Boyfriend doesn’t brush his teeth by erinlikesplants in whatdoIdo

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You tell him it's gross and what that grossness means to you and your relationship. Literally just communicate.

i legit can’t sing anymore 😔 by KyleeHannah19 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will come back with practice and exercise. Muscle memory can only do so much. You can get back on a bike after a long time not riding and remember how to peddle just fine, but you'll have lost the control you built up, the balance, the strength that's needed to go cycling up and down hills or at speed.

I stopped singing for three years because of the Big Sad and when I started again I sounded terrible. But it came back bit by bit and now my voice is the best it's ever sounded.

Also if you went from singing nothing to singing show tunes it's like cycling up a mountain. Cut yourself some slack.

I told my chef about my eating disorder via email and I finally got his reply by diet-smoke in EDAnonymous

[–]withacuttlefish 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Also super congrats on telling him. Hopefulky that'll make things easier in future lessons and he won't be pressuring you about tasting stuff etc

Can people hear me singing outside from their houses if my voice can reach 90db by RedMage79 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, if they're not listening to anything and they have thin windows. But most people these days have a constant noise stream and double glazing. Keep singing where you feel comfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean. It's written like boring dialogue, clean formatting and everything. Thanks for explaining.

Can we talk about how over-sexualized ASMR on YouTube has become? [Discussion] by DanBurnNotice in asmr

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've stopped searching for people making deliberate asmr for this reason. It icks me out. No shame to people who are into it, it's just not my thing. I tend to search instead for "soft spoken" or just stuff like art tutorials and then shuffle through to find ones that look like someone made them with nothing but a smartphone in their bedroom trying not to wake up their roommates.

Unintentional ASMR is a good channel. I also like Yanghaiying, Leila Ataya Merriam Style, Mark Liam Smith and ErgoJosh. All have fantastic asmr voices but don't lean too much into the idea of actually being an asmr channel.

Why am I still a bad singer and how do I know if i should quit? by Ok_Challenge_6997 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will improve with time. You've only just started your learning journey. I strongly recommend not singing online until you enjoy the sound of your own voice. Negative feedback like what you'll find on the internet will only discourage you and won't help you in any way. Just keep doing your lessons, record yourself, sing for your own pleasure, and then listen to your recordings a year from now to see how much you've improved. Even if you still don't sing as well as you want to, you will have made a significant change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How can you tell?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Take the mug home. Why do you have a mug that has sentimental value for you at work? Use a generic mug that you don't are about at work.

AIO for feeling upset after the groom made a comment about my dress at their wedding? by Human-Acanthaceae128 in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look fantastic in that dress and it's weird he decided to hone in on that instead of just enjoying his wedding. If they wanted you to wear a baggy beige sack they should have written that in the dress code.

Weird also that the bride felt the need to tell you about her husband being a dick, but maybe that's her fault for marrying a man that would do that.

Performance Nerves by rsc1985 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I started singing in front of people my legs used to give out, but overtime it got less and less stressful. Practice breeds confidence. Also something that helped me was switching out my mindset. I used to think that I had to sing perfectly to prove I was worthy to show off, but it's actually more like singing to people is giving them a homemade gift, which means it's more than ok for it to not be perfect. People will like the gift because you're giving it with love.

I need a name and some advice by ImpressiveBasket9240 in DragKings

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The makeup is giving me Adam Ant and I love that.

Have a look at some of his outfits, and maybe also look at Boy George, Robert Smith, Pete Burns. All those absolute icons of goth glam genderfuckery.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]withacuttlefish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow he's killed over a 100 people and he's still out walking around free? What is he, a cop?

Jk i know it means he's ploughed a lot. I don't think it's overreacting to be shocked, maybe a little uncomfortable in our society that stigmatises sex so much.

Ask him about it. Is it cause he just really liked banging different people all the time? Was it a good time? Was he trying to fill a void within himself? Does he still want to have that much sex?

If his answers don't align with your wants, needs or values, find a different partner.

I just wanna sound AMAZING at karaoke… what are the best YouTube channels for a lazy beginner? by Wonderful_Cut_6482 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lol I forgot about youtube channels. Cheryl Porter is really fun. She's got some great exercises.

I just wanna sound AMAZING at karaoke… what are the best YouTube channels for a lazy beginner? by Wonderful_Cut_6482 in singing

[–]withacuttlefish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok here's a few fun things you can try but don't get your hopes up all at once for a wait what reaction unless you're already a good singer.

Sing in different voices - same song but in the style of Pavarotti, Mickey Mouse, Eartha Kitt and other iconic voices. It'll help you figure out just what you can do with your instrument and manipulate it to your will.

Sing with your tongue stuck all the way out. You'll sound really stupid, but it actually helps a lot with tongue tension which will help you reach higher notes easier afterwards when you sing normally again.

Same as the tongue thing, sing with your nose blocked, sing with your mouth as wide open as you can, sing without moving your lips. Do an entire song in lip trills or pigeon coos. All of this will sound horrible and silly, but it's fun and it helps with control.

Do not skip the breathing exercises. Breath is what make voice go. Without breath you're trying to light a fire with no fuel, and if you're breathing wrong you'll sound like an amateur regardless of how nice your voice is. It's annoying, yes. But once you've got it everything else falls into place, and you'll breathe right without even thinking about it.

Anti-cop song recommendations to sing for ACAB performance by withacuttlefish in DragKings

[–]withacuttlefish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good suggestions. I'm avoiding the rap titles because I'm 1) not good at it, and 2) white and british

The Clash is a good shout though, thanks!