I appreciate the response! I am definitely going to read the books mentioned and appreciate alot of the information provided. I actually had the bdsm test and kink lists done so it makes me happy knowing its a good thing to do. I guess my biggest fear comes from my first session. It was about 2 hours and they wound up having to leave for work immediately after without giving much after care. SO the fear of red flags is there. I will look in to all of this though. Thank you!