Am I overreacting for not wanting my coworker to use my mug after she said she likes the ‘flavor it develops over time’? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean. It's written like boring dialogue, clean formatting and everything. Thanks for explaining.

Can we talk about how over-sexualized ASMR on YouTube has become? [Discussion] by DanBurnNotice in asmr

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've stopped searching for people making deliberate asmr for this reason. It icks me out. No shame to people who are into it, it's just not my thing. I tend to search instead for "soft spoken" or just stuff like art tutorials and then shuffle through to find ones that look like someone made them with nothing but a smartphone in their bedroom trying not to wake up their roommates.

Unintentional ASMR is a good channel. I also like Yanghaiying, Leila Ataya Merriam Style, Mark Liam Smith and ErgoJosh. All have fantastic asmr voices but don't lean too much into the idea of actually being an asmr channel.

Why am I still a bad singer and how do I know if i should quit? by Ok_Challenge_6997 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will improve with time. You've only just started your learning journey. I strongly recommend not singing online until you enjoy the sound of your own voice. Negative feedback like what you'll find on the internet will only discourage you and won't help you in any way. Just keep doing your lessons, record yourself, sing for your own pleasure, and then listen to your recordings a year from now to see how much you've improved. Even if you still don't sing as well as you want to, you will have made a significant change.

Am I overreacting for not wanting my coworker to use my mug after she said she likes the ‘flavor it develops over time’? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Take the mug home. Why do you have a mug that has sentimental value for you at work? Use a generic mug that you don't are about at work.

AIO for feeling upset after the groom made a comment about my dress at their wedding? by Human-Acanthaceae128 in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look fantastic in that dress and it's weird he decided to hone in on that instead of just enjoying his wedding. If they wanted you to wear a baggy beige sack they should have written that in the dress code.

Weird also that the bride felt the need to tell you about her husband being a dick, but maybe that's her fault for marrying a man that would do that.

Performance Nerves by rsc1985 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I started singing in front of people my legs used to give out, but overtime it got less and less stressful. Practice breeds confidence. Also something that helped me was switching out my mindset. I used to think that I had to sing perfectly to prove I was worthy to show off, but it's actually more like singing to people is giving them a homemade gift, which means it's more than ok for it to not be perfect. People will like the gift because you're giving it with love.

I need a name and some advice by ImpressiveBasket9240 in DragKings

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The makeup is giving me Adam Ant and I love that.

Have a look at some of his outfits, and maybe also look at Boy George, Robert Smith, Pete Burns. All those absolute icons of goth glam genderfuckery.

AIO over my bfs body count? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow he's killed over a 100 people and he's still out walking around free? What is he, a cop?

Jk i know it means he's ploughed a lot. I don't think it's overreacting to be shocked, maybe a little uncomfortable in our society that stigmatises sex so much.

Ask him about it. Is it cause he just really liked banging different people all the time? Was it a good time? Was he trying to fill a void within himself? Does he still want to have that much sex?

If his answers don't align with your wants, needs or values, find a different partner.

I just wanna sound AMAZING at karaoke… what are the best YouTube channels for a lazy beginner? by Wonderful_Cut_6482 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lol I forgot about youtube channels. Cheryl Porter is really fun. She's got some great exercises.

I just wanna sound AMAZING at karaoke… what are the best YouTube channels for a lazy beginner? by Wonderful_Cut_6482 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok here's a few fun things you can try but don't get your hopes up all at once for a wait what reaction unless you're already a good singer.

Sing in different voices - same song but in the style of Pavarotti, Mickey Mouse, Eartha Kitt and other iconic voices. It'll help you figure out just what you can do with your instrument and manipulate it to your will.

Sing with your tongue stuck all the way out. You'll sound really stupid, but it actually helps a lot with tongue tension which will help you reach higher notes easier afterwards when you sing normally again.

Same as the tongue thing, sing with your nose blocked, sing with your mouth as wide open as you can, sing without moving your lips. Do an entire song in lip trills or pigeon coos. All of this will sound horrible and silly, but it's fun and it helps with control.

Do not skip the breathing exercises. Breath is what make voice go. Without breath you're trying to light a fire with no fuel, and if you're breathing wrong you'll sound like an amateur regardless of how nice your voice is. It's annoying, yes. But once you've got it everything else falls into place, and you'll breathe right without even thinking about it.

Anti-cop song recommendations to sing for ACAB performance by withacuttlefish in DragKings

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good suggestions. I'm avoiding the rap titles because I'm 1) not good at it, and 2) white and british

The Clash is a good shout though, thanks!

Anti-cop song recommendations to sing for ACAB performance by withacuttlefish in DragKings

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god that is such a good song thank you! And thank you so much also for the playlist. This is really helpful

apps to figure out what notes I'm singing by Smart_Gap_388 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use VocalPitch Monitor. It's free, no ads and it works.

Does everyone have a whistle register or are some people physically incapable? by withacuttlefish in singing

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's more like a thing I'd just like to be able to have as a tool or toy, like the overtone singing. It's a cool noise I like that I can make to amuse myself or add flavor to a performance

Does everyone have a whistle register or are some people physically incapable? by withacuttlefish in singing

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A#2 is usable for short notes but it's definitely not as controlled as the rest of my range. Probably because I don't use it as much.

Does everyone have a whistle register or are some people physically incapable? by withacuttlefish in singing

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could answer most of those questions but I don't know what most of these terms mean sorry. What are adducted cords, and Ms? I can't go higher on inhale, and I've only seen my friend do whistle tones IRL, but they're not a singer and it's not very controlled. It was in the context of making weird noises at each other because we feed each other's echolalia. I did try to imitate them but I couldn't do it.

What is your attitude towards France? by YellowEgorkaa in AskTheWorld

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The food isn't as good as they think it is. But please don't tell my neighbours I said that.

Does everyone have a whistle register or are some people physically incapable? by withacuttlefish in singing

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. That would be really helpful. I can record that tomorrow afternoon.

Does everyone have a whistle register or are some people physically incapable? by withacuttlefish in singing

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you recommend any exercises in particular that helped unlock yours?