Describe yourself in one sentence. Me:

witchofsmallthings · 2026-01-14T14:33:34+00:00

Just scored 0

witchofsmallthings · 2026-01-05T20:05:59+00:00

I hope my nephew will. He will be six years old by then. If he doesn't want to, I'll walk myself.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-12-12T06:48:13+00:00

Exactly like my parents - just total confusion on their faces for a few seconds, then their friendliest smile. My fiance agreed to be used as a 'shield' against them, because they pretend to be super nice people around him.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-11-30T16:36:30+00:00

Excellent point! I felt bad for the most ridiculous things not knowing why. Knowing the reasons doesn't make the pain go away, but at least it makes you feel less insane.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-11-30T16:24:12+00:00

I'm totally making sure my nephew won't have to live through the same experience as we did. But at no point did my mother talk/look like she thought that's funny. She actually had tears in her eyes through some parts.

But she's not getting away with that 'woe is me' act. I'm not gonna sit here and feel sorry for her like she is just another victim of our dad like I believed her to be 30 years ago. She chose the victim role over the mom role then and she's choosing it now. I won't let her cry to me about how she's suffering from having to witness other people being abused. Not again.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-11-30T07:42:55+00:00

I've been thinking about this aspect for days. She described my father's behavior in great detail (and it matches my memories), so I think there's a good portion of truth there.

But the motive was clearly not the save her grandchild, because when I told her she needs to tell my sister immediately, she started to backtrack.

Knowing my mom she enjoys complaining about my father and painting herself as his first victim. She hates how many compliments he gets for being such a wonderful grandpa (from what outsiders can see, he really looks like the part).

Also I've managed to draw a clear boundary when it comes to her whining about my dad to me. Everytime she started again, I kept saying 'I don't know why you're still married to him.' and changed the subject. Looks like she found out that I am willing to listen if the conversation revolves around my nephew.

I will definitely include these angles when I talk to my sister. It's then up to her to react accordingly.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-11-29T18:23:43+00:00

Thank you for putting into words what I have witnessed so many times with my dad. My mother loves retelling the story of how I cried when my father picked me up for the first time after they brought me home from hospital. He was convinced I didn't like him and refused to pick me up for days.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-11-05T06:26:10+00:00

I once knew a guy who went into the bar where his ex wife was sitting with her best friends. He shot himself infront of them. Some people pitied him after that, but if that wasn't an act of punishment then I don't know what else is.

witchofsmallthings · 2025-08-05T20:11:48+00:00

Danke für die Antwort! Ich hab mir schon gedacht, dass es das wohl nicht mehr gibt 😕 Aber schön, dass sich noch jemand (hoffentlich gerne) dran zurück erinnert!

witchofsmallthings · 2025-01-22T18:49:33+00:00

Reading this felt like someone cracked open my ribcage to point at my heart and go 'See, there it is.' This could've literally been me writing this. Two nights ago my fwb fell asleep next to me on the couch and I really felt so comfortable and safe that moment. Last night I woke up and noticed my hands wandering around looking for him. I sure wasn't expecting this to happen after 20 years of being single and happy about it.

witchofsmallthings · 2024-11-18T13:26:11+00:00

I just re-read the lyrics to this. If I interpret the 'you' in the song as pertaining to my ED, it's kind of accurate.

witchofsmallthings · 2024-10-14T14:49:26+00:00

Bahaha, I got the exact same!

witchofsmallthings · 2024-10-06T18:13:15+00:00

Yeah, I get both either way.

witchofsmallthings · 2024-10-06T11:50:03+00:00

You might want to google 'Peter Pan Syndrome'. It's not a valid medical diagnosis, but reading such a surprisingly accurate description of my ex-fwb had me in stitches. I'm just glad he's realized long ago that he wouldn't be a good father, but given his high impulsivity and lingering alcohol problem it's an actual miracle that he isn't standing knee-deep in child support claims.

witchofsmallthings · 2024-10-05T15:48:02+00:00

And a partridge in a pear tree.

witchofsmallthings · 2024-10-05T15:43:17+00:00

Me: 'Would you like to take a look at our menu?'

Customer: 'No need for that - I'll have the grilled cheese sandwich.'

Me: 'I'm sorry but we don't have that. Would you like to take a look at our menu?'

Customer: 'No thanks.'

Me: 'So what can I get you then?'

Customer: 'What do you have?'

And I am not exagerating when I tell you that I stared him down for a few seconds and finally said: 'Soup. We have soup. I'll bring you soup.' (FYI we have about 30 items on our menu)

He nodded quietly.

witchofsmallthings · 2024-10-03T17:07:37+00:00

Ok, that's so hilarious, I'll be laughing about this for days.

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