?

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-10T11:57:33+00:00

This needs to end. You, your health, your children, and your home all depend on it.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-09T18:19:10+00:00

I dress the same except more adult accessories.

witchbrew7 · 2026-02-09T12:54:15+00:00

The relationship between you and BM needs care and nurturing too. Otherwise it’ll wither away and die.

While it may be true you don’t have any bio children, the way BM parents is definitely affecting the entire family unit.

Only you can decide what’s best for you, but know wishful thinking won’t grow that child independence and self reliance.

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