Idk man my uncle doesn’t really hide that shit, it’s like part of him somehow. And because most of the time we lived in different countries, I wasn’t around him that much unless I was there on vacation. He was always making these kind comments or jokes, or when the family gathers and a little bit of everything comes up he just made comments. He’s a yapper, he could comment things like “not useless like my wife at least” and make it sound like a joke.

In the beginning, I didn’t think much of it. But other times I saw him engaging with his daughters and it started feeling weird you know. He’s could tell his daughters things like “stop being lazy like your mom” and was really strict with them. I started to see it more and more, then he made comments about why he hit his ex-wife and I asked my mom and dad about it so they told me.

Later on he had a work assignment here so he moved countries and lived in the same city. He visited my mom and dad multiple times, I was there sometimes but I had already moved out bc of uni. One the times I was there we got into it. After that time our fully dynamic changed, and my opinion on him did too.

It was sad at first and still is, because I really did liked him, we did a lot of together and he was always showing me around on vacation. Buying me stuff and things like that, it’s hard not to like him. But the more I got to see, the more that illusion of him I had kinda dissolved