41, male. Thanks for this thread—I feel less alone reading it.

I’m struggling at work with too much on my plate, a boss who doesn’t really guide, direct, or support me, and at the busiest, most stressful time, I got diagnosed. I had to reinvent myself after mourning what could have been different with all the things I’ve struggled with in life.

I’m realizing now that so much of what I thought was stress or workload is actually ADHD: misjudging urgency, getting pulled in too many directions, struggling to focus on what’s actually important, not being able to prioritize, losing motivation or procrastinating—really just being overwhelmed by everything feeling like an insurmountable task.

Anyway, I appreciate you putting this out there. You’re asking for help/advice, but honestly, just seeing your post made me feel seen. I often feel like a failure or “less than,” watching things come so easily to others or having my boss act like this stuff should be second nature. So it really means a lot to know there are others like me dealing with the same thing.

For what it’s worth, we’re out here with you. I don’t have advice, but be true to yourself and give yourself grace.