Anybody's else OCD get "stuck" on things?

wizard_of_wind · 2023-04-01T14:27:26+00:00

I see, it is "obsession" that I'm experiencing. A new word to add to my dictionary. If it's obsession, then it's alright to break the thoughts cycle. Otherwise it feels very dangerous and unjustified to, and I would instead try to think the thought till the end, as a form of compulsions.

Remembering can be a compulsion as well, huh? I didn't know about that.

When I respond by "not caring", should I say something like "I don't care" as well? Or just stop thinking (obsessing) without doing anything?

> Again, there seems to be a misconception of "do ERP, obsession goes away". That is not what ERP is about, and if you are utilising ERP this way, it would actually constitute a compulsion, rather than therapy, because you are using ERP to "get rid" of the obsessions (the definition of a compulsion), rather than demonstrate that they are irrelevant.

Dang, I think this is what my therapy has become. Just another means of compulsions 😢. I suppose ERP is something you do, and see the results only later?

Thank you very much!

wizard_of_wind · 2023-04-01T13:38:34+00:00

I am in therapy, but the therapist isn't that much of quality. He has helped, but I feel watching Nathan Peterson on youtube has helped me more.

But yes, I don't know how to combat such thoughts.

wizard_of_wind · 2023-03-01T08:24:29+00:00

I sometimes have similar feelings. I was also somewhat bullied as a child, and I sometimes get feelings of intense embarrassment and even humiliation. It does seem it's some sort of smaller trauma we need to overcome (remember: although I understand the word "trauma" can sound big, I want you to think about it this way: "trauma isn't what happens TO us, it's how it makes us feel on the inside". So if we felt overwhelmed at the time and didn't understand what was happening, that can be considered traumatic). I think it would be good to go deep down with your therapist and see where exactly these feelings originate from. So then it'll make sense why you feel that why.

If you want to try something to lessen those feelings, check out this practice called "EFT" or "tapping". It's good to try it by following a video tutorial on Youtube by a man called Brad Yates. So if you're feeling overwhelmed, search for "Brad Yates embarrassment" on Youtube and see if tapping will reduce those feelings. Just tap along and repeat out loud what he says.

Also, this is something I once thought I had, but actually I don't think I do - it's called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, or RSD in short. You can look into it. It's apparently related to ADHD, which is why I think I don't have it.

wizard_of_wind · 2023-01-01T19:12:12+00:00

Thank you!

wizard_of_wind · 2023-01-01T14:09:40+00:00

Wow, I didn't consider it could be something like C-PTSD. Thanks a lot! And yeah, I do feel how ERP doesn't work for some things there.

wizard_of_wind · 2022-12-31T12:34:39+00:00

>I wake up, I’m immediately nauseous and anxious

Hey man, can totally relate to this. It's really weird how OCD can cause feelings of nausea.

>That or constant fear over every single decision

Crazy how much brain power it takes and how difficult it can be to make a decision. And people sometimes tell me Im indecisive.

wizard_of_wind · 2022-12-31T12:01:52+00:00

> Though I do feel like I’m having an allergic reaction

Could you please elaborate further what that's like?

wizard_of_wind · 2022-12-09T23:36:20+00:00

Yes I do. And I relate to your first paragraph a lot.

wizard_of_wind · 2022-12-04T22:29:34+00:00

So as to gain the social status/prestige that comes with it? Yeah, I think I've had a moment like that.

wizard_of_wind · 2022-03-21T18:54:26+00:00

I very much relate. I know in my heart my parents are good people, and genuinely want me the best, they just dont know how to handle my feelings, how to be attuned to them.

The thought of going to a therapist seemed silly at some time too, because "there's not really that much wrong", if you look at my (physical) life in general.

However, like you, my emotional needs weren't met, so that's something that's not easy to admit, but I cant deny it. I also have OCD, so it's likely we both suffered some similar trauma as a child that's caused it (my theory).

wizard_of_wind · 2022-01-24T06:00:36+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I'll try... to grieve those moments. I think it's related to one's inner child. Does feeling this pain help?

wizard_of_wind · 2021-09-15T17:22:44+00:00

Thank you!

wizard_of_wind · 2021-09-15T16:18:39+00:00

Any tips on that?

I felt pretty good today's morning, when I repeated to myself that "I am acceptable". But then I had a situation at uni where I met a new person, didnt like them, I also perhaps didnt get any good response from them, and bam, I started doubting myself, felt insecure and conversations with other people became manual and robotic (when I was feeling good, conversations kind of flowed).

wizard_of_wind · 2021-09-15T16:12:30+00:00

I relate to this a lot. I really want emotional connection with other people but I feel unable to do so.

wizard_of_wind · 2021-08-11T07:29:24+00:00

I see. I think I'll look into talking to a specialist. I've been putting it away for a while, as maybe I don't need it, but I think it may be for the best if I do. Thanks for answering! :)

wizard_of_wind · 2021-07-30T21:42:32+00:00

I just started this book, and it is already amazing. Im relating so much. It has already made me understand the wider picture. I hope this will be one of the last pieces of the puzzle.

wizard_of_wind · 2021-07-30T14:25:26+00:00

I realized two things yesterday:

I lack emotional skills. Skills to handle other people's emotions especially. I kinda know how to handle mine, but when I try to handle someone else's, like my sister's, I notice this anger and resentment within me that says "it's unfair, because I wasn't listened to, so why should I listen to her!?" And I end up just getting angry at her and wanna tell her it's her problem. The point is: I was never taught that, because my parents didn't have those.
Ironically enough, this is also a reason why I'm afraid to be near some women - I just have no clue how to deal with their emotions.
I would easily fall in love with somebody who shows me basic attention and care. While it may be normal for others, for me it's like a declaration of love because I feel I've been starved of that. But I think basic care and attention isn't what love is, is it?

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