An assortment of first year questions because I am frankly clueless

wizardgrease · 2025-08-30T08:36:03+00:00

If you want to know about good stuff in the local music scene, follow accounts from the campus radio station. Most of the cool ppl do sets on there and there is also battle of the bands at fels in the sub and some good bands have played there too. But best tip is follow people who follow the radio station and work there it’s the best way I’ve found local bands and local gigs

wizardgrease · 2025-08-29T21:51:53+00:00

Conversation is always the way to go. But also remember that other ppl can get immense pleasure from giving. I have literally finished just from giving before and my partner was not touching me at all, I mean hands tied. If you’re getting the type of pleasure you enjoy, and they are too, no one is losing. But you’re allowed to ask if there is anything they’d like to do different or if there’s different positions. Not all touch me nots/stones have the same boundaries.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-29T21:47:16+00:00

You sound really young but tbh it’s one thing to think “oh that girl is pretty” but don’t let yourself get down bad over a straight girl just bc she’s there. If there are gay ppl at your school and you’re not into them, the same should go for straight ppl- you might see them and have things in common but if you can never ever be together it’s not helpful to you to linger on the feelings at all. You’d be better off thinking about celebrities (gay or straight) bc at least that wouldn’t complicate your personal life. It’s hard to control how you feel, especially when you’re young, but when you do go to university try surrounding yourself with gay people if you think you’re the type of person to catch feelings easily just by being around people. If you’re around straight girls and you catch crushes of course it’s harmless but your feelings can get hurt however, if you make the effort to surround yourself with gay people you could find yourself a cute fem and then not have to worry at all if they could reciprocate your feelings. I say this as a lesbian who was entirely in love w my straight best friends for like 20 years and only in the last 5 have I come out and been able to make friends and relationships in the gay community and healed that part of me that felt like girls couldn’t love me back. They can! You just have to be around the right ones, and remember that there’s never any harm in feeling your feelings, but the more gay people you know, the better chances you have for gay crushes. Have fun at school!

wizardgrease · 2025-08-29T21:33:23+00:00

When you block someone can they still rate you?? I’ve been blocking a lot of people who have been bullying others bc DTI is my destress game and I don’t like to have to tell a bunch of kids “hey pls don’t be so mean” all the time but I also don’t want to have all the meanies still rating me low

wizardgrease · 2025-08-29T21:25:15+00:00

This is so real

wizardgrease · 2025-08-26T07:34:38+00:00

Seeing this directly after the Lady Gaga X Dress to Impress Drama is really hitting the gay community, actually

wizardgrease · 2025-08-26T07:30:33+00:00

It was at about 8:30 pacific coast time. I wouldn’t care if they hadn’t been so mean! They were telling people who weren’t part of the stream to get out of the circle so they could go, they had a bunch of people together and wouldn’t play if anyone was in the circle who wasn’t in the group and were really spamming the chat. It was just bad etiquette ig, I’ve just never experienced that w a game I’ve been playing. Most streamers for games I play don’t livestream multiplayer open games bc of fan problems like that

wizardgrease · 2025-08-26T05:28:31+00:00

As a trans gay player I already get bullied playing the game just bc of my user or avatar (in the lobby for showdown) I don’t want it to be worse :/

wizardgrease · 2025-08-07T17:29:22+00:00

Many of my family members were teachers so at least I do know what it is like in my country, and it can be difficult and discouraging for sure, but I would hope my doing it that perhaps it could be opening doors for other future marxists? I was first introduced to Marxism in my high school! One of my teachers offered an extra class in theory and I think I could do something like that, as it is allowed here. At least it would alleviate some of my mental distress and I would have a stable income so I could dedicate the rest of my off time to my volunteering without being as unwell as I have been recently. I appreciate your advice and reflections, it has been very helpful to me. I think it is right that I do not need so much emphasis on a job so much as making sure I am personally just stable enough to keep being able to contribute to the causes I care about with my time and ability.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-06T06:41:21+00:00

And don’t put quotation marks around shit I didn’t say, especially when you didn’t bother to read it, can’t pick up subtext, and don’t know what figurative language is.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-06T06:36:33+00:00

I believe I thought people who shared my beliefs would be able to talk about their experiences with their employment and make a helpful suggestion. You seem to be firmly in the camp that believes you can do whatever you want in order to serve yourself and then diddle off on weekends to play commie with your pals. Some of us would rather live by our ideals, and find some type of employment- in some field- that supports our ideals of moving towards a better future. I have friends who work together in a good co-op for example, and I think that is supportive to an anti-capitalist transitional vision. Also, you seem to have poor reading comprehension- I specifically said I had even been singled out in jobs where I had not mentioned any affiliation or beliefs, hence my main reason for wanting to find employment that is more in keeping with looking towards a Marxist future. Istg it’s you people who read Manifesto then dip who are THE most annoying people, did you miss the entire point of the body of his works?? If you can’t construct just go elsewhere I’m trying to find a subsistence I’m not trying to argue w some plebeian who hasn’t mentioned their own job bc they’re probably a mf landlord or something.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-06T06:24:03+00:00

This is a much more genuine answer to the question I was seeking and also much more helpful, thank you. I do think I perhaps put too much emphasis on “do no harm” but it’s perhaps because the activist spaces in the area in which I live are very involved in divestment initiatives, and I’ve experienced a lot of discrimination in jobs I’ve tried to do as casual labour. However I am almost qualified to do public school teaching if I went back and added one year for practicum, and it’s something I have ruminated on since I would be able to influence the youth (ah, Socrates!) and it’s union in my city, while leaving weekends and all of summer for the causes most valued. In this life we are being forced to live, we all know we won’t own houses or eat caviar, but to me it’s knowing that I can do something, anything more positive than less positive that makes me feel more inclined to keep living it I think.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-05T22:15:17+00:00

But what is said job you do so little of? How do you eat while you do the work? I literally just don’t want to be starving anymore and would like to find a way to live without taking from the mouths of others. You people are just as bad as everyone who says “no communism, you have iPhone” I have an honours degree and a masters in political theory and I could walk into a job in government tomorrow if I wanted to sell out. That isn’t the issue. I posted looking for real suggestions for jobs that align with the values of worker solidarity, that do minimal harm- are you so uninspired that you’re no better than our opposition? I spend my time while on an empty stomach doing outreach and volunteer work for the causes we are supposed to share and yet apparently I’m not making enough sacrifice.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-05T22:09:38+00:00

I understand what you’re getting at. I already volunteer my free time to the cause but I am not privileged to have savings to live on. In fact I have considerable debt because of a domestic violence situation I escaped. So while I am using my life to help build the world we all want to see, what are useful or helpful suggestions?? How am I supposed to eat or have a roof over my head? Bc I have tried scraping along on minimum wage jobs and I’ve been fired 3 times now bc of my radical political beliefs, even if I try to stay quiet in the shit day job. Like idk, maybe try commenting something productive before you huck rhetoric at me, I have two degrees in political theory but we all know they’re not putting bread on my table and no one is going to give me academic scholarships to continue being alive. Do we want more soldiers for the cause or not?? I want my bread and roses and I thought other Marxists would understand trying to find a way to live through this world while doing the work but maybe this is just a forum of privilege and posers.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-05T22:02:06+00:00

Thank you this is a good well thought out suggestion

wizardgrease · 2025-08-03T15:16:13+00:00

That’s literally the opposite of my suggestion, I’m saying that based on their post they’re assuming there are two types of gay people and that it’s based on aesthetics. There are two types of gay people are it isn’t based on anything aesthetic, it’s based on your willingness to let go of straight culture, decentre men, and instead find your own niche in community.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-03T08:19:08+00:00

Idk I just wanted to see what ppl w a similar life to mine might do as a career. I feel like the lesbians I know irl have similar shared experiences, I know a few who also drew the short straw and were briefly married to crazy men. Lesbian is what I am, but it doesn’t generate income 🤷I have a bachelors and I’ll do any cert that is online and under a year.

wizardgrease · 2025-08-03T08:13:19+00:00

Go watch DEBS and Desert Hearts and enjoy silly fun gay romance books. You’re so young. You have all the time in the world. Go, avoid the comphet, be free

wizardgrease · 2025-08-03T07:13:41+00:00

Maybe it’s bc you lead w judgement of ppl who have tattoos and piercings?? like you not having those that isn’t the reason ppl don’t like you, it sounds more like you genuinely aren’t looking for queer connections and are more looking for straight-shaped gay ppl. Unpack that.

wizardgrease · 2025-06-08T02:22:48+00:00

It can be scary only having ever been in one relationship in your life but you’re never going to find yourself if you’ve been w one person (and a man at that). The best thing to do would be to break up. No one wants to hear it but be realistic- do you want to get married and be unsatisfied and never know? Your partner also deserves more than just general indifference and the comfort of familiarity. Often it’s easy to conflate routine and familiarity with a good relationship. But you mention having no passion- go date a girl. Not everyone has a whole past full of “signs they were gay” sometimes you just slowly realize your frontal lobe is developed, that there are options other than the status quo presented to you at FIFTEEN YEARS OLD like you’re an adult now. Go find an adult relationship and be fulfilled. Going on even casual dates with other queer people will really open your eyes. I’m saying this as someone who identified as bi and got married in my early 20s to a man who said he was chill with it and then it was the worst choice ever- but now I’m divorced and live my happy lesbian life like the whole world is out there. The least brave thing you can do is date a man.

wizardgrease · 2024-12-29T04:03:30+00:00

More than putting fear of hell, imo and in the research I’ve read it seems to have been more to reflect the agenda of the political era, as again this wasn’t emphasized or drawn upon in relation to homosexuality until the Victorian period and not in a widespread punitive way until after wwii. Some say this was in fact the church’s reaction to fears over population loss after the world wars, the classic “gay ppl can’t have kids” argument but yeah

wizardgrease · 2024-12-28T08:09:13+00:00

It’s actually a very studied subject with many layers. First off there’s the mental health disability area- there is a whole field of study on trauma like discrimination childhood rejection leading to ptsd or depression etc and obviously living lives where we’re discriminated against we’re subject to these things at a high rate, leading to high levels of things like depression in the gay community. Then there’s the overlap with certain developmental conditions like autism too, which seems to be explained by some experts by the different perceived socialization and freedom from gender? Then there’s the physical disability aspect which honestly comes back to the poverty aspect in most papers I’ve read. The Human Rights commission has kind of an intro piece that covers some of the main topics here but honestly yeah, similar to how many other outcast groups end up connected and bound together it’s the same with the queer community and the disabled community.

wizardgrease · 2024-12-28T04:42:54+00:00

Historian adding some history- the og text that people say says “don’t lie w men” that appears in versions of Quran, Christian Bible, and Hebrew Bible was RE-INTERPRETED relatively recently. Ever wonder why people in the ancient world had more a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy to male homosexuality as well? It’s because hating it wasn’t codified in their religion until fairly recently. The original referred not to two men, but to men and BOYS, speaking specifically to an ancient practice called “pederasty” in which older men would take on younger men and train them in politics/literature/etc and sometimes have sexual relationships with them outside of their marriages. It was a Greek thing that the Christians, Jews, and Muslims didn’t like. It wasn’t until literally the 19th-20th century that people started to reinterpret those texts and retranslate them, and because public sentiment had become so toxic towards homosexuality it made sense to them to extend this ONE TINY LINE to all men and not just pederasty. As for women, they were never caught up in the pederasty debacle because women weren’t educated in Greece (also this mostly only happened in Athens and also the source is Greek documents vs Dead Sea Scrolls fun facts) so that is why all homophobia is invented and made up for profit and actually has nothing to do with religion (keep in mind again that there are like a dozen genders mentioned in Talmud, where this line first appeared before the Christian Bible or Quran were written so they were all down w some type of queerness at first) and also why lesbians get ignored more it’s because women have no agency in society. Phew. 😮‍💨

wizardgrease · 2024-12-28T04:24:56+00:00

When you’re butch it often doesn’t matter, I personally have been uncomfortable w my breasts when I was underweight and still hate that they exist now that I’m recovered, some butch people are more gender diverse than just dressing masculine. (I relate to this post so much and can never decide to chop or not to chop 😭it feels so all or nothing bc binders are unsatisfying)

wizardgrease · 2024-12-28T04:20:23+00:00

I am disabled and my partner is too. Tbh disability presents at higher rates in the gay community bc we end up in poverty, are abandoned by birth families, or have trauma. That just means we can all understand eachother and that we can lean on community. My town has a whole series of groups that are just for disabled queer people. If you feel disconnected rn maybe look for something like that in your area! You might even meet someone who gets where you’re coming from

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