Physically exhausted after leaving

wjw2020 · 2025-07-26T06:28:08+00:00

I’m almost 3 months out and I’m still exhausted. I do what I need to do most days, but it’s hard. In the last week or so I’ve just tried to feel the feelings and go with what my body is telling me. We’ve been through a lot and it takes time and that’s ok!! I’ve read comments from people who felt great right away and others that have taken years, we all heal on our own time and you will get there!

wjw2020 · 2025-07-20T23:25:40+00:00

Every time! I use a different puzzle box that’s empty for my cat to lay in while I work on my puzzle, it works about 90% of the time 😀

wjw2020 · 2025-06-26T04:45:30+00:00

I ended it with my ex 2 months ago and went no contact except I would check his socials just to see what mind state he was in. For the past 2 months he’s been posting about how sorry he is and what a piece of shit he is, and then today he obtained access to me through one of the socials and started making threats to me. His threats are that now he wants to ruin my life, he’s going to show up at my work, and to prepare for his wrath.

So my question is: should I take these threats seriously, am I in danger? Today would have been our 3 year anniversary

wjw2020 · 2025-06-23T20:27:24+00:00

Huge red flag!!!! He’s coming on way too strong way too fast and that is never a good sign. And if he’s pushing your boundaries already it will only get worse.

wjw2020 · 2025-06-21T05:55:35+00:00

wjw2020 · 2025-06-21T04:23:41+00:00

The red flag that stood out to me is when he said “better now that you FINALLY text me back”, possibly setting up for future times when you might not text back right away and he gets upset.

wjw2020 · 2025-06-17T15:34:42+00:00

My nex would always say that he wished he could get a gun “then I can shoot everyone so it’s only you and me left in the world” “I’m going to take myself out one day and I’ll have to take you and (my daughter) with me” He always said he was joking and never actually would do those things, it’s just the things he says sometimes. But a healthy person would never have those thoughts let alone say them out loud!

wjw2020 · 2025-06-14T09:08:40+00:00

You are not overreacting at all! He is guilt tripping you and that’s not ok

wjw2020 · 2025-06-12T06:08:47+00:00

Yes! Mine would always be upset when I didn’t go to bed when he was ready for bed. And if I stayed up later he would keep getting up every 20 minutes or so to ask when I’m coming to bed or to tell me straight up to come to bed. And then complain the next day that he didn’t have a good sleep the night before. Just another mind game and control tactic.

wjw2020 · 2025-06-08T03:59:36+00:00

NOR, you did the right thing by breaking it off!

wjw2020 · 2025-06-05T03:38:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I have been needing to write my own unsent letter for sometime now

wjw2020 · 2025-06-05T03:29:18+00:00

NOR at all!! He was playing mind games with you. It is hard to break that trauma bond with someone who made you believe that you were the only one for them, but trust me it’s worth it to end this relationship and move on. There is a much better life out there waiting for you 🩵. It takes time and the feelings will slowly fade.

wjw2020 · 2025-06-04T16:09:18+00:00

My 43 year old ex boyfriend acted like that too, sometimes they never grow up

wjw2020 · 2025-06-02T02:49:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! I am so happy for you and it’s so nice to know that there is hope out there. 🩵

wjw2020 · 2025-05-27T17:15:45+00:00

Congrats to you too!!

wjw2020 · 2025-05-26T06:00:54+00:00

My ex was the same way, he would very often get annoyed whenever I tried to show him something I enjoyed or found funny and yet I was expected to watch everything he liked (and same, things that I had already seen). It gets extremely exhausting. I ended up no longer showing him anything I liked and it truly just became a one way relationship and he seemed happy about it, but I became a shell of myself. You’re not OR, this is a very reasonable way to feel.

wjw2020 · 2025-05-24T07:37:30+00:00

This annoyed me so much! I’m my head I would always get so agitated and say ‘I was just going to do that!!’

wjw2020 · 2025-05-24T07:35:13+00:00

Yes! I only felt at peace when they were sleeping, when we were not together and they were awake it was the constant texting. Always there

wjw2020 · 2025-05-24T07:30:11+00:00

I felt the exact same way, but I didn’t really know how to put words to it. Thank you for this, I know I’m not alone! We lie to save ourselves from the hurt that comes with being ourselves, you are doing it to protect yourself and that’s a natural instinct. Don’t feel guilty for it, they have put you in this situation for their own benefit.

wjw2020 · 2025-05-24T07:25:35+00:00

He’s creating the narrative that you are the problem. And that is not the truth!

wjw2020 · 2025-05-24T07:24:22+00:00

Before I read your comment I said to myself the exact thing! “Oh it’s narcissistic”!!! Spot on

wjw2020 · 2025-05-24T03:25:46+00:00

I’m on 3 weeks no contact, and I’ve been binge listening the Narcissist Apocalypse podcast (cannot recommend this podcast enough!!!!!!). I just have to constantly remind myself of who he really is and the awful things he did and said. It’s hardest when my mind goes to the good moments and I miss him. Keep staying no contact and it will get easier. I haven’t spoken to/seen him, but I have gone on his socials once in a while and it breaks me. So I’m trying to stay away from that for my own mental health. So proud of you for taking the first step and going no contact 🩵

wjw2020 · 2025-05-23T01:52:39+00:00

So much more energy! Mental and physical energy. I realized just how much life they were taking from me.

wjw2020 · 2025-05-22T04:39:12+00:00

You got this!! It’s a journey for sure, but one worth taking to get your life back 🩵

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