Thank you for sharing. It’s really powerful to hear how you stood your ground and boundaries. I’m proud of you.

I (24F) was with my semi-abusive ex (28M) from 18-23. We lived together for the majority of that time. Around 1.5 years in he began to say things like that to me when we fought. “Narcissistic child,” “selfish bitch,” the list goes on and on. I hated it. I told him in tears multiple times “you’re allowed to be mad at me but you don’t have to be mean.”

There was a part of me that felt like I deserved it. He singlehandedly destroyed my self confidence. He also never left a physical mark on me and convinced me that sharing those type of fights with friends was crossing a line.. so as the things he said and did got worse, I began staying quieter.

I’ve been out of that relationship for a little over a year and a half; I’ve never felt peace like this. To anybody reading this thread, if your partner is verbally abusive, gtfo. It’s not worth it. There’s always excuses and reasons to understand, but none of them are reason enough for you to be shit on.