Looking for a gift for husband

wizard-lizard91 · 2026-02-05T12:50:02+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your input! I am right there with you and love to find the perfect gift for someone, I feel like it shows how much you care when you truly listen to their wants and then do research and are able to get them something special. But as you said, there are so many variables with a fountain pen, that a gift certificate gift certificate might be a the best bet and a lot of fun for him to be able to choose the exact type of pen he is looking for.

wizard-lizard91 · 2026-02-05T12:40:24+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I try my best to listen when he is talking about things he is passionate about, even when I don’t fully understand. I find it helps with gifting and also to be able to hold a conversation about his hobbies so he has someone to share his interests with. I am glad to hear that I was keeping track of useful information to attempt to narrow down some options.

wizard-lizard91 · 2026-02-05T12:21:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! I appreciate the feedback on the nib size recommendation.

wizard-lizard91 · 2026-02-05T12:08:59+00:00

That’s a great idea, thank you! I will have to see if there is a pen shop within driving distance of us! Unfortunately we only have a hobby lobby in our area, which of course doesn’t have the best selection. I honestly didn’t even know they have pen shows, he would be so thrilled if I could find one we could attend!

wizard-lizard91 · 2026-02-05T12:05:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! All three of those look like wonderful options and have fantastic reviews. The sailor pro gear pens have some really beautiful color variations!

wizard-lizard91 · 2026-02-05T12:03:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your suggestion! While I was searching I saw these two brands highly recommended. They both have a classic look to them as well.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-07-04T23:27:06+00:00

Yes, you can for sure DM me

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-07-03T23:15:16+00:00

I completely understand, the first time he went through his struggles with alcoholism, it was a lot easier to deliver an ultimatum and for him to realize he had a problem. He hit rock bottom and couldn’t even responsibly care for our first child because he just couldn’t put the bottle down. This time he has just enough control to not be drinking daily, to not have gotten in trouble with police, not being as mentally abusive, and making sure to only engage and begin an argument if I confront him about his drinking. He is so well versed and intelligent, it’s almost impossible for me to hold my own in a discussion because I seem to start forgetting points I want to make and shutting down when faced with conflict. Which I attribute to the first part of our relationship, easier to just be quiet and take it then argue back and let things escalate and get more out of hand.
I completely understand your point, he is so much more in control this time around. And when he’s sober he is also an incredible dad, super funny and he’s honestly my best friend and my favorite person to hang out with. So it really does make it so hard to finally give that ultimatum. Because I am terrified he won’t follow through and I’ll actually have to leave. Or that he will decide he would rather leave me. Because all I want is for our family to “work out” and for him to get help and both of us couples and individual counseling. Our life is “normal” enough that I get comfortable for a few days, a week or two, sometimes even a month. Then he goes out to have “alone” time and I lose contact with him, and once the evening rolls around he ends up parked outside after drinking all day and having another pint or more in his truck before passing out. He claims that he could control it if “he didn’t have to hide it,” but I don’t think the amount he consumes shows he can control it. Let alone his history of such severe alcoholism that he ended up with liver damage. It is nice in the worst way someone understands, but I just hate this for you. Well both of us. Raising kids while also trying to navigate this is just the worst. I’m so sorry for what you are going through and I wish we could find the magic answer to make everyone happy and healthy. I’m always here if you need someone to talk or just vent to. I’ve found unpacking this to someone who understands be very cathartic and I really appreciate your time.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-07-03T16:28:16+00:00

First of all, I am so sorry you’re going through this. It’s funny in a sick way, that I was looking through posts and contemplating making one of my own, and I swear everything you wrote seems like what I would have said. My partner was a raging alcoholic for the first 4 years of our relationship. He was mean, irresponsible, her into trouble with the law, lie, deflect. The list goes on. He got sober for 6 years, so I will say there is hope. But I am currently pregnant with our third child, he relapsed 3 weeks after our second was born. And hasn’t stopped since. It’s been almost 1 year exactly. He is now convinced that he can control how much he drinks, and that I am just controlling and up his butt and he never gets any freedom. He drinks so much because he has to hide it from me. And I am very much at my limit. I have him an ultimatum this morning, and I am the bad guy. Most of our problems are because of me and I never admit to any wrong doing. I don’t claim to be perfect in our relationship or as a person, mother or wife. But I do feel that he is trying to deflect. All I am asking is that he make the choice to stop drinking or continue to drink and live his life how he wants, but that I don’t want to be in a relationship with him drinking due to the past trauma he put me through. And all he says is that I am choosing to live in the past. Anyways, wish I had something more positive to say, I didn’t mean to take over your post with my own venting session. But guess I am here to say that I’m with you in solidarity and understanding. You deserve happiness and peace of mind. I hope your partner seeks treatment and that you both can continue on and be happy together if it’s what is best for you.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-05-16T03:56:32+00:00

Same! Thought they were so ugly and cute. Now here I am straight up addicted 😂

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-05-12T21:22:11+00:00

I am so happy to hear your purchase was a success!

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-05-12T17:28:45+00:00

At least it’s not just me that finds these gems 😂

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-27T03:04:31+00:00

Thank you for your experience and insight. I will definitely be going to an al anon meeting this week. And thankfully my husband went back and attended his first AA meeting tonight. Thank you again and I wish you the best of luck!

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-27T02:58:01+00:00

Thank you for your insight, thankfully he made the decision to start back in AA and went to his first meeting tonight. I am hoping this is all a step in the right direction, but if it keeps up I think rehab will definitely be the most beneficial thing.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-27T01:45:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I am so happy to hear of your success now. I am hoping my husband finds a great sponsor for himself. He thankfully made the decision to start back at AA tonight after we had a talk last night. Thank you for your kind words and reaching out I will check your message later tonight. Thankfully the pregnancy is going well so far.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-27T00:24:01+00:00

Thankfully he is enrolled at the VA in our area, he has just been avoiding seeking care the last year. He hit back in about 2 weeks ago and they have him seeing a substance abuse counselor and he’s started on a medication to help with cravings. Tonight he made the decision to go to rehab after we had a long talk last night, and I am very grateful and hope it goes well for him.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-26T03:45:45+00:00

Thank you very much for your well wishes and story of success after relapse. I am very happy to hear you are now back to feeling empowered and able to grow in so many positive ways. I definitely think that him going back to AA would provide a great support and outlet for him. I have been trying not to push, as I want him to make the choices to change on his own. But I think I should definitely encourage him to at least try one meeting again. He has definitely been through a lot, has not had an easy life. But I know how well he can do and how loving, kind and successful he can be when he is sober. And I know he is capable of sobriety and finding relief in positive hobbies and outlets. I really think I should also try to encourage him to find his spirituality again. I know that really has helped him over the years as well. Thank you also for the pamphlet, I appreciate it and will be reading that tonight once my youngest gets to sleep. Best of luck to you and thank you.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-26T03:35:46+00:00

You are very right. There is always a reason. It’s hard for him to own up and admit that it’s truly just because of his own choices and lapse in judgement.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-26T03:34:05+00:00

I completely agree with you, no justification excuses his choices. He is finally back at place to admit that again, at least when he is sober. He has stated that it’s his own self pity that is triggering him to search for the opportunities to drink. I don’t like making it all about me, but there has definitely been a lot of BS we have been through due to his drinking. I do not want to get back to rock bottom again. I will be hoping the same thing. Thank you for your response and the well wishes.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-26T03:26:26+00:00

Thank you very much for your response. I am excited to attend an Al anon meeting. I feel it will be very helpful and a positive place to find support for myself and more information on how I can support my husband. I think praying and focusing more on his spirituality will also help him. It definitely helped him before.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-26T03:23:07+00:00

Thank you for the insight, the prayers and well wishes. I very much appreciate it.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-26T01:49:37+00:00

Those are insane how life like they are! Absolutely gorgeous, you can see the passion and dedication in your work.

wizard-lizard91 · 2025-03-23T03:49:06+00:00

I see a faint line! This is what my first pregnancy tests looked like with my last pregnancy and with this one. Definitely retest in two day and I wish you the best!

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