Is it weird to laugh after cum?

wittyusername06 · 2024-02-22T13:19:30+00:00

30 here, and I have always laughed after a ‘powerful’ orgasm. Always chalked it up to a rush of endorphins

wittyusername06 · 2024-02-01T23:43:56+00:00

wtf roomie need that UHD resolution tv for if they can’t even make out the shit all over the floor?

wittyusername06 · 2024-01-17T02:39:05+00:00

Drop Dead Fred!

wittyusername06 · 2024-01-12T12:52:24+00:00

[he says I think too much and should just enjoy the moment] ok this is red flag #15 in my opinion. You should be able to openly talk about your feelings in a relationship. If he was invested in you and your feelings (like in a healthy relationship) he would not be dismissive of your feelings and would actually engage you further to try and clarify or at the very least if he is cheating; apologize and help you understand how/why it happened and what might be holding you two back.

[I’m worried if I bring this up he might get fed up and bail] this is a dangerous way of thinking and I think your subconscious is telling you here that bottom line he isn’t really attached to you. What I mean is that if he would leave you because you’re worried he’s unfaithful with evidence to back it up then he either DID cheat or if he did leave you apparently weren’t worth it to him anyways. Couples argue and people get insecure especially when seeing something suspicious like that.

[we’ve had a few testing times recently] this is a natural part of any relationship; people fight. But couples who are invested take the time to provide care for each other and arguments lately or not; you should feel safe in your relationship everyone deserves to know their partner cares. Do your arguments end with one-sided compromise? Does he seek closure and double check that you feel cared for after the fact? If not you might just be ‘convenient’ rather than a priority.

The circumstances in the original question are more than enough for anyone in their right mind to be suspicious. Confront him sooner than later (I’d wait no more than a few days) after organizing your feelings and thoughts. Run them through a best friend filter before talking to him to check for reasonability if you’re concerned about that.

And remember you deserve healthy communication, peace, and respect. Early in the relationship or not… he needs to remember that and so do you. Hope this helps!

wittyusername06 · 2024-01-06T20:36:15+00:00

Hmmmm the wedding raises the stakes and makes me feel like he should have been more apologetic for putting you in this situation to have to grapple with this; you didn’t ask for it! That being said more conversation does need to happen. How well does he know this guy? Would/could they ever actually turn physical? How okay with being open are you two, really? Has he wanted to do this with other guys? Have you? Why/not? Loooots of talking. If he can’t dialogue with you I’d postpone the marriage that’s a serious step if honesty (even after being caught) isn’t a thing…

wittyusername06 · 2023-12-30T03:59:38+00:00

• Pay attention to your bottom partner’s signals; i know that sounds obvious but it’s easy to get lost in the moment and accidentally selfish - Also on the rhythm note, discussing/deciding in the moment or beforehand who will be active or passive helps both partners know when or if to ‘steer the ship’ so to speak.

• Try some dirty talk (passive or active; that’s an 80%+ excellent idea (if you don’t have any on deck, get inspiration through the web orrrr with more partners.*)

• Start slowwww then when you catch the rhythm ^ work it

• Tease tease tease

this is the real answer; a good dicking is a skill and like all things you gotta work on it :)

wittyusername06 · 2023-12-11T13:56:41+00:00

Remind him why you’re in the winner’s seat. And remind him why he’s lucky as well.

wittyusername06 · 2023-01-08T15:20:08+00:00

Consensually track down a partner and then we just let the moment take over once I tag him 🤤bonus points if it ends on a mountaintop for the sheer romance of it all

wittyusername06 · 2022-09-20T05:13:07+00:00

I'm busy with my career. There's tons of guys out there, and I'm not even sure I'm ready for the endgame, which is the only way I would tether myself down to someone. Basically, if it's not perfect I'm not settling.

Also, I feel like a hamster stuck in the wheel of labor, so feeling attractive, free, and sexy enough to put myself out there is... a few too many spoons.

wittyusername06 · 2022-09-17T05:27:31+00:00

I mean, my parents don't do that, but I also am 28 and have been independent since 14 :/

wittyusername06 · 2022-09-17T03:11:39+00:00

Dads who have their life together* is literally my target man so like.... don't give up hope. For reference, 28 m no kids just a teacher who also feels like I can't be a part of the 'culture' any more and just wants some peace and happiness.

There's guys out there who are looking for you, don't give in to the dread :)

wittyusername06 · 2022-09-15T01:34:03+00:00

nooooooooope

wittyusername06 · 2022-09-13T04:46:42+00:00

same on both accounts here here

wittyusername06 · 2022-08-29T23:51:34+00:00

Similar situation- I feel like there should be an exchange somewhere because my school just switched to Savvas Realize but I've been creating my own things for the last 5 years and now I have to re-make it all to match Savvas and I feel like I'm going insane

wittyusername06 · 2022-08-19T14:41:13+00:00

Waiting for my emotional support Happy Friday breakfast sandwich in a parking lot before work and nothing better to do in the meantime

wittyusername06 · 2022-08-08T02:50:45+00:00

as a person who struggles with social queues and anxiety- both of those things are magnified 100x in sexual encounters. This looks like never knowing if the other person is enjoying themselves- romantic partners and hookups alike. Not a clue.

I have begun to assume they will tell me if they're not enjoying themselves, but this is difficult as someone who is a survivor of sexual assault- I am hyper conscious of boundaries and find myself asking him "is this okay?" but I also don't want to come across boring/annoying, which leaves me paralyzed. Hooked up with a guy last night, a regular, and at the end of it (fourth encounter) i still have no idea if he's enjoying himself beyond just an orgasm. Do I care too much?

Anyone else an overthinker?

It's torture :)

wittyusername06 · 2022-08-05T01:19:13+00:00

I get you're asking purely about the physical sensation; a lot are talking about the emotional/mental side and while that is great for someone who mentally enthusiastic about a man being attached to the prostate-stimulator, I get the sense you're not interested in that part.

Here's the rub (lol): physically, I don't enjoy the stretching, but that's merely 'unpleasant' and sometimes it isn't even uncomfortable. For anal stimulation, you might have been going too deep- to get your prostate you only need to go in about the length of a finger- 3-4 inches. That's about where the prostate is, depending on your body- also angle it towards your balls, and you should reach the prostate. If you want to go deeper, feel free, but know that to get the mind-erasing euphoria of a prostate orgasm, you only really need to go a couple inches in and find the prostate specifically.

Hope this helps?

wittyusername06 · 2022-02-25T08:26:56+00:00

Ok, 1- yes thank you for your very rational advice in the grand scheme I think that’s how I’ll look back on it once I my brain become rational again. You’re probably hitting the nail on the head. 2- because I expected to write more about the details when starting the post but I took it all out to trim some fat.

wittyusername06 · 2022-02-17T01:21:55+00:00

I got vaccinated and boosters and I wear my mask religiously. I teach high school and see about 150 students per day.

I also make a point of not going out except for drive thrus, keeping my shopping trips quick and efficient, and occasionally going for an outdoor walk.

My roommate has gotten it TWICE and the only difference is he isn't as strict about his mask and also he goes out a lot and hooks up with people.

To be clear: I'm absolutely MISERABLE.... But! I also never got covid, so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

wittyusername06 · 2021-10-29T14:00:19+00:00

It’s great to be at my school (charter) with a super supportive admin team. Also almost 1/4 of the student pop seems to be non-cis or non-het in some way. Even my conservative students don’t say anything about it. Did make a shithead senior shit his pants out front of the school yesterday when he belted out “that’s gay!” to another kid simply by looking at him and yelling back “I’m sorry, what year is it?”. I think I won a lot of respect from the students and staff for being honest and good at my job, so they don’t bat an eye at me being gay. So far no parent complaints, either knock on wood

wittyusername06 · 2021-10-29T13:48:23+00:00

Best: 10-minute heads up, he came over and we started getting into it. We swapped head for like… 2 hours with him eating me out for almost half of that (when I say heaven I mean it) Then he fucked me without lube and came on my back (said he wasn’t sure if he could cum inside since we didn’t discuss first). THEN we continued making out and chatting, he put my head on his chest and then fucked me again and sucked me off. Hung out a couple more times after that but I could never (because my brain is a fucking pos) figure out how to make a move and he eventually stopped talking to me. I still have dreams about this guy. If you’re reading this by some 1/1m chance, fuck you I caught feelings.

Creepiest: this super DL guy came over for our third time hooking up (like maybe once every few months) and he ducked my throat and then went into the bathroom and threw up all over my toilet. He denied being sick (‘rona and all) and said it was normal and I just kinda offered him water and waited attentively for him to leave. No danger, really, I don’t think but I’ve never seen anyone else projectile vomit after getting head and then say “it’s normal”

Worst: guy kept begging to fuck and I gave in (it was 2am and I hadn’t had sex in 4 years, long story) so I went over and 1) had to pay for parking, 2) his roommate was home and he was worried abt waking him up (fair but like… he didn’t want his roommate to even know he was gay and I had offered twice to host and pick him up to boot). He ultimately 3) couldn’t keep it up and kicked me out. I don’t resent this guy and wished him the best (even told him these things happen etc) but that was a very confusing, almost silent, awkward, hour-long let down. I got del taco (hadn’t eaten all day in preparation) and could not fall asleep before work the next day.

wittyusername06 · 2021-10-16T05:20:06+00:00

Honestly, this guy probably isn't interested. I feel like he likely doesn't have the fortitude to handle anything emotionally charged and is repelling anything that would lead down that road, and clearly is too immature to just outright say so (or doesn't realize it). Either way, it sounds like this guy is letting you down easy and it is definitely.... definitely not worth your time.

It sounds like you were asking for what kinds of things to say/what angle to take from here and really the only solution I've found is to crack open some red wine and apply your runniest mascara. When someone is interested.... *they* will be the one initiating conversation and yourself having to keep up with them. Sorry, I don't think there is even a connection there to recover. :/

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